Thank you all who answered !!

I also wanted to know

If someone says they are saved, they have accepted Jesus Christ into their hearts, they are years into a walk with Jesus ( by vocabulary only, nothing to show in life), do you witness to them ? If you feel like they are not saved, if you don't see the fruit of Christ, if they are only Christian in their mouth and not in action, do you witness to them as if they were unsaved ?

My father was a pastor for my entire growing up. My mom was a pastors wife. I was at the church 15 hrs every day (slight eexaggeration, but not by much)

My father has no fruit....... my mother has insane vanity
Their kids are addicted to heroin, had abortions, dui's , children out of wed lock, divorces, family fueds, etc...
My sister and I were the oldest. We we also adopted, and from a horrific environment, but she and I don't have that wild streak like the rest of the kids....... we try to wrap our minds around the whole thing and cant.

We are not sure how to approach them
Many of you said to stay away and pray. Is this a job for an outside person, a different witness? Are we too close to it ?