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Larry D. Croc User ID: 1297609 United States 01/04/2017 11:30 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | You're away from him, keep it that way. You've learned a lesson, value it, and apply it. "Socialism only works in two places: Heaven where they don't need it and hell, where they already have it." Ronald Reagan The trouble with our liberal friends is not that they're ignorant; it's just that they know so much that isn't so." Ronald Reagan |
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BloodyMary User ID: 73724047 United Kingdom 01/04/2017 11:54 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | yep. reversed the game did everything to him that he did to me and then said its over. bye-bye. Quoting: seer They can't handle the mirror. Exactly what I did. Well said seer. ( I still love and miss him though )....I know I did the right thing walking away but it hurts. They fuck you up, your mum and dad. They may not mean to, but they do. They fill you with the faults they had And add some extra, just for you. But they were fucked up in their turn By fools in old-style hats and coats, Who half the time were soppy-stern And half at one another’s throats. Man hands on misery to man. It deepens like a coastal shelf. Get out as early as you can, And don’t have any kids yourself. Philip Larkin. |
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Anonymous Coward (OP) User ID: 72411634 Bulgaria 01/04/2017 11:55 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I already did. For 15 years. But I'd love to see his face when I request he lends me his car. Hahahaha I noticed he was an N when he got mad that I was talking about another person, saying what a wonderful house they have. Like WTF, he wanted me to badmouth everybody esle and only say good things about him. Typical Narc. |
Anonymous Coward (OP) User ID: 72411634 Bulgaria 01/04/2017 11:58 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Yeah, Narcs no longer stick to me for long as I keep them at a distance these days, but it seems that many people show N tendencies in my life. For example I'm the only one in my apartment that cleans it, all my other room mates ditch cleaning the place. I feel like being taken advantage of so I'm no longer cleaning anything. I just wish I will find cool and confident, but not Narc people in my life before I become a hermit. |
BloodyMary User ID: 73724047 United Kingdom 01/04/2017 12:00 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I already did. For 15 years. But I'd love to see his face when I request he lends me his car. Hahahaha I noticed he was an N when he got mad that I was talking about another person, saying what a wonderful house they have. Like WTF, he wanted me to badmouth everybody esle and only say good things about him. Typical Narc. 15 years.....lol............I only managed to turn the tables for ten years. He had had the upper hand all the years before before that. Then, in 2006, I took a step back and played him at his own game for the next 10 years. It still hurts. I promised to love and cherish him until the day I died....and I will. I just can't have any contact with him now or he'll drag me back into his control. They fuck you up, your mum and dad. They may not mean to, but they do. They fill you with the faults they had And add some extra, just for you. But they were fucked up in their turn By fools in old-style hats and coats, Who half the time were soppy-stern And half at one another’s throats. Man hands on misery to man. It deepens like a coastal shelf. Get out as early as you can, And don’t have any kids yourself. Philip Larkin. |
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BloodyMary User ID: 73724047 United Kingdom 01/04/2017 12:17 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I already did. For 15 years. But I'd love to see his face when I request he lends me his car. Hahahaha I noticed he was an N when he got mad that I was talking about another person, saying what a wonderful house they have. Like WTF, he wanted me to badmouth everybody esle and only say good things about him. Typical Narc. 15 years.....lol............I only managed to turn the tables for ten years. He had had the upper hand all the years before before that. Then, in 2006, I took a step back and played him at his own game for the next 10 years. It still hurts. I promised to love and cherish him until the day I died....and I will. I just can't have any contact with him now or he'll drag me back into his control. I will never get over this/him. I know he's a narcissist but, without a doubt, a sociopath. I find it a really hard realisation that the love of my life, our whole relationship, was just a game to him. He could tell me he he loved me, but be planning how to engineer the next 'fight'. Over the years, every time he 'hooked up' with someone on fuckbook or anywhere he would get really moody, really nasty, until he goaded me into an argument. He loved it when I shouted 'FUCK OFF'...................In his mind I had told to him to fuck off so he was justified in doing just that. I confronted him sevaral times on what he was doing, and how he manipulated me into arguments. He just smirked. Still hurts though because he is the man I love. They fuck you up, your mum and dad. They may not mean to, but they do. They fill you with the faults they had And add some extra, just for you. But they were fucked up in their turn By fools in old-style hats and coats, Who half the time were soppy-stern And half at one another’s throats. Man hands on misery to man. It deepens like a coastal shelf. Get out as early as you can, And don’t have any kids yourself. Philip Larkin. |
Anonymous Coward (OP) User ID: 72411634 Bulgaria 01/04/2017 12:18 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Well, in my situation avoiding him was easier, I mean I'm a guy and straight so I just ditched him. I've never been in a relationship with an N as I avoid/ignore Ns right from the start now. The problem is, I'm turning into a hermit as somehow I attract mostly NPD people and non-Ns ignore/avoid me. Therefore, recently I'm having strong nostalgia for my childhood/teen years so I wanted to reconnect with him. I secretly wished that we could be best friends again, but people say Ns never change. |
Anonymous Coward (OP) User ID: 72411634 Bulgaria 01/04/2017 12:20 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Not possible. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 72582218 They will destroy you, themselves, or BOTH of you before they will admit loss or defeat. So I just stay friendless forever? I made a couple of friends abroad but I feel no strong connection. I feel bored with them and they're more like friendly acquantances, I'm always the one that contacts them, etc. I really miss my childhood. |
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Anonymous Coward (OP) User ID: 72411634 Bulgaria 01/04/2017 12:22 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Yes, in 2001-2002 I just moved to another school and I didn't even call him to say I'm moving. It was over. No phone calls, no letters (I had no Internet back then lol), no nothing. Haven't seen him since then, but I miss that times. I mostly miss myself though, the funny and bubble person I was. I thought reconnecting with him will bring back my old self, but I guess he's most likely still the same toxic and negative person. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 73725632 United Kingdom 01/04/2017 12:24 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | yep. reversed the game did everything to him that he did to me and then said its over. bye-bye. Quoting: seer They can't handle the mirror. Are you kidding? We narcissists are absolutely obsessed with our appearance in the mirror, and constantly look for new ways to improve our appearance and sex appeal. If I can't look at myself in the mirror, then I lose my shit. I utterly adore myself in ways I can't describe. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 7316406 United Kingdom 01/04/2017 12:25 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I already did. For 15 years. But I'd love to see his face when I request he lends me his car. Hahahaha I noticed he was an N when he got mad that I was talking about another person, saying what a wonderful house they have. Like WTF, he wanted me to badmouth everybody esle and only say good things about him. Typical Narc. 15 years.....lol............I only managed to turn the tables for ten years. He had had the upper hand all the years before before that. Then, in 2006, I took a step back and played him at his own game for the next 10 years. It still hurts. I promised to love and cherish him until the day I died....and I will. I just can't have any contact with him now or he'll drag me back into his control. I will never get over this/him. I know he's a narcissist but, without a doubt, a sociopath. I find it a really hard realisation that the love of my life, our whole relationship, was just a game to him. He could tell me he he loved me, but be planning how to engineer the next 'fight'. Over the years, every time he 'hooked up' with someone on fuckbook or anywhere he would get really moody, really nasty, until he goaded me into an argument. He loved it when I shouted 'FUCK OFF'...................In his mind I had told to him to fuck off so he was justified in doing just that. I confronted him sevaral times on what he was doing, and how he manipulated me into arguments. He just smirked. Still hurts though because he is the man I love. I hear ya. He'd always cause a fight because he knew that I'd react. That just gave him the excuse to go and do whatever the hell he wanted. But it was always me making a fuss over nothing in his eyes. I've tried to make it wotk with him for 2 years. But now it's affecting the relationship with my daughters. Basically, they can't stand him after what he's put me through mentally. I'm not losing my kids over someone that treats me like a slave, has no respect for me, lies to me, and makes me feel like this. Doubt me ever dating a Taurus again. |
Anonymous Coward (OP) User ID: 72411634 Bulgaria 01/04/2017 12:27 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Can you believe he got mad when I commented that a fellow classmate had a nice house? I could understand if he got mad because I talked bad about someone, but I guess he wanted me to badmouth third parties like he did (and he had the nerve to blame me for that!) and only say nice things about him. He would also say that me and our other friend are his "right and left hands" and he's the boss. A true N right there. |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 7316406 United Kingdom 01/04/2017 12:32 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | yep. reversed the game did everything to him that he did to me and then said its over. bye-bye. Quoting: seer They can't handle the mirror. Are you kidding? We narcissists are absolutely obsessed with our appearance in the mirror, and constantly look for new ways to improve our appearance and sex appeal. If I can't look at myself in the mirror, then I lose my shit. I utterly adore myself in ways I can't describe. Youve just described my ex. Posing constantly, always has to own a conversation, loves to hear himself. Eyeing up women (even when i've been there) flirting constantly. He's 54, has grey white hair but was speaking of dying it black. Also buying new teeth so that he can give out the smiles with the wink. Even compared himself to being a Gigolo. Yes a definite narcissist. |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 18474545 Canada 01/04/2017 12:40 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I already did. For 15 years. But I'd love to see his face when I request he lends me his car. Hahahaha I noticed he was an N when he got mad that I was talking about another person, saying what a wonderful house they have. Like WTF, he wanted me to badmouth everybody esle and only say good things about him. Typical Narc. 15 years.....lol............I only managed to turn the tables for ten years. He had had the upper hand all the years before before that. Then, in 2006, I took a step back and played him at his own game for the next 10 years. It still hurts. I promised to love and cherish him until the day I died....and I will. I just can't have any contact with him now or he'll drag me back into his control. I will never get over this/him. I know he's a narcissist but, without a doubt, a sociopath. I find it a really hard realisation that the love of my life, our whole relationship, was just a game to him. He could tell me he he loved me, but be planning how to engineer the next 'fight'. Over the years, every time he 'hooked up' with someone on fuckbook or anywhere he would get really moody, really nasty, until he goaded me into an argument. He loved it when I shouted 'FUCK OFF'...................In his mind I had told to him to fuck off so he was justified in doing just that. I confronted him sevaral times on what he was doing, and how he manipulated me into arguments. He just smirked. Still hurts though because he is the man I love. I'm sorry that you had to deal with this. I lived with the love of my life for 10 years, 10 years of hell. He finally left,part of him knew he would destroy me if he didn't,they are not without moments of clarity. He has continued to help me and our daughter financially and we go hang out at his place a couple times a week. I am born again Christian and have truly forgiven him for the failure of our relationship he caused with his behavior. He lives very rough,by his own choice but I think he has found some peace living in the woods. I will always love him and he is the only person at this point that I know I can count on, strange. They truly cannot help how they are, they were damaged as children and this damage cannot be undone. I have shed far more tears for him than I ever did for myself. |
5d WhiteLight User ID: 73040417 United States 01/04/2017 01:11 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I already did. For 15 years. But I'd love to see his face when I request he lends me his car. Hahahaha I noticed he was an N when he got mad that I was talking about another person, saying what a wonderful house they have. Like WTF, he wanted me to badmouth everybody esle and only say good things about him. Typical Narc. 15 years.....lol............I only managed to turn the tables for ten years. He had had the upper hand all the years before before that. Then, in 2006, I took a step back and played him at his own game for the next 10 years. It still hurts. I promised to love and cherish him until the day I died....and I will. I just can't have any contact with him now or he'll drag me back into his control. Boy this sounds like my experience.. the "player" will only become "less" narcissistic if it benefits them in some way. (not to be confused with manipulation). I ended up caving to a betrayal when I was away for 3 days at my daughters college graduation. When I got home I lost it. He gave away every piece of memorabilia from my past (before him) a big time return to me me me. This is after two years of losing both my parents getting an inheritance and sinking it all into our "home". Now I know it was really classic bait and switch. Man this hurt. Not enough money from the sale of the house to do much of anything.. the only thing left from his purge. So the grief is real.. even though.. I am better off without this.. in spades..I have continued to answer text and talking ever so often.. which I know I will have to stop at some point in order to really get over this. And I am a wreck.. the only solace is that I am now doing everything for myself. And can move on with my own life. Of course he kept insulting me with YOU are a narcissist.. and of course I am NOT. But his behavior was always narcissistic by definition. Classic behavior, classically will never change. Just like projection and manipulation.. if one doesn't work they just switch tactics. I also think Jealousy comes in as my parents death and everything that had to do with that went pretty well.. when his parents died .. it was a nightmare.. I was there for him.. but his way of treating me was doubling down on control. I am a Child of God |
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