When do you know your marriage is done?

Delight thyself also in the LORD; and he shall give thee the desires of thine heart. Psalms 37:4

Read your Bible, draw closer to the Lord.

I hear what you're saying...but I don't think you're giving him enough credit for providing.

Making enough money to support a wife & kids can be an unbelievable about of stress and work!

Have you ever considered spending time together by having a "him night"?

If he comes home tired and mentally fried, you could have a movie ready for him to veg-out to...serve him dinner in front of the TV and massage his head.

You could tell him how much you appreciate him (you'd be surprised how far that can go).

A marriage is supposed to be a partnership.

Are you both pulling in the same direction? Aiming for the same goals?

I'm sorry. Was he like this when you met?

you need to fukkin GROW UP and show a little APPRECIATION for a man breakin his to support everybody.
tell me something, do you piss and man the minute he walks in OR is dinner waiting etc ?
you need to grow up.

I think we are. We have the same financial goals if that's what you mean. All of the super serious stuff, our ideals fall in line with one another.

He is also one of those "I do everything on my own" types. Like, it's very uncommon for him to ask me to do something for him. He rarely asks me to serve him, if that makes sense. When he does, I do it in two seconds. I he asks me for a drink, for instance, I will go and get it for him.

In the first ten years of your marriage, how many times did he ask for a date night and you said 'no'? Sometimes a man stops asking when the failure rate gets to a certain point. Might be why you always have to say it.

If he isn't cheating I wouldn't throw him over for being hard-working.

All I read was..Me me ME!!!!!

He's not cheating.

I can not complain about money really, it's just the connectivity. I don't know.

I take care of the kids and the house and at the end of the day, I look forward to spending time with him.

It's Friday night and he is in bed. And this is quite common.

It makes me sad and realize why some decide to quit on their spouse and seek out someone else, honestly.

This road can be damn lonely.

when you look forward to a night by yourself so you can masturbate in peace.


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I appreciate your honesty. I truthfully need to hear that.

What kind of work does he do, and what are his hours?

No!

Don't give up!

Keep going! Like Churchill said: "When you find yourself in hell...keep going!"

Remember...you made *vows*! Honor your vows!

For better or worse...honor your vows!

Best advise I can give is to get TIGHT with Jesus and trust Him! NOBODY that has fully surrendered to His Lordship has EVER been disappointed with their decision to follow Him...EVER!

God Is!

my brother did the same. he changed from happy-go-lucky
to deadly serious provider and his priorities were
quite clear to me:

1) Kids
2) Job
3) Wife

and I wondered about it but after a few years it
made more sense to me.

No. But that was before kids and a 30 yr career where there is more pressure and responsibility.

I'm seriously seeking advice because I need it.

Usually I get that feeling it's falling apart at the reception.

And how did your brother turn out???

fyi, he's been married 31 years now,
his kids moved out several years ago,
and he and his wife had trouble readjusting
for several years, reshift in priorities and time, etc.

....as soon as you say "I Do".

He's a manager at the top level he can get.

His hours are 7-5 or 6 or 7 plus dinners if there are visitors, etc.

When your wife kills you.

he and his wife seem okay now,
he was unemployed for several years and
they spent a great deal of time together,
he made a huge pile of money
but he went back to work a few years ago,
but he has lots of time now,
not a workaholic anymore,
close to retiring.

When the love is completely gone!

Did your brother make it though? His marriage anyway??

You're SELFISH.
My Ex. Was like you. She ( accidentally got pregnant twice, before we were financially stable. Hell we didn't even own a bed, couch or T.V yet.)
So I started working my ass off, (3 jobs)..paying for her masters degree, internship, childcare,medical bills, bank fees from bounced checks she wrote,her past student loans, rent, insurance food
As well as trying to build a nest egg.
She complained like you do, then left me, took a job 4 states away and divorced me..(After she finished her Masters degree and became employable of course.)
I would try to explain to her, that I was climbing a career ladder while the kids were babies, so we could coast more when they would be old enough to go do fun things with us as a family.
Her spending made it impossible to ever get that nest egg gathered up...until she left.
Even paying Child support. I was able to build a good business and do well.
She remarried within a year. (I feel sorry for that poor bastard)

Marriage

You sound like my girlfriend OP. I keep her at arms length most of the time. She wants to move in with me and marry but I roll my eyes to that nonsense. She came over last night after I told her I didn't want company. She essentially forced her way in by ringing the doorbell nonstop at midnight. Needless to say we ended up fucking. We fell asleep together and she gave me the greatest blowjob when we woke up this morning. I threw her out around 9 am and went to work.

Men are GOAL oriented and need to keep conquering them while women are PEOPLE oriented and value relationships over goals. Thats life so get over it and just settle down to the dreary drudgery of peasant life LIKE ALL COUPLES HAVE TO DO. Dont be fooled into thinking that its all fun and games, that is only in the beginning.

The truth is, when the love is gone, it's over.

Then again, when you thin it's over, it is never over.

I sincerely appreciate your honesty. If I'm being a bitch, I want to hear that. Thanks.