Did you drink it up and smoke it up when you first met but were just trying to get her to hang with you but weren't really into weed and/or drinking? Then once you got her you start slowly criticizing her smoking and drinking? Dudes have been known to do this in many areas. Pretending they are what they are not to get a woman then switching up and blaming the woman. Whether it's drinking, smoking, viagra, hanging at places they hate, then switching it up like it's the females problem.