silent treatment or timeout...

Sometimes I feel like I am as well, what role are you playing? still uncertain of mine or if I have one.

until it is permanent

I traded my lead role in a cage,
for a walk on part in the war


yep, pretty much sums it up

and when that happens...

I know I'll stay alive, I've got all my life to live and I've got all my love to give and I'll survive, I will survive

No cage here, but I do feel on display at times. Seems ruff giving up a lead role for grunt work though, how do you like it so far? I can respect fighting the war, as I'm kind of a solder myself. Not a lot of glamor or glory, but hard work seldom is, is it?

I perfere grunt work over being controlled and locked away in a cage, however the transition was rather hellish, but that too was a learning experience and always look for a positive within the negative

Oh they are not blue.They are dark and a bit on the cruel side.

And I am hooked on him.

He fucking better, if He knows what's good for him.

So the Holy Spirit is isobutyl nitrite...?

Sorry about your difficult experience, you sound like a strong person.

I don't do well with confinement either, I need freedom or I would go crazy and well someone trying to control me wouldn't go over well with my punk like attitude, sounds like it's similar for you.

Why where they trying to control you? Do you have something they want, other then you?

That's a really good attitude to take seeing life as a learning experience and trying to find the positive. I try to take a similar approach with life, but it's not always the easiest task is it?

no need to apologize, it had to happen as it did, sometimes you have to be broken in order to break free and looking back I can see now what I couldn't then, I totally get it...

however, I don't really get the controlling part, he said that he wanted me all to himself and I believe it goes back to him being insecure about himself, which I'm insecure as hell too, but I don't try to control others, I mean I have a hard enough time controlling myself lol


not being bitter, resentful or carrying hate in my heart, after all that's happened, is something I'm really proud of because it's so easy to say fuck it and let it consume you

That's awesome your are taking charge and control of your life, sometimes others try to control people because they lack control of themselves.

It's a great attitude to have finding good where you can, inspiring to say the least. And you don't sound insecure and actually seem pretty confident to me, is that from taking back control?

lol I know what you mean about controlling yourself, it's a life long task with it's ups and downs. You seem to have a firm grasp of control now, but it can also be nice to let go and have a little fun every once and a while.

it doesn't have to do much with control or taking it back, I had to discover myself and along the way I realized that if someone goes out of their way to fuck with you, they aren't doing it because your stupid or not worth a shit...you either a threat or you have something they want or noncompliance with an authoritarian personality, it's not all for nothing

Blow it out your ass where it belongs Time bandit.

oh dear, what ever shall I do

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it's what we've become

I understand what you're saying but I still feel the larger part of the issue lays in the one trying to control and not the one being controlled. But I absolutely believe you are right that difficult situations are an opportunity to understand yourself in order to better yourself. As it will often force you to confront the emotions you would normally try to avoid, but it still doesn't make it right if it's forced upon you.

if I hadn't been confronted and forced to deal with those emotions, I'd still be in that same toxic relationship, more than likely or the situation could be way worse than what it was...

I'm happy you got out, it sounds like it was a difficult. Truthfully it's kind of something I fear myself, as I could see getting too invested into someone and trying to make it work even though I know deep down it won't

and throw a couple kids in the mix, whole different ball game...

I have no desire to vest in anyone else because people aren't genuine anymore, if someone can't be honest with themselves, they sure shit ain't gonna be honest with me lol

That's so true, honesty starts with yourself. Sadly I came to a similar conclusion of not heavily investing in my relationships sometime ago, but recently had a change of heart after some soul searching. You can get by on your own and be happy, but having the right person there for you makes life more enjoyable. And there are some of us men out there that try to be honest with ourselves and the people around us, I hope you don't give up completely on us even if I can understand you wanting time to heal.

I have been dealing with an asshole who knew everything about my situation, only for him to turn around and use what I had told him to fuck with me, purposely trying to trigger my anxiety, he knew I hated having my reality questioned(gaslighting) he'd do stupid things like go into my bathroom and change the setting on the shower head, why, because he knew I would catch it and come to him about, denying of course and any attention is good attention, right and do you know what I did to stop the shit, I took the shower head off and took the bitch with me...

they say you attract what you are and I call bullshit because I'm not an evil manipulative piece of shit that lies and takes advantage of people, certain a narcissist coined that phrase lol


I haven't gave up yet, but I'm not holding my breath for captain sav-a-hoe to appear

hell hath no fury like a narcissistic rage, oh the stories I can tell and thats why I laugh at all this hillary/trump/russia bs because it's product of narcissism, smear campaign, gaslighting, deflection/projection,
etc it's psychological manipulation and it's the same thing done to me and I can see all of it, who'd thunk it lol

It's just random hints, obscure things not specifically targeted or not even sophisticated, that are posted here to affect the phycology of people.

if I can spot it in politics, imagine my everyday life, my friends and family that I know on a personal level, let's just say that I don't associated myself with many and it sucks to keep discovering people are shitty, but on the flipside it has helped me learn to forgive and let go a lot easier because when you know what they're doing and they know you know what they're doing and they still do it, I've realized that they can't help it and ultimately I find myself feeling sympathetic towards them...sympathy for the devil smh lol

3 deleted threads and banned from 11 different IP addresses, without an obscure hint given...hard to believe that not even specifically targeted part

I get it and it's cool, just disappointed

That must of been extremely difficult having someone you trusted using what they know against you, I'm not sure I would've handled it as well. I took a little different approach with my stalking fan club, the approach was a bit passive as I ignored almost all of it but it turned out a little comical. Not to say there wasn't difficult times, but the actors seemed a little to scripted and play to simple.


I would call BS too, sometimes I almost think it's the opposite. But that's not to say you can attract someone similar it just may take a few tries.

I certainly hope you don't give up and you never know sometimes the person you seek is closer then you think.