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Pilgrim001 User ID: 77021014 United States 11/02/2018 02:00 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Go to walmart and walk around looking at the people. What you will see is Humanity. You're just another human and there are about 6 billion of us here on this planet. Last Edited by Bennder on 11/02/2018 11:59 PM I don't have the time or the crayons to explain this to you. Slake Blake |
TlvmmCpoft User ID: 77078461 Italy 11/02/2018 02:08 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | People aren't looking at you and examining you like you might they are. Most of them don't give a shit. Quoting: Pilgrim001 Go to walmart and walk around looking at the people. What you will see is Humanity. You're just another human and there are about 6 billion of us here on this planet. It's flu season. If they go to Walmart they're going to catch the flu. Oh great, this thread had turned me into a hypochondriac. I don't know what lies they told you, but I can promise they were lies. There's a fine line between training, trauma, and torture. |
stillhere User ID: 72031485 United States 11/02/2018 02:15 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | We all have a different combination of D N A snps, for instance most know that there is a genetic factor contributing to addiction. Look up pyluria, genetically some are short on b6 and zinc. P5p is the bio active form of b6, the main symption of pyluria is anxiety. People have great success just taking b6 and zinc daily. Also look into avoiding oxalates, salicylates and histamines in your food. Hope you are not a vegan, that diet makes it hard to get some of the bio available nutrition you need. "You can bend it and twist it... You can misuse and abuse it... But even God cannot change the Truth.” Michael Levy |
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Gr8skott User ID: 75960888 United States 11/02/2018 12:29 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Ponder the fact that you don’t have much control over what other people think of you or how they judge you by your appearance. No matter how good you look, someone will perceive you to be unfashionable, unkempt, ugly, or unattractive. No matter how kind you are, someone will believe it is under false pretenses. Most people are extremely caught up in worrying about what others think of them. Their misjudgment of you reflects their character. In conclusion, it’s a waste of energy to worry about people’s reaction to you and your social interactions since there’s not much you can do about it anyway. . move zig |
911 deception2012inception85 (OP) User ID: 61200964 United States 11/02/2018 12:32 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Ponder the fact that you don’t have much control over what other people think of you or how they judge you by your appearance. No matter how good you look, someone will perceive you to be unfashionable, unkempt, ugly, or unattractive. No matter how kind you are, someone will believe it is under false pretenses. Most people are extremely caught up in worrying about what others think of them. Their misjudgment of you reflects their character. In conclusion, it’s a waste of energy to worry about people’s reaction to you and your social interactions since there’s not much you can do about it anyway. . True thanks Lisa, if you don't like your job you don't strike. You just go in every day and do it really half-assed. That's the American way. Television! Teacher, mother, secret lover. |
911 deception2012inception85 (OP) User ID: 61200964 United States 11/02/2018 12:34 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Ponder the fact that you don’t have much control over what other people think of you or how they judge you by your appearance. No matter how good you look, someone will perceive you to be unfashionable, unkempt, ugly, or unattractive. No matter how kind you are, someone will believe it is under false pretenses. Most people are extremely caught up in worrying about what others think of them. Their misjudgment of you reflects their character. In conclusion, it’s a waste of energy to worry about people’s reaction to you and your social interactions since there’s not much you can do about it anyway. . True thanks Lisa, if you don't like your job you don't strike. You just go in every day and do it really half-assed. That's the American way. Television! Teacher, mother, secret lover. |
911 deception2012inception85 (OP) User ID: 61200964 United States 11/02/2018 12:35 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Ponder the fact that you don’t have much control over what other people think of you or how they judge you by your appearance. No matter how good you look, someone will perceive you to be unfashionable, unkempt, ugly, or unattractive. No matter how kind you are, someone will believe it is under false pretenses. Most people are extremely caught up in worrying about what others think of them. Their misjudgment of you reflects their character. In conclusion, it’s a waste of energy to worry about people’s reaction to you and your social interactions since there’s not much you can do about it anyway. . True thanks I know people will say suck it up now how but this suit is real and I know I'm not alone Lisa, if you don't like your job you don't strike. You just go in every day and do it really half-assed. That's the American way. Television! Teacher, mother, secret lover. |
Nobuddy User ID: 61473254 Canada 11/02/2018 12:38 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | A friend of ours had really bad social anxiety.. we got him really blasted one night & dropped him off in the mall parking-lot in his underwear with half a bottle of rum. He came home three days later a with a big-grin & a whole new perspective on things.. just sayin. Don't sweat the little things.. . Nobuddy |
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D12345 User ID: 76702564 United States 11/02/2018 12:57 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I used to have horrible social anxiety. Like, I wouldn’t ask for ketchup at the counter at McDonald’s. I could order, but not go outside of the script to ask for extras. I’ve gotten over it almost completely to the tune of doing public speaking events on purpose! It was a long hard process, but definitely worth it. Here’s a few things that helped me. St. John’s wort and Xanax. I don’t take Xanax anymore. I use natural herbs instead. Jumping through the hoops to maintain a Xanax prescription was too anxiety producing. I did it for a long time, but I’ve since been able to manage it with yoga, valerian, and/it ashwaghanda. Cbd oil is good too. Be sure to make sure you don’t have any drug interactions with anything herbal. Found out the hard way that melatonin and St. John’s wort is not a good mix. While I was on Xanax, I pushed myself very hard to do the things that were hard. They were still hard. I inundated myself as much as I could and then spent a lot of time sleeping to recover. I lived in intense fear and anxiety for a couple years alternating between pushing myself hard, then recovering. The good news with this is that it’s a progression. Some things got easier after having done them for a few weeks, so then I pushed myself to take the next step. Toastmasters is a good way to do this. But I would say that it depends on your goals. Everything is easier once you master public speaking though. Realizing that my fears were unfounded. Most people aren’t as judgmental as you think. Most people are busy worrying about their own crap. And if you happen to run into a jerk that’s judgemetal or you hear them talking behind your back, screw em. The people like that are the people whose opinions don’t matter anyway. Be a business owner. If you have any way to be self employed, take it. Being able to set your own guidelines for how you’ll be treated is way way way better than having a boss up your ass telling you what you must put up with or how you must act. Being able to take time to build yourself up for something hard. Being able to take a day off on a whim just because you’re overwhelmed with something. Associating with other business owners who have a positive outlook on life and are generally excited instead of being surrounded by people who drudge through their days and hate everything is helpful too. The real world isn’t like the internet. Most people are kind. The ones that aren’t are usually protecting themselves from their own anxiety. |
diverdan01 User ID: 39516942 United States 11/02/2018 01:04 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | well..first eliminate tobacco, coffee and excessive alcohol. Then drink tons of water and start working out..You don't have to get buff right away..just fit. It works wonders for how you'feel' in public. Finally, stop giving a fuck what people think. If you feel good about yourself, it doesn't matter much what others think. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 52268015 United States 11/02/2018 01:11 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I used to have horrible social anxiety. Like, I wouldn’t ask for ketchup at the counter at McDonald’s. I could order, but not go outside of the script to ask for extras. I’ve gotten over it almost completely to the tune of doing public speaking events on purpose! It was a long hard process, but definitely worth it. Here’s a few things that helped me. Quoting: D12345 St. John’s wort and Xanax. I don’t take Xanax anymore. I use natural herbs instead. Jumping through the hoops to maintain a Xanax prescription was too anxiety producing. I did it for a long time, but I’ve since been able to manage it with yoga, valerian, and/it ashwaghanda. Cbd oil is good too. Be sure to make sure you don’t have any drug interactions with anything herbal. Found out the hard way that melatonin and St. John’s wort is not a good mix. While I was on Xanax, I pushed myself very hard to do the things that were hard. They were still hard. I inundated myself as much as I could and then spent a lot of time sleeping to recover. I lived in intense fear and anxiety for a couple years alternating between pushing myself hard, then recovering. The good news with this is that it’s a progression. Some things got easier after having done them for a few weeks, so then I pushed myself to take the next step. Toastmasters is a good way to do this. But I would say that it depends on your goals. Everything is easier once you master public speaking though. Realizing that my fears were unfounded. Most people aren’t as judgmental as you think. Most people are busy worrying about their own crap. And if you happen to run into a jerk that’s judgemetal or you hear them talking behind your back, screw em. The people like that are the people whose opinions don’t matter anyway. Be a business owner. If you have any way to be self employed, take it. Being able to set your own guidelines for how you’ll be treated is way way way better than having a boss up your ass telling you what you must put up with or how you must act. Being able to take time to build yourself up for something hard. Being able to take a day off on a whim just because you’re overwhelmed with something. Associating with other business owners who have a positive outlook on life and are generally excited instead of being surrounded by people who drudge through their days and hate everything is helpful too. The real world isn’t like the internet. Most people are kind. The ones that aren’t are usually protecting themselves from their own anxiety. Awesome share. Great job getting off of the Xanax, getting off Benzos is mentally more taxing than quitting any other substance. I was on a low dose of benzos for years, for almsot no reason, getting off of them was long and annoying process. I wasn't aware that they were the main cause of any anxiety I was feeling, they only really have theraputic effect for two weeks, after that they tend to cause more anxiety than they eliminated. Couple that with how dangerous they are, in any given survival situation your mortality rate increases on benzos significantly, my personal theory is because it won't let your survival mechanisms (adrenaline etc) activate. Seriously well done! I haven't tried St John's Wort, Valerian or ashwaganda will have to try them. Edit: Not to mention Benzodiazapines (xanax etc) cause serious memory loss. I barely remember the few years I was on them, wasn't on a high dose either. |
83toy User ID: 56086007 Canada 11/02/2018 01:14 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Take CBD in some form or another and try it out CBD may help with anxiety or mental health issues. ... She explained that CBD's effects are similar to anti-anxiety medication or antidepressants. CBD has “no psychoactive properties compared to high-dose THC and also helps with post-traumatic stress disorder |
911 deception2012inception85 (OP) User ID: 61200964 United States 11/02/2018 02:07 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Take CBD in some form or another and try it out Quoting: 83toy CBD may help with anxiety or mental health issues. ... She explained that CBD's effects are similar to anti-anxiety medication or antidepressants. CBD has “no psychoactive properties compared to high-dose THC and also helps with post-traumatic stress disorder Keep hearing about cbc oil or whatever it is does it work? Lisa, if you don't like your job you don't strike. You just go in every day and do it really half-assed. That's the American way. Television! Teacher, mother, secret lover. |