This is a serious problem I have, pleas help me deal with my racist dad in public!

Your poor father has suffered brain damage. I don't know what you can do about it. You might want to take him to see someone who specializes in neurological problems or old age and see if they can do anything for him.

I don't know if he will agree to that, he's in denial that he needs meds. I'm going to go to the doctor with him at his next appointment. He's taking them but only because he realized my bp monitor and his were not broken. Plus I had a talk with him about whether he wants to find out what will happen with his next stroke or if he would rather prevent it. He agreed to prevent it and I check every day that he takes his meds now.

I don't know if he will agree to that, he's in denial that he needs meds. I'm going to go to the doctor with him at his next appointment. He's taking them but only because he realized my bp monitor and his were not broken. Plus I had a talk with him about whether he wants to find out what will happen with his next stroke or if he would rather prevent it. He agreed to prevent it and I check every day that he takes his meds now.

You're a good daughter, lovey....

I think she was understanding because I know people from other cultures tend to be racist, she probably had the same problem with her parents but she was married to a white man. She told us how she came to the usa from shanghai when she was 9 and my dad told he goes there to visit. I wanted to tell her to visit his girlfriend. I think he's just not having any luck with these Asian women and he wants one but it's just not working out.

You're a good daughter, lovey....

no I'm not, I didn't talk to him for almost 2 years because he said stupid things to me and I should have known it was his brain damage. I had a dream that we had a dinner together then he collapsed, he didn't die but something was wrong with his blood so I had my husband reach out to him and invite him over and I've seen him every day since. I'm prepping his food, Idk I don't feel guilty I feel sorry for him because nobody was helping or noticed this odd behavior. he was never a very likable person and he sees my sister every day and he's diabetic and they were feeding him sugar at the office daily. I think they want him dead.

you guys are making me cry. He told my husband I saved his life.

I don't know if he will agree to that, he's in denial that he needs meds. I'm going to go to the doctor with him at his next appointment. He's taking them but only because he realized my bp monitor and his were not broken. Plus I had a talk with him about whether he wants to find out what will happen with his next stroke or if he would rather prevent it. He agreed to prevent it and I check every day that he takes his meds now.

it could be one of those trigger words that get's reworded when we type it.

If you've ever been to India, you would understand why.

Smart man. I won't eat food touched by them either. Too many of the first and second gen immigrants are filthy pigs when it comes to food and cockroaches IMO.

He seems like he's totally fine, he drives, runs his business, tries to get chicks online.

you guys are making me cry. He told my husband I saved his life.

First signs of dementia combined with hearing loss and not caring anymore

He sounds isolated from people

In some ways it feels like he is reaching out to meet some of these people

3 year olds don't know how to interact and will sit on a kid to make friends

Language barriers and lack of soucial skills like preschoolers have indicate he is REGRESSING

If that's true - my heart goes out to you

My father got very quiet - and just watched TV and my mother cared for him for 4 failing years

Enjoy times with your Dad - he is changing and may never be his I paint my fingernailsf again - remember his good points and fun times

If he is disruptive and loud with your kids around - tell him you don't want your kids to get beat up by the Chinese kids - so keep it to himself !

Use the grandkids as his motivation - not your discomfort

Read up on early Alzheimers symptoms - maybe go with or call his doctor

See if you can get coconut oil into his coffee or diet - the brain is made of fat - certainly helps the memory of people I've told that - mine included

Good luck

This is a LONG ROAD - parental decline - it's trying and hearbreaking

Maybe he can still get some help .

Prayers

About ten years ago I was in Virginia at a Popeyes for fried chicken with my dad. He misunderstood a Hispanic accent of the person working at the counter and started shouting *doesn't anybody speak English in this place, what the hell is going on!* and he was really mad. I was mortified.

That was before his strokes - big and mini.

He's got lots of small brain bleeds now and there's nothing to be done about it. It's caused him to be much quieter, fearful. And now I miss his full crazy loud opinionated personality.


Happy New Year chasity!