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Timur2020 User ID: 72515415 United States 01/14/2019 07:24 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | You are dating him and his damaged goods brat is not being controlled, but indulged. I would break it off? Because if he was father material he would correct the little beast. But if you want to try, you can't avoid talking to him about her. We aren't like you. Our boilerplate, all dads thing, is "oh honey they're just kids, leave them alone"....because we want to be left alone and we can be "cross wire" protective. It might help if before you broach the subject, get a feel for why he lets the lil bich be like that. Hes either uncaring and heartless like his ex (or) he sees it, doesn't know wgat to do, but its his job to protect her. And it may be just that. Males can be emotionally awkward and you guys are the ones that say the things that might make sense to us wben we can't and also the ones where you laugh and say "thats not something you have to protect, she's waiting for you to notice and get her to stop" Really. But...still, MY BABY COMES FIRST and if you have a good one, all the others in a pile are not worth him to everybody. One of ours has a cruel lil carbon copy of mom's evil. They told me they went in the kids room and she was standing on the baby. I know how humans are and kids especially. I told them what it was and to be vigilant and use common sense with her. But I wish she'd rot or something myself. In the end tho, nothing toxic should lower the face of your good boy. Best wishes and if he cops out and won't show being a dad, then you are still looking, before he fails or zeroes in on your kid. Good for you btw "Science without religion is lame; religion without science is blind" Covid, fake riots, communist organizers - keep your powder dry America. This was not the disease or the riots, those both are still on down the line. Garden garden grow spices and medical plants too. I am a VeterAid volunteer for Arrogant Mushroom Healers of Alamogordo. |
Presqu'ile User ID: 77221064 Canada 01/14/2019 07:26 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I have one, my boyfriend has two. One of his had become extremely angry, emotional, bossy, entitled, and sad. I feel bad for her, her mom is real lazy, likely drugged, and doesn’t really take care of them - grandmama does - and I think the little one is imitating that attitude. I feel horrible for her. . But at the same time, my son is starting to get extremely sad after we all hang out. I’ve never seen him like this before and it’s always now after our hangouts. .and he’s seemingly picking up some of her cruelty. Any suggestions? I love his kids at this point but I’m going to choose my sons well-being over there’s. I feel like I have no place to say anything about it. Quoting: bleep Slap it across the face |
Lance Roseman From BC User ID: 30616576 Canada 01/14/2019 07:29 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | You are dating him and his damaged goods brat is not being controlled, but indulged. Quoting: Timur2020 I would break it off? Because if he was father material he would correct the little beast. But if you want to try, you can't avoid talking to him about her. We aren't like you. Our boilerplate, all dads thing, is "oh honey they're just kids, leave them alone"....because we want to be left alone and we can be "cross wire" protective. It might help if before you broach the subject, get a feel for why he lets the lil bich be like that. Hes either uncaring and heartless like his ex (or) he sees it, doesn't know wgat to do, but its his job to protect her. And it may be just that. Males can be emotionally awkward and you guys are the ones that say the things that might make sense to us wben we can't and also the ones where you laugh and say "thats not something you have to protect, she's waiting for you to notice and get her to stop" Really. But...still, MY BABY COMES FIRST and if you have a good one, all the others in a pile are not worth him to everybody. One of ours has a cruel lil carbon copy of mom's evil. They told me they went in the kids room and she was standing on the baby. I know how humans are and kids especially. I told them what it was and to be vigilant and use common sense with her. But I wish she'd rot or something myself. In the end tho, nothing toxic should lower the face of your good boy. Best wishes and if he cops out and won't show being a dad, then you are still looking, before he fails or zeroes in on your kid. Good for you btw True that. No man of merit has useless offspring. If you are not busy weaving your own magick, you are trapped in anothers spell. “It’s time you realized that you have something in you more powerful and miraculous than the things that affect you and make you dance like a puppet.” – Marcus Aurelius |
Group Captain Lionel Mandrake User ID: 71560182 United Kingdom 01/14/2019 07:32 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | They were super rude to me because of it and there was not much I could do so i had to swerve the whole situation. I wasn't capable of taking verbal insults and she couldn't stop it. It was a bummer I really liked their mum but I couldn't make it work they were out of control. I spoke to her again recently 7 years later and she said the boys had really improved and could I help the oldest one get a job. I said I would see what I could do but vowed to myself the mouthy little prick could take a hike. The Coca Cola Company? I've shit 'em |
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Anonymous Coward (OP) User ID: 52923498 United States 01/14/2019 07:46 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | You are dating him and his damaged goods brat is not being controlled, but indulged. Quoting: Timur2020 I would break it off? Because if he was father material he would correct the little beast. But if you want to try, you can't avoid talking to him about her. We aren't like you. Our boilerplate, all dads thing, is "oh honey they're just kids, leave them alone"....because we want to be left alone and we can be "cross wire" protective. It might help if before you broach the subject, get a feel for why he lets the lil bich be like that. Hes either uncaring and heartless like his ex (or) he sees it, doesn't know wgat to do, but its his job to protect her. And it may be just that. Males can be emotionally awkward and you guys are the ones that say the things that might make sense to us wben we can't and also the ones where you laugh and say "thats not something you have to protect, she's waiting for you to notice and get her to stop" Really. But...still, MY BABY COMES FIRST and if you have a good one, all the others in a pile are not worth him to everybody. One of ours has a cruel lil carbon copy of mom's evil. They told me they went in the kids room and she was standing on the baby. I know how humans are and kids especially. I told them what it was and to be vigilant and use common sense with her. But I wish she'd rot or something myself. In the end tho, nothing toxic should lower the face of your good boy. Best wishes and if he cops out and won't show being a dad, then you are still looking, before he fails or zeroes in on your kid. Good for you btw He’s really good with them, their needs are above any of his own, and he keeps them on track, involved with things, all that. The thing I think he’s not doing right is veiled threats of punishment . She takes heed of consequences mentioned, and does something a little while later that’s punishable and nasty but not specific at all to the punishment mentioned for the preceding bad behavior. She’s clever. And the problem with punishment is then we have tears, and panic attacks for I kid you not, 2-3+ hours. He’s not beating her, he takes something away Also The little one has a cellphone. Whenever mom calls or grandma, they say all kinds of exciting things that they’re doing right now and how it’s a shame that she isn’t there. If we’re in a trip, which we do a lot of outdoorsy stuff, by day 3 she’s totally different, sweet helpful all that. But I really feel like the mom and grandma are doing a lot to make her anti dad. I’m going to see if we can have some kind of ground rules, not single her out, but if any of the three do this or that, they have to face consequences. If he’s lax on that. If his get passes,, i think I’m done. We kinda discussed something similar before so I’m hoping. And thank you so much for your insight. |
Anonymous Coward (OP) User ID: 52923498 United States 01/14/2019 07:49 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | If boyfriend is so great, why aren't his kids with him most of the time instead of their druggy mom? For the safety of your child, I would run. I wouldn't be able to bring my child around him or his kids... What's attractive about that? Quoting: JL2 It’s really hard to prove that stuff unfortunately. I’m not sure if drugs, maybe alcohol. I saw her once, eyes were bloodshot. Her dad is the sheriff.... |
Anonymous Coward (OP) User ID: 52923498 United States 01/14/2019 07:50 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I had a nice girlfriend with two teenage boys that their dad had made bitter about their divorce. Quoting: Group Captain Lionel Mandrake They were super rude to me because of it and there was not much I could do so i had to swerve the whole situation. I wasn't capable of taking verbal insults and she couldn't stop it. It was a bummer I really liked their mum but I couldn't make it work they were out of control. I spoke to her again recently 7 years later and she said the boys had really improved and could I help the oldest one get a job. I said I would see what I could do but vowed to myself the mouthy little prick could take a hike. Yeah I’m at the end. I love his guts. I wanna try but I’m not entirely optimistic. But will try. |
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Loup Garou User ID: 75579430 United States 01/14/2019 07:54 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | You are dating him and his damaged goods brat is not being controlled, but indulged. Quoting: Timur2020 I would break it off? Because if he was father material he would correct the little beast. But if you want to try, you can't avoid talking to him about her. We aren't like you. Our boilerplate, all dads thing, is "oh honey they're just kids, leave them alone"....because we want to be left alone and we can be "cross wire" protective. It might help if before you broach the subject, get a feel for why he lets the lil bich be like that. Hes either uncaring and heartless like his ex (or) he sees it, doesn't know what to do, but its his job to protect her. And it may be just that. Males can be emotionally awkward and you guys are the ones that say the things that might make sense to us when we can't and also the ones where you laugh and say "thats not something you have to protect, she's waiting for you to notice and get her to stop" Really. But...still, MY BABY COMES FIRST and if you have a good one, all the others in a pile are not worth him to everybody. One of ours has a cruel lil carbon copy of mom's evil. They told me they went in the kids room and she was standing on the baby. I know how humans are and kids especially. I told them what it was and to be vigilant and use common sense with her. But I wish she'd rot or something myself. In the end tho, nothing toxic should lower the face of your good boy. Best wishes and if he cops out and won't show being a dad, then you are still looking, before he fails or zeroes in on your kid. Good for you btw 100% correct Just because YOU don’t believe in the Rougarou; or the Loup Garou, don’t make you safe; No ! The Constitution is a blend of 'moral certitude' -- which is one of the reasons that criminals are determined to be rid of it and We the People must be even more determined to defend it. "If there must be trouble, let it be in my day, that my child may have peace." - Thomas Paine The only thing the Illuminati fears is an independent person who can live, eat, sleep, stay warm and defend themselves separate from Federal help. Pray that the Lord gives us more time! The End is near and time is short! A fool takes no pleasure in understanding, but only in expressing his opinion. ~Proverbs 18:2 For those who understand, no explanation is needed. For those who do not understand, no explanation is possible "A candle loses nothing by lighting another candle" - James Keller Checkd, Keked, and Rekt! #Kids2 |
Bing Bong Lee User ID: 73636379 New Zealand 01/14/2019 08:07 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | How old is that little beotch? Quoting: Bing Bong Lee It's great to hear you say how you put your son's well-being over the rest. It's the only thing that truly matters and he will be grateful for it, if not really now, then surely later. Plenty more fish in the sea. 9. A girl that age is old enough to know how to behave appropriately, especially in this day and age. If your boyfriend can't bring himself to assert himself correctly in unacceptable situations, then I think it's mightily disrespectful towards you and especially your son. Maybe next time a tantrum happens, just say "I've had it with her behaviour for today. I hope you understand. I'm doing this for my child." Maybe she'll come to realize what a mess she's creating and feel ashamed about it. Seems like she's the type that can't stand others being happy or having feelings for eachother. |
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Anonymous Coward (OP) User ID: 52923498 United States 01/14/2019 08:38 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | How old is that little beotch? Quoting: Bing Bong Lee It's great to hear you say how you put your son's well-being over the rest. It's the only thing that truly matters and he will be grateful for it, if not really now, then surely later. Plenty more fish in the sea. 9. A girl that age is old enough to know how to behave appropriately, especially in this day and age. If your boyfriend can't bring himself to assert himself correctly in unacceptable situations, then I think it's mightily disrespectful towards you and especially your son. Maybe next time a tantrum happens, just say "I've had it with her behaviour for today. I hope you understand. I'm doing this for my child." Maybe she'll come to realize what a mess she's creating and feel ashamed about it. Seems like she's the type that can't stand others being happy or having feelings for eachother. Yes. We hang out sometimes all weekend travel in the same car. I’m stopping that for now. We’ll meet up and if it goes wrong, I want an easy out. And I agree about him. I really think he’s trying but he’s lost. We’re gonna work on it. Well see |
Anonymous Coward (OP) User ID: 52923498 United States 01/14/2019 08:42 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | The worst things for people with kids to do is to let their kids know who they're dating or even let them meet them someday those people will just be another ass-whole in the past and your kids will have to live with what they put them through Quoting: UrMomsD1ld0 We waited a long time to introduce en Her mom has had a lot of guys in and out. They not only met them, they lived there who knows what the he’ll happened there. I’m sure that’s a factor on how she feels about me, like we’ll go away like all her moms attempts. I want to spend the rest of my life with him. If we can get through this, and it’s a big one, then we can get through anything, I feel |
Norske_in_Merika User ID: 77194406 United States 01/14/2019 08:42 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Children are a reflection of their parents (BOTH). That means your boyfriend needs to step up parent his kids. My Wife's sister's kids were not allowed in my house for almost a year because of their shitty behavior and the effect it had on my our own children. If you don't have minimal expectations of all people (especially kids), you enable that negative behavior and it gets worse. Tell him to fix it or no more "hang outs" |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 51994186 United States 01/14/2019 08:52 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | If boyfriend is so great, why aren't his kids with him most of the time instead of their druggy mom? For the safety of your child, I would run. I wouldn't be able to bring my child around him or his kids... What's attractive about that? Quoting: JL2 It’s really hard to prove that stuff unfortunately. I’m not sure if drugs, maybe alcohol. I saw her once, eyes were bloodshot. Her dad is the sheriff.... lol case closed. Sounds like someone I know, funny her dad worked with the law too. SMH Now we know where they get the attitude from. |
Loup Garou User ID: 75275161 United States 01/15/2019 01:04 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | The worst things for people with kids to do is to let their kids know who they're dating or even let them meet them someday those people will just be another ass-whole in the past and your kids will have to live with what they put them through Quoting: UrMomsD1ld0 THIS Just because YOU don’t believe in the Rougarou; or the Loup Garou, don’t make you safe; No ! The Constitution is a blend of 'moral certitude' -- which is one of the reasons that criminals are determined to be rid of it and We the People must be even more determined to defend it. "If there must be trouble, let it be in my day, that my child may have peace." - Thomas Paine The only thing the Illuminati fears is an independent person who can live, eat, sleep, stay warm and defend themselves separate from Federal help. Pray that the Lord gives us more time! The End is near and time is short! A fool takes no pleasure in understanding, but only in expressing his opinion. ~Proverbs 18:2 For those who understand, no explanation is needed. For those who do not understand, no explanation is possible "A candle loses nothing by lighting another candle" - James Keller Checkd, Keked, and Rekt! #Kids2 |