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Serious relationship question....

 
KEK
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Serious relationship question....
Who is to blame the one that keep bitching, or the one that is fed up and yell?

EDIT: I realize that my question is a little bit badly put... It was more to catch the attention rather than to look for blames ;) red_heart

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Just stay single, and you won't have to worry about that shit.
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takes 2 to be a relationship, so both have some fault
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Who is to blame the one that keep bitching, or the one that is fed up and yell?
 Quoting: KEK


yelling is abuse.

if you lose your temper that's on you.
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takes 2 to be a relationship, so both have some fault
 Quoting: brighteyes


I totally agree with you...maybe i phrase my question the wrong way...

I`m trying my best in this relationship.. LIKE MY BEST!! Went back to school to get my shit together, i am now a high pressure welder and all.

It seems like everytime i bring something that bothers me, i get the rolling eyes, i get the ''mirror mirror'' thingy...it's getting hard for me to stay calm at some point.

I'm not a wife beater, not at all LOL. I just lose my cool, when her argument makes absolutly no sens, and it's only ''yea, but you do the same....''
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Who is to blame the one that keep bitching, or the one that is fed up and yell?
 Quoting: KEK


yelling is abuse.

if you lose your temper that's on you.
 Quoting: MissCleo


You are right... And i feel ashame about it... But the ''mirror mirror'' thing is getting old.... At some point, you have to accept that you are not perfect... I'm not...but nor is she... :(
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I really just want to be a better Man
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Most people bitch when there is cause and frustration. Somebody isn't measuring up but both are at fault.
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takes 2 to be a relationship, so both have some fault
 Quoting: brighteyes


I totally agree with you...maybe i phrase my question the wrong way...

I`m trying my best in this relationship.. LIKE MY BEST!! Went back to school to get my shit together, i am now a high pressure welder and all.

It seems like everytime i bring something that bothers me, i get the rolling eyes, i get the ''mirror mirror'' thingy...it's getting hard for me to stay calm at some point.

I'm not a wife beater, not at all LOL. I just lose my cool, when her argument makes absolutly no sens, and it's only ''yea, but you do the same....''
 Quoting: KEK


maybe deep down there is something else you need to address. she is a convenient outlet for your frustration. idk
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Who is to blame the one that keep bitching, or the one that is fed up and yell?
 Quoting: KEK


yelling is abuse.

if you lose your temper that's on you.
 Quoting: MissCleo



Do you believe in emotional abuse?

Let's say your partner cheats on you and you yell at him/her... Are you the one to blame? im just trying to figure my shit right now....

i'm a little bit lost ATM
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Sit her down and ask her what is REALLY bothering her. I bet there's something eating at her that you dont know about.
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takes 2 to be a relationship, so both have some fault
 Quoting: brighteyes


I totally agree with you...maybe i phrase my question the wrong way...

I`m trying my best in this relationship.. LIKE MY BEST!! Went back to school to get my shit together, i am now a high pressure welder and all.

It seems like everytime i bring something that bothers me, i get the rolling eyes, i get the ''mirror mirror'' thingy...it's getting hard for me to stay calm at some point.

I'm not a wife beater, not at all LOL. I just lose my cool, when her argument makes absolutly no sens, and it's only ''yea, but you do the same....''
 Quoting: KEK


maybe deep down there is something else you need to address. she is a convenient outlet for your frustration. idk
 Quoting: brighteyes


I've dealt with my frustration long time ago... I forgive my parents for the mistake they made, and i want to live my life in Love...

It's the childish argument, faces or reaction thats gets me..

I have to say, we don't have the same background at all..

I grew up poor and all the family issue that comes with it, she grew up rich with all the issue that comes with it.

Both of us have things to work on...i really love her... I just have a rough time getting over the futile thing...
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Sit her down and ask her what is REALLY bothering her. I bet there's something eating at her that you dont know about.
 Quoting: JL2


Thanks JL2 :) I will def have a talk with her once the dust settle a little bit hf
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Most people bitch when there is cause and frustration. Somebody isn't measuring up but both are at fault.
 Quoting: janedoenut


hesright
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Most people bitch when there is cause and frustration. Somebody isn't measuring up but both are at fault.
 Quoting: janedoenut


Thanks for the feed back! hf
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Most people bitch when there is cause and frustration. Somebody isn't measuring up but both are at fault.
 Quoting: janedoenut


hesright
 Quoting: LittleMissDictator


shesright

I will have a talk will my Lover ;) hf
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Most people bitch when there is cause and frustration. Somebody isn't measuring up but both are at fault.
 Quoting: janedoenut


Thanks for the feed back! hf
 Quoting: KEK


And why did she pick you?
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Who is to blame the one that keep bitching, or the one that is fed up and yell?
 Quoting: KEK


no one to blame just not compatible
Neither here nor there
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Most people bitch when there is cause and frustration. Somebody isn't measuring up but both are at fault.
 Quoting: janedoenut


Thanks for the feed back! hf
 Quoting: KEK


And why did she pick you?
 Quoting: SureThingBuddy


Because we have the same basic values; Family, Love, Hard-working, Smart, Not leeching of others, little bit self-made...

Sure she think i'm good looking and all, but we both think that core values are much more important than outside apperance
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Who is to blame the one that keep bitching, or the one that is fed up and yell?
 Quoting: KEK


yelling is abuse.

if you lose your temper that's on you.
 Quoting: MissCleo


Love the myopic view! How like a feminist to be so "honest." Being a narcissist with repeated "soft manipulative abuse" over time is just fine. If you "finally" defend yourself you're the monster. #TheWorld2019 (Right ladies!)
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Who is to blame the one that keep bitching, or the one that is fed up and yell?
 Quoting: KEK


Usually it's both...if assigning "blame" is actually important to you. IF it is, you have much to learn.
Ask Alice when she's 10ft tall
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Who is to blame the one that keep bitching, or the one that is fed up and yell?
 Quoting: KEK


no one to blame just not compatible
 Quoting: Enchanter


I don't believe it's about ''not being compatble'' when things are fine, we are living the perfect life... But the moment one of us does something that bothers the others, it's hard to keep it cool, we both have hard-headed temper
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takes 2 to be a relationship, so both have some fault
 Quoting: brighteyes


I totally agree with you...maybe i phrase my question the wrong way...

I`m trying my best in this relationship.. LIKE MY BEST!! Went back to school to get my shit together, i am now a high pressure welder and all.

It seems like everytime i bring something that bothers me, i get the rolling eyes, i get the ''mirror mirror'' thingy...it's getting hard for me to stay calm at some point.

I'm not a wife beater, not at all LOL. I just lose my cool, when her argument makes absolutly no sens, and it's only ''yea, but you do the same....''
 Quoting: KEK


True, you are not a wife beater, instead you are a whiny bitch! What woman is going to respond to that? Why not for once, just doing something FOR HER? No motive, just because you love her? That of course, assumes you do...try thinking about what she wants for a changed? oh wait...you might actually have to give a damn....
Ask Alice when she's 10ft tall
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Who is to blame the one that keep bitching, or the one that is fed up and yell?
 Quoting: KEK


yelling is abuse.

if you lose your temper that's on you.
 Quoting: MissCleo


Love the myopic view! How like a feminist to be so "honest." Being a narcissist with repeated "soft manipulative abuse" over time is just fine. If you "finally" defend yourself you're the monster. #TheWorld2019 (Right ladies!)
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 75926669


This is where i am at... :(
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takes 2 to be a relationship, so both have some fault
 Quoting: brighteyes


I totally agree with you...maybe i phrase my question the wrong way...

I`m trying my best in this relationship.. LIKE MY BEST!! Went back to school to get my shit together, i am now a high pressure welder and all.

It seems like everytime i bring something that bothers me, i get the rolling eyes, i get the ''mirror mirror'' thingy...it's getting hard for me to stay calm at some point.

I'm not a wife beater, not at all LOL. I just lose my cool, when her argument makes absolutly no sens, and it's only ''yea, but you do the same....''
 Quoting: KEK


True, you are not a wife beater, instead you are a whiny bitch! What woman is going to respond to that? Why not for once, just doing something FOR HER? No motive, just because you love her? That of course, assumes you do...try thinking about what she wants for a changed? oh wait...you might actually have to give a damn....
 Quoting: FeedYourHead


Why the personal attacks?

I'm pretty sure you don't know me lol

I'm not even going to responds any further to you lol.
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You are responsible for your own behavior.

No excuses.
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You are responsible for your own behavior.

No excuses.
 Quoting: Vasily


I'm not looking for excuses... That is why i think that acting like a spoiled brat is also wrong as much as yelling...

Last Edited by KEK on 02/26/2019 08:12 PM
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You are responsible for your own behavior.

No excuses.
 Quoting: Vasily


Yes, no, maybe. What does this really mean? In many circumstances, it's absolutely 100% correct but there are many situations where it is not.
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takes 2 to be a relationship, so both have some fault
 Quoting: brighteyes


I totally agree with you...maybe i phrase my question the wrong way...

I`m trying my best in this relationship.. LIKE MY BEST!! Went back to school to get my shit together, i am now a high pressure welder and all.

It seems like everytime i bring something that bothers me, i get the rolling eyes, i get the ''mirror mirror'' thingy...it's getting hard for me to stay calm at some point.

I'm not a wife beater, not at all LOL. I just lose my cool, when her argument makes absolutly no sens, and it's only ''yea, but you do the same....''
 Quoting: KEK


True, you are not a wife beater, instead you are a whiny bitch! What woman is going to respond to that? Why not for once, just doing something FOR HER? No motive, just because you love her? That of course, assumes you do...try thinking about what she wants for a changed? oh wait...you might actually have to give a damn....
 Quoting: FeedYourHead


Why the personal attacks?

I'm pretty sure you don't know me lol

I'm not even going to responds any further to you lol.
 Quoting: KEK


No attack intended...just speaking truth.

Please note, you said you had a "serious relationship question" but then you consider the truth an "attack"?

interesting....

Last Edited by FeedYourHead on 02/26/2019 08:20 PM
Ask Alice when she's 10ft tall
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You are responsible for your own behavior.

No excuses.
 Quoting: Vasily


Yes, no, maybe. What does this really mean? In many circumstances, it's absolutely 100% correct but there are many situations where it is not.
 Quoting: janedoenut


Well, you've got me curious.

Name a few situations where you are not responsible for your own behavior, if you will.
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You are responsible for your own behavior.

No excuses.
 Quoting: Vasily


I'm not looking for excuses... That is why i think that acting like a spoiled brat is also wrong as much as yelling...
 Quoting: KEK


Sorry.

I was not pointing that statement directly at you.

Was using the "royal you", if you will.

It's just a good guiding principle.

Accept responsibility for your own actions and behavior regardless of what anyone else does.

IOW, someone else's bad behavior does not excuse one's own.





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