Serious relationship question....

Just stay single, and you won't have to worry about that shit.

takes 2 to be a relationship, so both have some fault

yelling is abuse.

if you lose your temper that's on you.

I totally agree with you...maybe i phrase my question the wrong way...

I`m trying my best in this relationship.. LIKE MY BEST!! Went back to school to get my shit together, i am now a high pressure welder and all.

It seems like everytime i bring something that bothers me, i get the rolling eyes, i get the ''mirror mirror'' thingy...it's getting hard for me to stay calm at some point.

I'm not a wife beater, not at all LOL. I just lose my cool, when her argument makes absolutly no sens, and it's only ''yea, but you do the same....''

You are right... And i feel ashame about it... But the ''mirror mirror'' thing is getting old.... At some point, you have to accept that you are not perfect... I'm not...but nor is she... :(

I really just want to be a better Man

Most people bitch when there is cause and frustration. Somebody isn't measuring up but both are at fault.

maybe deep down there is something else you need to address. she is a convenient outlet for your frustration. idk

Do you believe in emotional abuse?

Let's say your partner cheats on you and you yell at him/her... Are you the one to blame? im just trying to figure my shit right now....

i'm a little bit lost ATM

Sit her down and ask her what is REALLY bothering her. I bet there's something eating at her that you dont know about.

I've dealt with my frustration long time ago... I forgive my parents for the mistake they made, and i want to live my life in Love...

It's the childish argument, faces or reaction thats gets me..

I have to say, we don't have the same background at all..

I grew up poor and all the family issue that comes with it, she grew up rich with all the issue that comes with it.

Both of us have things to work on...i really love her... I just have a rough time getting over the futile thing...

Thanks JL2 :) I will def have a talk with her once the dust settle a little bit

Thanks for the feed back!

I will have a talk will my Lover ;)

And why did she pick you?

no one to blame just not compatible

Because we have the same basic values; Family, Love, Hard-working, Smart, Not leeching of others, little bit self-made...

Sure she think i'm good looking and all, but we both think that core values are much more important than outside apperance

Love the myopic view! How like a feminist to be so "honest." Being a narcissist with repeated "soft manipulative abuse" over time is just fine. If you "finally" defend yourself you're the monster. #TheWorld2019 (Right ladies!)

Usually it's both...if assigning "blame" is actually important to you. IF it is, you have much to learn.

I don't believe it's about ''not being compatble'' when things are fine, we are living the perfect life... But the moment one of us does something that bothers the others, it's hard to keep it cool, we both have hard-headed temper

True, you are not a wife beater, instead you are a whiny bitch! What woman is going to respond to that? Why not for once, just doing something FOR HER? No motive, just because you love her? That of course, assumes you do...try thinking about what she wants for a changed? oh wait...you might actually have to give a damn....

This is where i am at... :(

Why the personal attacks?

I'm pretty sure you don't know me lol

I'm not even going to responds any further to you lol.

You are responsible for your own behavior.

No excuses.

I'm not looking for excuses... That is why i think that acting like a spoiled brat is also wrong as much as yelling...

Last Edited by KEK on 02/26/2019 08:12 PM

Yes, no, maybe. What does this really mean? In many circumstances, it's absolutely 100% correct but there are many situations where it is not.

No attack intended...just speaking truth.

Please note, you said you had a "serious relationship question" but then you consider the truth an "attack"?

interesting....

Last Edited by FeedYourHead on 02/26/2019 08:20 PM

Well, you've got me curious.

Name a few situations where you are not responsible for your own behavior, if you will.

Sorry.

I was not pointing that statement directly at you.

Was using the "royal you", if you will.

It's just a good guiding principle.

Accept responsibility for your own actions and behavior regardless of what anyone else does.

IOW, someone else's bad behavior does not excuse one's own.