Godlike Productions - Conspiracy Forum
Users Online Now: 1,355 (Who's On?)Visitors Today: 571,302
Pageviews Today: 933,455Threads Today: 442Posts Today: 7,981
02:56 PM


Rate this Thread

Absolute BS Crap Reasonable Nice Amazing
 

Parents need to stop trying to be their kids best friend.

 
Bananafighter
Offer Upgrade

User ID: 73106219
United States
03/10/2019 05:45 AM

Report Abusive Post
Report Copyright Violation
Parents need to stop trying to be their kids best friend.
It's really simple. You are the parent, they are the child. Period. I see a lot of stories where the child will say "this is my mom/dad, they are my best friend". Likewise with the parents as well.
I have four kids. I am friendly with my kids and they are friendly with my. They are not my best friends nor do I strive for that to ever be the case. They would never truly grow up and move on and become independent if that were the case.
I am their teacher, their mentor, their guide. I will show them how to build a piece of furniture, fix their car or do an oil change, basic plumbing, how to properly budget their money. I do not want to be their friend. I want to be their parent.
That's why these younger generations are so screwed up. Their "parents" never wanted to be the bad guy. They never wanted to say no or take the time to teach their kids. They want to hang with their kids. Go to clubs with them. Get to know all their friends so that they can all hangout together. I know all my kids friends, so I can make sure their not worthless, good for nothings. Not so we can all do lunch.
I was once at the grocery store and I was talking with the older (my age) cashier. The topic of cell phones and kids came up. I told her that none of my school aged kids (at the time) had cell phones and that the only way they would get one was when they could pay for it themselves. She asked me how I was able to pull that one off. I answered simply, "I'm the parent and they're the kids, that's how."

Parents need to be parents not friends.
Bananafighter  (OP)

User ID: 73106219
United States
03/10/2019 06:27 AM

Report Abusive Post
Report Copyright Violation
Re: Parents need to stop trying to be their kids best friend.
It all ages of their kids as well. Be friendly with your kids but to go around saying that you and your kids are friends or even best friends? That's just wrong and sad.
Anonymous Coward
User ID: 77440104
United States
03/10/2019 06:31 AM
Report Abusive Post
Report Copyright Violation
Re: Parents need to stop trying to be their kids best friend.
clappaclappaclappaclappa
Anonymous Coward
User ID: 77441533
Bahamas
03/10/2019 06:37 AM
Report Abusive Post
Report Copyright Violation
Re: Parents need to stop trying to be their kids best friend.
One parenting technique that is sure to set your kid up for failure is to be his/her friend.
Bananafighter  (OP)

User ID: 73106219
United States
03/10/2019 06:45 AM

Report Abusive Post
Report Copyright Violation
Re: Parents need to stop trying to be their kids best friend.
One parenting technique that is sure to set your kid up for failure is to be his/her friend.
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 77441533


And yet these parents today can't seem to stop wanting to be bff's with their kids. I love my kids but the idea of being friends with them is insane to me. Friendly, cordial, kind, yeah. Friends. No.
Anonymous Coward
User ID: 77440104
United States
03/10/2019 06:48 AM
Report Abusive Post
Report Copyright Violation
Re: Parents need to stop trying to be their kids best friend.
One parenting technique that is sure to set your kid up for failure is to be his/her friend.
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 77441533


And yet these parents today can't seem to stop wanting to be bff's with their kids. I love my kids but the idea of being friends with them is insane to me. Friendly, cordial, kind, yeah. Friends. No.
 Quoting: Bananafighter


You are the teacher and guide not the fucking friend
BRIEF

User ID: 39607259
United States
03/10/2019 06:50 AM

Report Abusive Post
Report Copyright Violation
Re: Parents need to stop trying to be their kids best friend.
What do you do with friends? Go to a movie, out to dinner, yes...we like to go fishing, shooting guns, riding go-carts and 4 wheelers, bowling and indoor games...yeah, I am Dad first, but I'm also fun to hang out with...I'm a grandpa too but I will never lose my fun relationship with my family, they are my friends.
Dog kicker

I never forgive and I never forget

I am a licensed firearm holder. I will, under protection of law, use lethal force if attacked.

Briefcut4892
Bananafighter  (OP)

User ID: 73106219
United States
03/10/2019 07:20 AM

Report Abusive Post
Report Copyright Violation
Re: Parents need to stop trying to be their kids best friend.
What do you do with friends? Go to a movie, out to dinner, yes...we like to go fishing, shooting guns, riding go-carts and 4 wheelers, bowling and indoor games...yeah, I am Dad first, but I'm also fun to hang out with...I'm a grandpa too but I will never lose my fun relationship with my family, they are my friends.
 Quoting: BRIEF


It's not about what you do as much as what you say? People talk differently with their friends. Raunchy, in bad taste, all the things you shouldn't talk with your kids about. I go fishing and shooting with my kids. I teach them the do's and don'ts. I help them figure it all out. Friendly behavior is different than friends. I am fun to hang out with as well but my kids know that I am their parent not their friend. I am the one you lays down the law and tells it like it is. I won't coddle their feelings the way people do with their friends. I won't romanticize the world, life or anything else just to spare their feelings. I won't tell them they can do or be anything they want. Because it's not true. If they suck I tell them they suck and to either try harder or move on. Parent first and always. Friendly yes, friend no.
BRIEF

User ID: 39607259
United States
03/10/2019 07:24 AM

Report Abusive Post
Report Copyright Violation
Re: Parents need to stop trying to be their kids best friend.
What do you do with friends? Go to a movie, out to dinner, yes...we like to go fishing, shooting guns, riding go-carts and 4 wheelers, bowling and indoor games...yeah, I am Dad first, but I'm also fun to hang out with...I'm a grandpa too but I will never lose my fun relationship with my family, they are my friends.
 Quoting: BRIEF


It's not about what you do as much as what you say? People talk differently with their friends. Raunchy, in bad taste, all the things you shouldn't talk with your kids about. I go fishing and shooting with my kids. I teach them the do's and don'ts. I help them figure it all out. Friendly behavior is different than friends. I am fun to hang out with as well but my kids know that I am their parent not their friend. I am the one you lays down the law and tells it like it is. I won't coddle their feelings the way people do with their friends. I won't romanticize the world, life or anything else just to spare their feelings. I won't tell them they can do or be anything they want. Because it's not true. If they suck I tell them they suck and to either try harder or move on. Parent first and always. Friendly yes, friend no.
 Quoting: Bananafighter


I'm not so black and white. There are off-limit topics, or details of such, but we have age appropriate conversations and share ideas like friends and people who are close...
Dog kicker

I never forgive and I never forget

I am a licensed firearm holder. I will, under protection of law, use lethal force if attacked.

Briefcut4892
BRIEF

User ID: 39607259
United States
03/10/2019 07:26 AM

Report Abusive Post
Report Copyright Violation
Re: Parents need to stop trying to be their kids best friend.
Logically, if you have two or more biological computers living together (people/family) then why wouldn't you want to exchange ideas and be their friend?
Dog kicker

I never forgive and I never forget

I am a licensed firearm holder. I will, under protection of law, use lethal force if attacked.

Briefcut4892
Anonymous Coward
User ID: 77440104
United States
03/10/2019 07:27 AM
Report Abusive Post
Report Copyright Violation
Re: Parents need to stop trying to be their kids best friend.
Logically, if you have two or more biological computers living together (people/family) then why wouldn't you want to exchange ideas and be their friend?
 Quoting: BRIEF


fuck friends
BRIEF

User ID: 39607259
United States
03/10/2019 07:28 AM

Report Abusive Post
Report Copyright Violation
Re: Parents need to stop trying to be their kids best friend.
Logically, if you have two or more biological computers living together (people/family) then why wouldn't you want to exchange ideas and be their friend?
 Quoting: BRIEF


fuck friends
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 77440104


Those are fun too...
Dog kicker

I never forgive and I never forget

I am a licensed firearm holder. I will, under protection of law, use lethal force if attacked.

Briefcut4892
tkwasny

User ID: 75781181
United States
03/10/2019 07:29 AM
Report Abusive Post
Report Copyright Violation
Re: Parents need to stop trying to be their kids best friend.
The same with all leadership.

Bosses, superior officers and senior enlisted, matriarchs and patriarchs. Being placed in a position of leadership means there are things you must sacrifice. Step up or get to the back of the line. Lead, follow or get out of the way.
BRIEF

User ID: 39607259
United States
03/10/2019 07:34 AM

Report Abusive Post
Report Copyright Violation
Re: Parents need to stop trying to be their kids best friend.
The same with all leadership.

Bosses, superior officers and senior enlisted, matriarchs and patriarchs. Being placed in a position of leadership means there are things you must sacrifice. Step up or get to the back of the line. Lead, follow or get out of the way.
 Quoting: tkwasny


Because I love, and want my children to exceed my own abilities, I will step out of the way at times...like when I taught my youngest to bowl. His style was unique, but I let him develop it and he averages above 200, whereas I'm a 150-160 bowler
Dog kicker

I never forgive and I never forget

I am a licensed firearm holder. I will, under protection of law, use lethal force if attacked.

Briefcut4892
Bananafighter  (OP)

User ID: 73106219
United States
03/10/2019 07:44 AM

Report Abusive Post
Report Copyright Violation
Re: Parents need to stop trying to be their kids best friend.
The same with all leadership.

Bosses, superior officers and senior enlisted, matriarchs and patriarchs. Being placed in a position of leadership means there are things you must sacrifice. Step up or get to the back of the line. Lead, follow or get out of the way.
 Quoting: tkwasny


Because I love, and want my children to exceed my own abilities, I will step out of the way at times...like when I taught my youngest to bowl. His style was unique, but I let him develop it and he averages above 200, whereas I'm a 150-160 bowler
 Quoting: BRIEF


I would never question a parents love for their children. To "step out of the way" "at times"? All the time. as parents we step aside and allow failure. We allow heartache and pain. Without those learning experiences our children never truly grow. They simply look to use to make sure that what they are doing is okay.
BRIEF

User ID: 39607259
United States
03/10/2019 07:48 AM

Report Abusive Post
Report Copyright Violation
Re: Parents need to stop trying to be their kids best friend.
The same with all leadership.

Bosses, superior officers and senior enlisted, matriarchs and patriarchs. Being placed in a position of leadership means there are things you must sacrifice. Step up or get to the back of the line. Lead, follow or get out of the way.
 Quoting: tkwasny


Because I love, and want my children to exceed my own abilities, I will step out of the way at times...like when I taught my youngest to bowl. His style was unique, but I let him develop it and he averages above 200, whereas I'm a 150-160 bowler
 Quoting: BRIEF


I would never question a parents love for their children. To "step out of the way" "at times"? All the time. as parents we step aside and allow failure. We allow heartache and pain. Without those learning experiences our children never truly grow. They simply look to use to make sure that what they are doing is okay.
 Quoting: Bananafighter


Right, but when it comes time to talk about their relationship worries or whatnot, you don't become the friend and listen? maybe offer friendly advice that has nothing to do with brushing their teeth or putting gas in the car??
Dog kicker

I never forgive and I never forget

I am a licensed firearm holder. I will, under protection of law, use lethal force if attacked.

Briefcut4892
Anonymous Coward
User ID: 63927796
United States
03/10/2019 07:50 AM
Report Abusive Post
Report Copyright Violation
Re: Parents need to stop trying to be their kids best friend.
Logically, if you have two or more biological computers living together (people/family) then why wouldn't you want to exchange ideas and be their friend?
 Quoting: BRIEF


yourere
Anonymous Coward
User ID: 77440104
United States
03/10/2019 07:51 AM
Report Abusive Post
Report Copyright Violation
Re: Parents need to stop trying to be their kids best friend.
Logically, if you have two or more biological computers living together (people/family) then why wouldn't you want to exchange ideas and be their friend?
 Quoting: BRIEF


yourere
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 63927796


lol
Bananafighter  (OP)

User ID: 73106219
United States
03/10/2019 07:52 AM

Report Abusive Post
Report Copyright Violation
Re: Parents need to stop trying to be their kids best friend.
The same with all leadership.

Bosses, superior officers and senior enlisted, matriarchs and patriarchs. Being placed in a position of leadership means there are things you must sacrifice. Step up or get to the back of the line. Lead, follow or get out of the way.
 Quoting: tkwasny


Because I love, and want my children to exceed my own abilities, I will step out of the way at times...like when I taught my youngest to bowl. His style was unique, but I let him develop it and he averages above 200, whereas I'm a 150-160 bowler
 Quoting: BRIEF


I would never question a parents love for their children. To "step out of the way" "at times"? All the time. as parents we step aside and allow failure. We allow heartache and pain. Without those learning experiences our children never truly grow. They simply look to use to make sure that what they are doing is okay.
 Quoting: Bananafighter


Right, but when it comes time to talk about their relationship worries or whatnot, you don't become the friend and listen? maybe offer friendly advice that has nothing to do with brushing their teeth or putting gas in the car??
 Quoting: BRIEF


I listen as a parent with decades of experience. I offer advice based on personal experience and life experience. I use logic and reasoning. I talk in a tone that denotes I care but ultimately it's their life and they need to decide. Live and learn not coddle and hope. Every parent has a different approach but being friends is a sure way to set them up for failure in life, love and their future.
BRIEF

User ID: 39607259
United States
03/10/2019 07:54 AM

Report Abusive Post
Report Copyright Violation
Re: Parents need to stop trying to be their kids best friend.
...


Because I love, and want my children to exceed my own abilities, I will step out of the way at times...like when I taught my youngest to bowl. His style was unique, but I let him develop it and he averages above 200, whereas I'm a 150-160 bowler
 Quoting: BRIEF


I would never question a parents love for their children. To "step out of the way" "at times"? All the time. as parents we step aside and allow failure. We allow heartache and pain. Without those learning experiences our children never truly grow. They simply look to use to make sure that what they are doing is okay.
 Quoting: Bananafighter


Right, but when it comes time to talk about their relationship worries or whatnot, you don't become the friend and listen? maybe offer friendly advice that has nothing to do with brushing their teeth or putting gas in the car??
 Quoting: BRIEF


I listen as a parent with decades of experience. I offer advice based on personal experience and life experience. I use logic and reasoning. I talk in a tone that denotes I care but ultimately it's their life and they need to decide. Live and learn not coddle and hope. Every parent has a different approach but being friends is a sure way to set them up for failure in life, love and their future.
 Quoting: Bananafighter


Decades of experience as a parent? No you don't. But I do, and I'm a grandparent.
Dog kicker

I never forgive and I never forget

I am a licensed firearm holder. I will, under protection of law, use lethal force if attacked.

Briefcut4892
Anonymous Coward
User ID: 63610106
United Kingdom
03/10/2019 07:59 AM
Report Abusive Post
Report Copyright Violation
Re: Parents need to stop trying to be their kids best friend.
it's actually about respect and doing what you say

rather than telling your kid to be one way while you're a terrible example of a person yourself
and living your life for the fb 'likes '


kids respect parents who
1 respect themselves
2 behave and speak in truth of themselves
3 behave and speak in truth to their kids


you can tell a kid off , assert a boundary , guide etc


but why the feck should they listen to you if you behave like a trampy shallow vain twat who has no self respect


I think a lot of these kids rightfully don't respect their parents

as their parents are hypocritical arseholes
Bananafighter  (OP)

User ID: 73106219
United States
03/10/2019 08:00 AM

Report Abusive Post
Report Copyright Violation
Re: Parents need to stop trying to be their kids best friend.
...


I would never question a parents love for their children. To "step out of the way" "at times"? All the time. as parents we step aside and allow failure. We allow heartache and pain. Without those learning experiences our children never truly grow. They simply look to use to make sure that what they are doing is okay.
 Quoting: Bananafighter


Right, but when it comes time to talk about their relationship worries or whatnot, you don't become the friend and listen? maybe offer friendly advice that has nothing to do with brushing their teeth or putting gas in the car??
 Quoting: BRIEF


I listen as a parent with decades of experience. I offer advice based on personal experience and life experience. I use logic and reasoning. I talk in a tone that denotes I care but ultimately it's their life and they need to decide. Live and learn not coddle and hope. Every parent has a different approach but being friends is a sure way to set them up for failure in life, love and their future.
 Quoting: Bananafighter


Decades of experience as a parent? No you don't. But I do, and I'm a grandparent.
 Quoting: BRIEF


I do. My first child was born when I was 15. By the time I was 22 I had 4. I have 25 years of experience being a parent. I now have 2 years experience being a grandparent. Isn't it funny how an assumption can go the wrong way? I use my experiences (even having a kid so young) as lessons to my children (all of whom are adults now). I have never tried to be their friend. Friendly yes. They all have jobs, savings and have learned skill sets. They have all helped me hunt, butcher and eat deer. They have assisted me in remodeling my basement, building new doors, fixing cars and cutting down trees. I have joked with them that no job they get will ever be harder than the work I made them do. If I were their friend I might not have been so hard on them as they grew up.
Bananafighter  (OP)

User ID: 73106219
United States
03/10/2019 08:02 AM

Report Abusive Post
Report Copyright Violation
Re: Parents need to stop trying to be their kids best friend.
it's actually about respect and doing what you say

rather than telling your kid to be one way while you're a terrible example of a person yourself
and living your life for the fb 'likes '


kids respect parents who
1 respect themselves
2 behave and speak in truth of themselves
3 behave and speak in truth to their kids


you can tell a kid off , assert a boundary , guide etc


but why the feck should they listen to you if you behave like a trampy shallow vain twat who has no self respect


I think a lot of these kids rightfully don't respect their parents

as their parents are hypocritical arseholes
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 63610106


Exactly. Because the parents are to busy trying to relive their youth in this new digital and social media age. The parents want the likes and retweets and to be popular instead of being a parent.
BRIEF

User ID: 39607259
United States
03/10/2019 08:04 AM

Report Abusive Post
Report Copyright Violation
Re: Parents need to stop trying to be their kids best friend.
...


Right, but when it comes time to talk about their relationship worries or whatnot, you don't become the friend and listen? maybe offer friendly advice that has nothing to do with brushing their teeth or putting gas in the car??
 Quoting: BRIEF


I listen as a parent with decades of experience. I offer advice based on personal experience and life experience. I use logic and reasoning. I talk in a tone that denotes I care but ultimately it's their life and they need to decide. Live and learn not coddle and hope. Every parent has a different approach but being friends is a sure way to set them up for failure in life, love and their future.
 Quoting: Bananafighter


Decades of experience as a parent? No you don't. But I do, and I'm a grandparent.
 Quoting: BRIEF


I do. My first child was born when I was 15. By the time I was 22 I had 4. I have 25 years of experience being a parent. I now have 2 years experience being a grandparent. Isn't it funny how an assumption can go the wrong way? I use my experiences (even having a kid so young) as lessons to my children (all of whom are adults now). I have never tried to be their friend. Friendly yes. They all have jobs, savings and have learned skill sets. They have all helped me hunt, butcher and eat deer. They have assisted me in remodeling my basement, building new doors, fixing cars and cutting down trees. I have joked with them that no job they get will ever be harder than the work I made them do. If I were their friend I might not have been so hard on them as they grew up.
 Quoting: Bananafighter


Having children so young didn't give you the chance to develop yourself...mine turned out great with or without me, who knows...
Dog kicker

I never forgive and I never forget

I am a licensed firearm holder. I will, under protection of law, use lethal force if attacked.

Briefcut4892
Bananafighter  (OP)

User ID: 73106219
United States
03/10/2019 08:09 AM

Report Abusive Post
Report Copyright Violation
Re: Parents need to stop trying to be their kids best friend.
...


I listen as a parent with decades of experience. I offer advice based on personal experience and life experience. I use logic and reasoning. I talk in a tone that denotes I care but ultimately it's their life and they need to decide. Live and learn not coddle and hope. Every parent has a different approach but being friends is a sure way to set them up for failure in life, love and their future.
 Quoting: Bananafighter


Decades of experience as a parent? No you don't. But I do, and I'm a grandparent.
 Quoting: BRIEF


I do. My first child was born when I was 15. By the time I was 22 I had 4. I have 25 years of experience being a parent. I now have 2 years experience being a grandparent. Isn't it funny how an assumption can go the wrong way? I use my experiences (even having a kid so young) as lessons to my children (all of whom are adults now). I have never tried to be their friend. Friendly yes. They all have jobs, savings and have learned skill sets. They have all helped me hunt, butcher and eat deer. They have assisted me in remodeling my basement, building new doors, fixing cars and cutting down trees. I have joked with them that no job they get will ever be harder than the work I made them do. If I were their friend I might not have been so hard on them as they grew up.
 Quoting: Bananafighter


Having children so young didn't give you the chance to develop yourself...mine turned out great with or without me, who knows...
 Quoting: BRIEF


I don't know. It depends on how you view development. I own my own business and have raised 4 great kids. I divorced my ex wife and took custody of all four. I homeschooled them all, taught them how to drive and survive. I grew up quicker than most because of my father. The way I was raised forced my to adapt quickly. Life is different for everyone.
More on point though, friendly yes, friends no.
Stella99

User ID: 77018525
United States
03/10/2019 08:13 AM

Report Abusive Post
Report Copyright Violation
Re: Parents need to stop trying to be their kids best friend.
What happens when the kids are grown and don't need you to parent them?

What relationship do you have with them?

Are you friends?
BRIEF

User ID: 39607259
United States
03/10/2019 08:19 AM

Report Abusive Post
Report Copyright Violation
Re: Parents need to stop trying to be their kids best friend.
...


Decades of experience as a parent? No you don't. But I do, and I'm a grandparent.
 Quoting: BRIEF


I do. My first child was born when I was 15. By the time I was 22 I had 4. I have 25 years of experience being a parent. I now have 2 years experience being a grandparent. Isn't it funny how an assumption can go the wrong way? I use my experiences (even having a kid so young) as lessons to my children (all of whom are adults now). I have never tried to be their friend. Friendly yes. They all have jobs, savings and have learned skill sets. They have all helped me hunt, butcher and eat deer. They have assisted me in remodeling my basement, building new doors, fixing cars and cutting down trees. I have joked with them that no job they get will ever be harder than the work I made them do. If I were their friend I might not have been so hard on them as they grew up.
 Quoting: Bananafighter


Having children so young didn't give you the chance to develop yourself...mine turned out great with or without me, who knows...
 Quoting: BRIEF


I don't know. It depends on how you view development. I own my own business and have raised 4 great kids. I divorced my ex wife and took custody of all four. I homeschooled them all, taught them how to drive and survive. I grew up quicker than most because of my father. The way I was raised forced my to adapt quickly. Life is different for everyone.
More on point though, friendly yes, friends no.
 Quoting: Bananafighter


It's apparent to me that the result of your rush to grow up resulted in your lack of ability to connect to your children in a friendship...that's sad to me because I know the joys and rewards of it...
Dog kicker

I never forgive and I never forget

I am a licensed firearm holder. I will, under protection of law, use lethal force if attacked.

Briefcut4892
Bananafighter  (OP)

User ID: 73106219
United States
03/10/2019 08:21 AM

Report Abusive Post
Report Copyright Violation
Re: Parents need to stop trying to be their kids best friend.
What happens when the kids are grown and don't need you to parent them?

What relationship do you have with them?

Are you friends?
 Quoting: Stella99


Not needing to parent is the goal. That means you did something right. However, you never stop being a parent. Your kids will always need a question answered or advice on something. My dad was never my friend and still isn't. We get along and have intelligent conversations. I ask advice and he will ask my opinion. My mother (who raised my other 4 brothers) was always their friend first. This led to 3 being arrested, one going to prison, all of them doing drugs, one brother with 3 kids, one with 2 kids and the other 2 with 6 kids each.

The point being, you never really stop needing to parent. The parenting simply evolves as time goes on. My kids don't hate and actually like me a lot. However, they respect me because they know I am not here to sit around and be buddy buddy with them.
Bananafighter  (OP)

User ID: 73106219
United States
03/10/2019 08:26 AM

Report Abusive Post
Report Copyright Violation
Re: Parents need to stop trying to be their kids best friend.
...


I do. My first child was born when I was 15. By the time I was 22 I had 4. I have 25 years of experience being a parent. I now have 2 years experience being a grandparent. Isn't it funny how an assumption can go the wrong way? I use my experiences (even having a kid so young) as lessons to my children (all of whom are adults now). I have never tried to be their friend. Friendly yes. They all have jobs, savings and have learned skill sets. They have all helped me hunt, butcher and eat deer. They have assisted me in remodeling my basement, building new doors, fixing cars and cutting down trees. I have joked with them that no job they get will ever be harder than the work I made them do. If I were their friend I might not have been so hard on them as they grew up.
 Quoting: Bananafighter


Having children so young didn't give you the chance to develop yourself...mine turned out great with or without me, who knows...
 Quoting: BRIEF


I don't know. It depends on how you view development. I own my own business and have raised 4 great kids. I divorced my ex wife and took custody of all four. I homeschooled them all, taught them how to drive and survive. I grew up quicker than most because of my father. The way I was raised forced my to adapt quickly. Life is different for everyone.
More on point though, friendly yes, friends no.
 Quoting: Bananafighter


It's apparent to me that the result of your rush to grow up resulted in your lack of ability to connect to your children in a friendship...that's sad to me because I know the joys and rewards of it...
 Quoting: BRIEF


Friendship is one thing friendly is another. I fish and hunt and have played with my children. Sometimes still do. I just don't see a need to hang out with them all the time. They need to grow and foster their own friendships. Meet people and learn life through experience. They will never get that with me being their friend because I will always default to parent. A friend will take you places you have never been. Want to do crazy fun things. Want to live wild and dangerous at times. As a parent I would worry and be cautious. I would hinder that independent growth in them. I would be in the way. I am a parent first and always.
BRIEF

User ID: 39607259
United States
03/10/2019 08:27 AM

Report Abusive Post
Report Copyright Violation
Re: Parents need to stop trying to be their kids best friend.
What happens when the kids are grown and don't need you to parent them?

What relationship do you have with them?

Are you friends?
 Quoting: Stella99


Not needing to parent is the goal. That means you did something right. However, you never stop being a parent. Your kids will always need a question answered or advice on something. My dad was never my friend and still isn't. We get along and have intelligent conversations. I ask advice and he will ask my opinion. My mother (who raised my other 4 brothers) was always their friend first. This led to 3 being arrested, one going to prison, all of them doing drugs, one brother with 3 kids, one with 2 kids and the other 2 with 6 kids each.

The point being, you never really stop needing to parent. The parenting simply evolves as time goes on. My kids don't hate and actually like me a lot. However, they respect me because they know I am not here to sit around and be buddy buddy with them.
 Quoting: Bananafighter


You are missing out on so much...Dad and I used to go hunting and we always took a bottle and afterwards just talk and hang out as friends...I did a ton more fun things with my kids, and they are all moved out and have their own lives and families, but we still make time to just be with each other as friends...

Last Edited by BRIEF on 03/10/2019 08:27 AM
Dog kicker

I never forgive and I never forget

I am a licensed firearm holder. I will, under protection of law, use lethal force if attacked.

Briefcut4892
BRIEF

User ID: 39607259
United States
03/10/2019 08:30 AM

Report Abusive Post
Report Copyright Violation
Re: Parents need to stop trying to be their kids best friend.
...


Having children so young didn't give you the chance to develop yourself...mine turned out great with or without me, who knows...
 Quoting: BRIEF


I don't know. It depends on how you view development. I own my own business and have raised 4 great kids. I divorced my ex wife and took custody of all four. I homeschooled them all, taught them how to drive and survive. I grew up quicker than most because of my father. The way I was raised forced my to adapt quickly. Life is different for everyone.
More on point though, friendly yes, friends no.
 Quoting: Bananafighter


It's apparent to me that the result of your rush to grow up resulted in your lack of ability to connect to your children in a friendship...that's sad to me because I know the joys and rewards of it...
 Quoting: BRIEF


Friendship is one thing friendly is another. I fish and hunt and have played with my children. Sometimes still do. I just don't see a need to hang out with them all the time. They need to grow and foster their own friendships. Meet people and learn life through experience. They will never get that with me being their friend because I will always default to parent. A friend will take you places you have never been. Want to do crazy fun things. Want to live wild and dangerous at times. As a parent I would worry and be cautious. I would hinder that independent growth in them. I would be in the way. I am a parent first and always.
 Quoting: Bananafighter


So you're a parent first and a dick second. I see
Dog kicker

I never forgive and I never forget

I am a licensed firearm holder. I will, under protection of law, use lethal force if attacked.

Briefcut4892