I'm on my 2nd marriage and the reason for failure on the first one was that we married the wrong person. I wasn't for him and he wasn't for me, everything else is just details. That was a while ago, I was young and had a skewed image of what marriage should be.

I am currently married and happier than ever. I bend over backwards for him and he does for me. We are friends first before anything else. He was my friend when I moved to this new state after getting divorced and although his feelings for me were clear, he did not rush me and did not pressure me. He listened to my concerns for a partner. I listened to his. He listened to my plans for the future. I listened to his. It goes on and on.

A marriage is not defined by who pays for what and who does what in bed and who cooks more and whatever else. It's defined by the team dynamic, are you each giving 50% to equal 100% or are you each giving 100%? there's the real question. He is not my other half, better half, or any other half. I'm still all me, he's still all him. Together we are unstoppable. That's how I know this marriage will last many many more years, as intended. More people need to see it this way, especially young people.