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Stand Sure User ID: 77483980 United Kingdom 04/14/2019 02:38 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | She knows fight ending moves and has used what I've said a couple times and came out for the better but I have also taught her not to brag or boost and to look out for those who are being picked on. Teach a child how to think and not what to think _____________________________________ There’s no greater threat to the Palestinians than Hamas itself |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 77556000 United States 04/14/2019 02:44 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I taught them to patiently wait until the opportunity arose where they would not be unfairly persecuted to hurt their attackers so badly that they never thought to try it again. They leave a bruise, you leave multiple contusions , they break a bone, you break a skull.If they're bigger than you, HIRE someone to do it. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 77440760 United States 04/14/2019 02:49 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Is this a joke? Of course, always teach your kids to fight back! Tell them to take the suspension from school or whatever, just fight back, and protect yourself. I picked my son up from school with bloody knuckles . He had to hit a Hispanic that spit in his hair over and over, my son told him if he did it again he would clean his clock. guess what? My son had to punch this idiot in the face, I was so proud of him, you would not believe it! The only think I ever asked was...……… are you ok? was the other idiot worse than you? My son is white and blond and grew up in Mexifornia. You better believe I taught him to take care of himself. |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 77556000 United States 04/14/2019 03:07 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Perhaps a bit.. Basically what I taught my boys is that self defense is not just a God given right, it is a moral imperative that insures the just will not be oppressed by the evil. . If they are bigger and stronger than you there is no shame in picking up a bat, they're forcing you to. On the subject of running way or retreating, all that does is put off the problem to another day, or put it on someone else. The only way to deal with a bully is to beat the shit out of it. |
BirdMom User ID: 77397685 Panama 04/14/2019 03:09 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | My dad told me never to start a fight, but if someone hit me to hit them back. He said that even if I took a beating, it wouldn't be anything near as bad as the relentless torment I'd receive if I allowed myself to be bullied. My dad was right. Inevitably a girl at school who liked to bully younger girls targeted my little sister. She was even two years older than I was, and my sister was just in kindergarten. I threw a punch at this bully the way my dad had taught me and gave her a gusher of a bloody nose. She never dared to bully my sister again, and no one ever bothered me either after that. |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 75155870 United States 04/14/2019 04:23 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Hitting back... Know that it is not always a choice, or a decision made after deliberation. It's simply an instinct in some of us. Just like it's an instinct to not hit women for most men. But I let my kids know that if they do hit back, it had better be on target. File: [Things I learned in the 70's & 80's] |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 77556000 United States 04/14/2019 04:29 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Hitting back... Know that it is not always a choice, or a decision made after deliberation. It's simply an instinct in some of us. Just like it's an instinct to not hit women for most men. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 75155870 But I let my kids know that if they do hit back, it had better be on target. File: [Things I learned in the 70's & 80's] Nothing wrong with a finishing kick to the nuts when they're already down to put an exclamation point on it, either. In other words tween someone is merciless, the velvet gloves come off revealing the iron fist. You dont just beat them, you crush them so they're afraid of you |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 77556000 United States 04/14/2019 04:32 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | You dont have to teach your kid to hit back. That is a natural instinct. Quoting: SilverCyprus The problem is parents who teach their kids to not hit back. Not for all kids. For several years I was afraid of seriously hurting or killing the other kid because I knew damned well i was capable of it. . Then I realized "So what", it's either take that chance or take the abuse |
How do you solve a problem? User ID: 43012952 United Kingdom 04/14/2019 04:33 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Bullies have to be hit back . One son was reluctant to do this but eventually he did after I urged him to and the bullying stopped . My husband’s Father told him to hit and aim for the nose .I do not know if he had to . Another son would have hit back without thinking .. When my Mum had to deal with bullying at school she got both children together in front of her and told the bullied child to hit the abuser .. I was there and the victim was reluctant to do it but did in the end hit the bully at first it was a tap and then they were told to hit harder . My Mum’s classes were well behaved .. and did their work .. Work ...important word ... |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 77556000 United States 04/14/2019 04:34 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I was raised in military family with conservative values. MY father told me that I would only get grounded for fighting if 1- I started the fight and 2- If I didn't defend myself. Quoting: TriggaDre 74760167 Most fights start with the mouth. I personally have no sympathy for someone who goads another into punching their lights out. You could say the wrong thing to me and I'd just punch you in the mouth as hard as I could |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 67511492 United States 04/14/2019 05:17 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Due to my build and compassionate demeanor, I was bullied ruthlessly throughout grade school, and it affected me still many years later. It's OK, I'm doing better than most of those miserable cucks at this point in life. Quoting: Jugz It looks like my son will have a better body type, and although i want him to be compassionate as can be....I might teach him to hit back twice hard. Thoughts? I was taught to try to help others and never start a fight. I was taught only to end fights with extreme prejudice. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 67511492 United States 04/14/2019 05:26 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Due to my build and compassionate demeanor, I was bullied ruthlessly throughout grade school, and it affected me still many years later. It's OK, I'm doing better than most of those miserable cucks at this point in life. Quoting: Jugz It looks like my son will have a better body type, and although i want him to be compassionate as can be....I might teach him to hit back twice hard. Thoughts? I was taught to try to help others and never start a fight. I was taught only to end fights with extreme prejudice. OK Seriously, I was bullied early on until one day a kid in the locker room pushed me into a locker and I got scratched on back from a lock. I had been kind and deflecting up until that point, but when someone makes it clear that they prey on others and the only language they will understand is force, then there is no other option but complete and all-out retaliation. I punched this kid and kicked him so hard that the gym teacher had trouble pulling me off him. I kicked his head into a stone wall on the way out for good measure. He was in the hospital for a few days and had to wear sunglasses for almost a year due to injuries to his eyes. Everyone knew what an ass this guy was and nothing was ever said to me about it by any official. I got praise and my street credit for the that weird social system known as primary school. After that, I said hello to him in the hallways at school, each time a not-so-subtle reminder that I was being nice, that he chose that pain, damage, and humiliation, and that it could have been very different. Some kids are downright evil. True evil only understands the language of force. |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 77033694 United States 04/14/2019 06:25 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Due to my build and compassionate demeanor, I was bullied ruthlessly throughout grade school, and it affected me still many years later. It's OK, I'm doing better than most of those miserable cucks at this point in life. Quoting: Jugz It looks like my son will have a better body type, and although i want him to be compassionate as can be....I might teach him to hit back twice hard. Thoughts? Mine are in Jiu Jitsu. If I let them get the upper hand, they can choke me out I teach them to destroy the assholes. |
A1Janitor User ID: 58658563 United States 04/14/2019 07:20 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | In third grade my daughter was held down by three boys on the playground - and one stuffed dandelions in her mouth. She was taking JKD at the time. After my JKD class, I found out. And I asked her what she did about it. She was crying and said she couldn’t move. And a teacher came over and broke it up. I asked what she did then. She said nothing. I said next time you stand up and kick the closest one in the nuts with a snap kick and then you break the nexts ones jaw. She kicked and hit hard. My ex - a teacher - said I was wrong. My daughter was called down to the principals office ... and she told him what I said. He supported what I said. The only other time ... 8th grade - a big slob was bullying her - after spending time in a hospital for depression and an eating disorder. I went straight to he school and told the principal in no uncertain terms that if that kid does it again - I have instructed her to fight. And if she doesn’t - I will enter the school and teach the motherfucker a lesson. He kid was suspended for a week. Fuck these schools and bullies. Teach your kids how to fight and support their right to defend themselves. |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 67653786 United States 04/14/2019 07:27 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Absolutely. I also teach them that if they know, beyond a doubt, that they will have to fight and there is no way out of it then they better damn well hit first and make it count. Quoting: Whiskey Tango Foxtrot and that's the way it goes. All the bs today about ""bullying"",then their crap on mediation--anyone notice the co-relation of kids really going OFF and killing ? Not that it was better back then....but my high school was a true shit house of racial violence BUT NO ONE EVER showed up the next day w/a firearm and shot the place up and hand guns were plentiful particularly the reliable saturday nite special and LOL zip guns. Parents today are raising a bunch of kids that cannot even handle a LOUD VERBAL RANK OUT ending w/a F U. |
MissCleo User ID: 77082640 United States 04/14/2019 07:29 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I was raised in military family with conservative values. MY father told me that I would only get grounded for fighting if 1- I started the fight and 2- If I didn't defend myself. Quoting: TriggaDre 74760167 Most fights start with the mouth. I personally have no sympathy for someone who goads another into punching their lights out. You could say the wrong thing to me and I'd just punch you in the mouth as hard as I could yep. Karpman's Triangle. A Persecutor attempts to bully a Victim. At that point the Victim has a choice to be a Victim or a Rescuer. First words to the Bully/Persecutor should be to the effect of: "you need to find comfort elsewhere". Bullies are looking for the basic needs that they are not getting at home, love, security, support. The parents are responsible (always). |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 67653786 United States 04/14/2019 07:46 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Violence is a last resort. Violence is a negative coping skill. Quoting: MissCleo Teach kids how to communicate and use positive coping skills. LOL true that violence should be the last resort BUT you are dealing w/subhuman assholes starting w/YOU simply for the hell of it. that's how THEY "communicate" & you better reply loud and clear. when people YOU DON'T EVEN KNOW get in yer face claiming YOU are spreading rumors whatever,you know they are mental cases and will slam you all around etc. so it's necessary to END IT right there. Not all grew up in peaceful places and NEVER instigated,only responded. you are not dealing w/healthy people. Like the time a young black guy was following a young white female dressed appropriately for an office type job down the subway stairs,entered the same area w/her and was really harassing her-she looked SCARED-and being NYC is transformed into A yuptardia snowflake nation. NO MAN INTERVENED-get it ? so being how we were raised, I simply TOLD this moran that I AM GIVING HIM 3 choices-leave her alone, OR do YOU wanna go feet first OR do you prefer HEAD first on the muthafkkn tracks-I was REAL LOUD- he took the hint,moved on to harass anther white female so I yelled to keep moving--when he pulled a knife on a group of hondurans he met his match and finally some yuptard called 911 as it was unknown if the conductor radio'd ahead for police response. NOW would asking this guy what's the problem have worked or telling him his choices work, and yeah i meant it as I WAS TIRED and not gonna listen to his BS for a minute more. again, you are NOT DEALING with normal people and even in high school,they are fkd up mentally and exhibiting IT. NO ONE has the right to get in yer face UNPROVOKED. |
seekinginformation User ID: 77557809 United States 04/14/2019 07:51 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Due to my build and compassionate demeanor, I was bullied ruthlessly throughout grade school, and it affected me still many years later. It's OK, I'm doing better than most of those miserable cucks at this point in life. Quoting: Jugz It looks like my son will have a better body type, and although i want him to be compassionate as can be....I might teach him to hit back twice hard. Thoughts? You are correct. He needs to know that his life (and his dignity) is VALUABLE. He needs to know that protecting himself and others is an imperative. He needs to know that if he is attacked by ANYONE he should not only hit back, he should keep hitting until his opponent is crying and begging him to stop. Seekinginformation |
HarshingMyMellow User ID: 77554299 United States 04/14/2019 07:51 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Violence is a last resort. Violence is a negative coping skill. Quoting: MissCleo Teach kids how to communicate and use positive coping skills. There was a boy at school, raised by two lesbians, and he is one of those kids everything offends, we live in Arkansas, ffs. This kid comes to school and is offended by the Janitor's "Jesus Saves" shirt. He points out the shirt to the principal in front of the students, she sends him home to change clothes. My kid loves this Janitor, he is the sweetest man and is always encouraging her and others to do their best. She heard the story and came in the next day and threw him across two of those lunch tables into the wall. He went to a different school not long after that and I am glad. I didn't approve, but she was standing up for her friend who couldn't do anything. It all built up to that, he was always doing thing like that. ========================== Psalm 46:10 Be still, and know that I am God: I will be exalted among the heathen, I will be exalted in the earth. |
MissCleo User ID: 77082640 United States 04/14/2019 07:56 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Violence is a last resort. Violence is a negative coping skill. Quoting: MissCleo Teach kids how to communicate and use positive coping skills. LOL true that violence should be the last resort BUT you are dealing w/subhuman assholes starting w/YOU simply for the hell of it. that's how THEY "communicate" & you better reply loud and clear. when people YOU DON'T EVEN KNOW get in yer face claiming YOU are spreading rumors whatever,you know they are mental cases and will slam you all around etc. so it's necessary to END IT right there. Not all grew up in peaceful places and NEVER instigated,only responded. you are not dealing w/healthy people. Like the time a young black guy was following a young white female dressed appropriately for an office type job down the subway stairs,entered the same area w/her and was really harassing her-she looked SCARED-and being NYC is transformed into A yuptardia snowflake nation. NO MAN INTERVENED-get it ? so being how we were raised, I simply TOLD this moran that I AM GIVING HIM 3 choices-leave her alone, OR do YOU wanna go feet first OR do you prefer HEAD first on the muthafkkn tracks-I was REAL LOUD- he took the hint,moved on to harass anther white female so I yelled to keep moving--when he pulled a knife on a group of hondurans he met his match and finally some yuptard called 911 as it was unknown if the conductor radio'd ahead for police response. NOW would asking this guy what's the problem have worked or telling him his choices work, and yeah i meant it as I WAS TIRED and not gonna listen to his BS for a minute more. again, you are NOT DEALING with normal people and even in high school,they are fkd up mentally and exhibiting IT. NO ONE has the right to get in yer face UNPROVOKED. I agree. And it's a shame that Law Enforcement has become obsolete. We only have our own protection in most instances now. Women are especially vulnerable. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 75945643 United States 04/14/2019 08:10 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I tell my kids to stay away from violent kids that act out. Its not simple playground brawling anymore. The danger lies in what's going on at home. In my home we don't resolve arguments by hitting. Stay away from people who do. Violent resolutions in my community include gangs who shoot and kill in vengeance. Now, I see my kid at school at recess play fighting, both sides slapping and pushing. Physical play is a normal part of growing up including getting rough. But these days, kids who are violently acting out most likely have adults in their life acting out. Usually this includes weapons and these kids are going to copy that behavior. I tell my kid to get out of the spaces where these types are. They dont usually target individuals in a personal level, just the closest victim theta can get a hold of. These types of kids move schools a lot, they end up in special schools, detention centers and by 18 usually jail. |