Time for dad to be the dad. The kiddo IS NOT in charge... do whatever it takes to save your son. His life depends on you being the adult and making the right decisions. Personally, I think the situation is demanding more of your time than you've been giving. He's a child & will make choices based on his immaturity. You're the adult and should be making decisions based on your wisdom. For his sake, I hope you do the right thing.