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Living with a gaslighter. Help. | |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 60502257  United States05/06/2019 04:42 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | |
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| Anonymous Coward (OP) User ID: 60502257 United States05/06/2019 04:45 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | When someone says they never said or did something they quite clearly did. When they exagerate in order to make you look bad. When they try to undermine your self esteem at times because they know you're better than them. Basically just lying in general. |
| Anonymous Coward (OP) User ID: 60502257 United States05/06/2019 04:46 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | |
nutmeg  User ID: 76388104 United States05/06/2019 04:47 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | |
| Anonymous Coward (OP) User ID: 60502257 United States05/06/2019 04:48 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | |
| ISO User ID: 76734104 United States05/06/2019 04:50 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Gaslighting is a specific kind of emotional abuse designed to make the victim doubt their own perceptions, memory, and reality. And yes, it is a very cruel and sadistic thing to do to someone you purport to love, who trusts you. Quoting: nutmeg Thats what I'm referring to. It's what liberal media does 24/7 to the American public. |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 76984449 United States05/06/2019 04:53 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Go to you tube and search for gaslighting. Lots of info on there. Search malignant narcissists as well. And of course do the work on self love so you can leave them behind you. So much info on there. It has helped me so much. Sounds like you are ready to get better. |
| anonymous coward User ID: 76076258 United States05/06/2019 04:54 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | |
| Red John User ID: 36672675 Canada05/06/2019 04:55 PM  Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | FFS no that's a Blue Angel Gaslighting is continuously changing the terms of the relationship and interactions within the relationship via manipulation, through double speak, double standards, and one way street eg. one night it's : when are we gonna fuck? next night is: it's never gonna happen buddy get away from me ... and various other methods of mental and emotional manipulation ad nauseum ad infinitum oh hai! |
| Anonymous Coward (OP) User ID: 60502257 United States05/06/2019 04:55 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Go to you tube and search for gaslighting. Lots of info on there. Search malignant narcissists as well. And of course do the work on self love so you can leave them behind you. So much info on there. It has helped me so much. Sounds like you are ready to get better. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 76984449 I've read alot about it. Thank you. I'm trying to work on myself. It's tough. |
| Anonymous Coward (OP) User ID: 60502257 United States05/06/2019 04:58 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | |
| Imlay User ID: 1307397 United States05/06/2019 04:59 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 77610428 United States05/06/2019 05:08 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | |
| Imlay User ID: 1307397 United States05/06/2019 05:09 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | It's clear you don't want to do anything, so stay and complain about something you refuse to change- you. Run! We're king of the beasts but we're hardly civilized. |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 77610428 United States05/06/2019 05:12 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Staying together for children is simply exposing the next generation to this sickness. Knowing what you know at this point, you are just as unhealthy. You staying and making excuses is damaging your children's lives. Clearly, this is easier than being strong and making their adult lives better. Quoting: Imlay It's clear you don't want to do anything, so stay and complain about something you refuse to change- you. Run! shut the fuck up feminist cunt |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 77568619 Canada05/06/2019 05:15 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Staying together for children is simply exposing the next generation to this sickness. Knowing what you know at this point, you are just as unhealthy. You staying and making excuses is damaging your children's lives. Clearly, this is easier than being strong and making their adult lives better. Quoting: Imlay It's clear you don't want to do anything, so stay and complain about something you refuse to change- you. Run!  |
| Imlay User ID: 1307397 United States05/06/2019 05:15 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 70394243 United States05/06/2019 05:19 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | OP is from reddit and voted for hillary. Exaggerating you are a dumbass snow flake is an understatement. I'm surprised you haven't purchased a gun and killed the people you live with. Good thing you crazy lefties usually have recorded mental problems and can't purchase a gun anyways. Stop saying orange man bad, stop talking about climate change and womens rights, we know you don't care about that shit anyways. |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 62781594 Canada05/06/2019 05:20 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 72454640 United States05/06/2019 05:26 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | When someone says they never said or did something they quite clearly did. When they exagerate in order to make you look bad. When they try to undermine your self esteem at times because they know you're better than them. Basically just lying in general. Anyone I have ever heard use the term "gaslighting," they are actually the person who is doing the "gaslighting," and somehow in their mind justify playing the victim. Not trying to be rude, but that is 100% honest, which is why I had to post it. |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 75867049 United States05/06/2019 05:27 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | We're in several kids deep. There's a financial hold over me. Besides I don't wanna break up my family. We still have great times and love. It's not that easy. I made my bed. godless you bro i made the mistake as well falling in love with someone with deep narcissist tendencies. made a child with a cheater by mistake, that might not be mine, "DNA testing needs to be Done" but thanks to stories like yours and others I'm going to dodge the next bullet. she wanted me to stay for the child, but all she does is talk shit. I'm the dead beat father " even thought child hasn't been born yet", she loves saying" I Don't know how to live", that's I'm pathetic i never wanted my child to be brought up by one parent,but both and i would have been there for her, but hey.... |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 68560474 United States05/06/2019 05:28 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | When someone says they never said or did something they quite clearly did. When they exagerate in order to make you look bad. When they try to undermine your self esteem at times because they know you're better than them. Basically just lying in general. Oh, like Obama did everyday. I get it. |
| Anonymous Coward (OP) User ID: 60502257 United States05/06/2019 05:29 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | When someone says they never said or did something they quite clearly did. When they exagerate in order to make you look bad. When they try to undermine your self esteem at times because they know you're better than them. Basically just lying in general. Anyone I have ever heard use the term "gaslighting," they are actually the person who is doing the "gaslighting," and somehow in their mind justify playing the victim. Not trying to be rude, but that is 100% honest, which is why I had to post it. I understand. I didn't even know that was the term for it until I did some research on these people's behavior. Like I honestly had never met someone who lied so much and about the stupidest things. My parents did it to me, and my husband does too. I think my husband is genuinely trying to change, but he still does it sometimes. |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 75945643 United States05/06/2019 05:31 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | |
| Anonymous Coward (OP) User ID: 60502257 United States05/06/2019 05:31 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | We're in several kids deep. There's a financial hold over me. Besides I don't wanna break up my family. We still have great times and love. It's not that easy. I made my bed. godless you bro i made the mistake as well falling in love with someone with deep narcissist tendencies. made a child with a cheater by mistake, that might not be mine, "DNA testing needs to be Done" but thanks to stories like yours and others I'm going to dodge the next bullet. she wanted me to stay for the child, but all she does is talk shit. I'm the dead beat father " even thought child hasn't been born yet", she loves saying" I Don't know how to live", that's I'm pathetic i never wanted my child to be brought up by one parent,but both and i would have been there for her, but hey.... I'm not a bro lol but thanks. Some people get it from their parents and never try to change. Others do. I'm sorry about your situation. I understand. It sucks. People are disappointing. |
| Daggo User ID: 77035453 United States05/06/2019 05:32 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | If everybody you know does this supposed gaslighting to you as you say then you've got a problem. Either you're in a mulitple million dollar project to target you for no reason or you have Paranoid Schizophrenia. Sadly, statically it's the latter, but you can't see your problem because it seems to make sense to you that people are out to get you. Go seek professional help. :Pirate Flag: 8-14-2018 The day Free Speech died in America |
| Anonymous Coward (OP) User ID: 60502257 United States05/06/2019 05:36 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | If everybody you know does this supposed gaslighting to you as you say then you've got a problem. Either you're in a mulitple million dollar project to target you for no reason or you have Paranoid Schizophrenia. Sadly, statically it's the latter, but you can't see your problem because it seems to make sense to you that people are out to get you. Quoting: Daggo Go seek professional help. I dont think everyone is out to get me. I just call out bullshit behavior when I see it. The people closest to me do this. I have a photographic memory, which helps me recall the lies I'm told. I don't make things up. I don't have to make things up. |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 75867049 United States05/06/2019 05:37 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | We're in several kids deep. There's a financial hold over me. Besides I don't wanna break up my family. We still have great times and love. It's not that easy. I made my bed. godless you bro i made the mistake as well falling in love with someone with deep narcissist tendencies. made a child with a cheater by mistake, that might not be mine, "DNA testing needs to be Done" but thanks to stories like yours and others I'm going to dodge the next bullet. she wanted me to stay for the child, but all she does is talk shit. I'm the dead beat father " even thought child hasn't been born yet", she loves saying" I Don't know how to live", that's I'm pathetic i never wanted my child to be brought up by one parent,but both and i would have been there for her, but hey.... I'm not a bro lol but thanks. Some people get it from their parents and never try to change. Others do. I'm sorry about your situation. I understand. It sucks. People are disappointing. no and i dont blame her, she didn't grow up properly, saw her mother with different men just about every other evening. |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 75945643 United States05/06/2019 05:54 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | If everybody you know does this supposed gaslighting to you as you say then you've got a problem. Either you're in a mulitple million dollar project to target you for no reason or you have Paranoid Schizophrenia. Sadly, statically it's the latter, but you can't see your problem because it seems to make sense to you that people are out to get you. Quoting: Daggo Go seek professional help. I dont think everyone is out to get me. I just call out bullshit behavior when I see it. The people closest to me do this. I have a photographic memory, which helps me recall the lies I'm told. I don't make things up. I don't have to make things up. So try to be secure in your truth without allowing the gaslighter to upset you. You don't have to confront them, just keep it clear in your head that you know your truth. |
