How do I ask a man of the church for his time?

I joined the Army at 18 almost immediately after my 18th birthday in 1/2000 and was almost immediately shipped off. This isn’t a thing of PTSD, or “I saw this and can’t get it out of my head” or that kind of thing. This is an incident that happened after my return that still affects me today. I actually posted about it in here years ago. Like 5+ years ago, but this isn’t really the place to be confiding this sort of thing. The chaplain all those years ago gave me an empty answer in all of his arrogance that was almost an insult.

Over the past few months I’ve considered this idea. I’m not really interested in going to a regular weekly service, celebration won’t give me what I seek. I’m originally from Atlanta and say whatever you’d like, but the churches in inner cities are filled with some of the most legitimate attendees who have what many don’t. I’ve considered asking someone there, as to it’s something they might be familiar with although I’m a white guy. (Ironic) but it’s not a deal breaker.

I know these men have families and their own lives, and I imagine that leading a church is a full time job in itself, but although I’ve never been a churchgoer, I’ve highly respected the wisdom of those who are true in their faith and wiser than the others. But I don’t know how to approach these guys. I can be a smart ass, and have fun, but GLP is the first time I’ve even asked about it or brought it up. I haven’t brought it up to my wife or parents because I don’t want them to worry about me. I know someone here knows this simple courtesy, I just want to make sure I don’t interrupt and do it with the respect and integrity I want to.