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| PostIndustrialPeace User ID: 77410504  United States05/20/2019 07:37 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | |
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| ^EyeSeeAll^ User ID: 34398756 United States05/20/2019 07:48 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | So my son’s mother went crazy about 3-4 years ago. She threatened his life when he was an infant and mine as well as insane accusations and basically making our lives hell. Quoting: PostIndustrialPeace 77410504 She got involuntarily committed a few years back and I got full custody with restraining orders. She didn’t even show up to court... after she was out of the psych hospital and had two chances. Now her mother (who has basically reached out 5 times in 3 years and never visited) is messaging me did i know she had a daughter now. I say no and say good luck to her. Then the mom says she sent you a friends request. I say Ok. Why would I accept this invite and what do I do when her mom asks why I didn’t accept it? I’ve never asked or gotten anything from her as far as child support. I stopped contacting her when I found out the psych hospital didn’t help. For all I know she doesn’t have custody of this daughter either. I would rather not burn all bridges with her family, my son’s relatives but I feel like I can’t accept this invite. Also I know Facebook is fucking retarded but I do use it keep I touch with family time to time. No. Fucking. Way. Gonna try to get involved with your kid's life again and just be a negative, inconsistent presence in your son's life and let him down when he just starts to trust her. Anybody that went as crazy as she did needs to move on from the past and so do you and your son. I can only imagine the accusations she lobbed against you at the start of it all. TRUMP 2020 Willam Barr 2024 |
| ***SUPERFLY*** User ID: 75817200 United States05/20/2019 07:53 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | ***SUPERFLY*** If we only knew what the fly on the wall knows!! |
| Mental Case User ID: 77665933 United States05/20/2019 08:24 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Just say: I'm not comfortable with the invite at this time due to the fact that she threatened my sons life and mine. Perhaps some time in the future when my son is older...but not at this time...thank you. If I am going to be damned...I am going to be damned for who I really am! |
| Mental Case User ID: 77665933 United States05/20/2019 08:26 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 69942021 United States05/20/2019 08:27 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | |
| UrMomsD1ld0 User ID: 77302328 United States05/20/2019 08:35 PM  Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | First off how old is the child because it is punishment to the child to not be able to see their mother my son's mother was addicted to heroin and stole him and when I finally got him back ,after about five years I let him go see his mom and he made the decision from there that he didn't want to see her anymore but it wasn't me keeping him away because that makes them hate you |
| nutmeg User ID: 76388104 United States05/20/2019 08:37 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | So my son’s mother went crazy about 3-4 years ago. She threatened his life when he was an infant and mine as well as insane accusations and basically making our lives hell. Quoting: PostIndustrialPeace 77410504 She got involuntarily committed a few years back and I got full custody with restraining orders. She didn’t even show up to court... after she was out of the psych hospital and had two chances. Now her mother (who has basically reached out 5 times in 3 years and never visited) is messaging me did i know she had a daughter now. I say no and say good luck to her. Then the mom says she sent you a friends request. I say Ok. Why would I accept this invite and what do I do when her mom asks why I didn’t accept it? I’ve never asked or gotten anything from her as far as child support. I stopped contacting her when I found out the psych hospital didn’t help. For all I know she doesn’t have custody of this daughter either. I would rather not burn all bridges with her family, my son’s relatives but I feel like I can’t accept this invite. Also I know Facebook is fucking retarded but I do use it keep I touch with family time to time. Just don't accept it. Ignore it. |
| PostIndustrialPeace (OP) User ID: 77410504 United States05/20/2019 09:04 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | First off how old is the child because it is punishment to the child to not be able to see their mother my son's mother was addicted to heroin and stole him and when I finally got him back ,after about five years I let him go see his mom and he made the decision from there that he didn't want to see her anymore but it wasn't me keeping him away because that makes them hate you Quoting: UrMomsD1ld0 He’s 3 and a 1/2 she’s been gone for about 2 years and he doesn’t seem to remember her and has done way better than he ever did before she was gone. |
| PostIndustrialPeace (OP) User ID: 77410504 United States05/20/2019 09:06 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Thanks for the feedback from a few different people on the thread hopefully her crazy mother can handle it when I let her know. She’s pretty crazy herself but that’s a whole different can of worms lol I will continue to do what’s best for my son and if bridges get burned so be it. GLP advice to the rescue best forum ever thanks guys!! |
| Red John User ID: 36786038  Canada05/20/2019 09:26 PM  Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | First off how old is the child because it is punishment to the child to not be able to see their mother my son's mother was addicted to heroin and stole him and when I finally got him back ,after about five years I let him go see his mom and he made the decision from there that he didn't want to see her anymore but it wasn't me keeping him away because that makes them hate you Quoting: UrMomsD1ld0 He’s 3 and a 1/2 she’s been gone for about 2 years and he doesn’t seem to remember her and has done way better than he ever did before she was gone. he won't have a clue who she is children do not form retained memories before age 2 - 3 I lost my mum when I was 3 I have no remembrance of her whatsoever I lost my step mum when I was 5 I remember my first memories being with her not my birth mum there will be no feelings of punishment or being deprived because the child never knew the birth mum avoid reconnecting because if she's still nutz then the potential for damage is increased rather than if he never meets her Last Edited by Still-Here on 05/20/2019 09:59 PM oh hai! |
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| Anonymous Coward User ID: 77662731 United States05/20/2019 09:35 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I blew several chances to have a mentally ill unstable person to be permanently removed from my kids lives. They are both 30ish now but went through hell because mom is crazy and I did not do enough to stop it. The biggest regret of my life. Dont worry what grandnma thinks. Take my word for this. The apples rarely fall to far from the tree. If you still are dumb enough to allow contact get your ex to give you a release of info so you can talk to her mental health professional. If she does not have one, well red flag 10. If she is not on meds another red banner. |
| MissCleo User ID: 77082640 United States05/20/2019 09:46 PM  Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I'm a single dad and every decision I make is to PROTECT my children from idiocy, mental harm and being put in compromising positions. Use your heart but mostly your gut on this one and mostly your logical mind. Ask yourself, what is the benifit of this sudden shake up in the stable world you have built for them? Quoting: ***SUPERFLY*** This. We are the adults and have to make decisions based on what's best for the child. Set boundaries, stick to them. I wish someone would have protected me from bad parents when I was a child of a divorce. Last Edited by Agent 99 on 05/20/2019 09:46 PM |
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| Cleolotus User ID: 77660896  New Zealand05/20/2019 10:01 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | So my son’s mother went crazy about 3-4 years ago. She threatened his life when he was an infant and mine as well as insane accusations and basically making our lives hell. Quoting: PostIndustrialPeace 77410504 She got involuntarily committed a few years back and I got full custody with restraining orders. She didn’t even show up to court... after she was out of the psych hospital and had two chances. Now her mother (who has basically reached out 5 times in 3 years and never visited) is messaging me did i know she had a daughter now. I say no and say good luck to her. Then the mom says she sent you a friends request. I say Ok. Why would I accept this invite and what do I do when her mom asks why I didn’t accept it? I’ve never asked or gotten anything from her as far as child support. I stopped contacting her when I found out the psych hospital didn’t help. For all I know she doesn’t have custody of this daughter either. I would rather not burn all bridges with her family, my son’s relatives but I feel like I can’t accept this invite. Also I know Facebook is fucking retarded but I do use it keep I touch with family time to time. Definitely don't accept the Friend Request! You do not owe her anything! If her Mother says anything just say you would rather let bygones be bygones due to what happened in the past. I can only see future stress and manipulation from her if you accept! |
