It’s ok to cut ties from anyone toxic, especially if they’ve been that way forever.

One exception I learned....my step dad became a real asshole, he used to be a great guy with a positive attitude, then gradually was so mean and pessimistic and opinionated to the point where you couldn’t listen, or you would be so down - about everything. Well turned out he had cancer and that was taking a huge toll on his mental state. So we made amends. But even now, if he gets to that pessimistic state and is trying to influence me or my kid to look at the world like its shit, we dont hang around. We don’t need butterflies and rianbows, and we can sympathize at times for the pain, and try to help him, but not to the point of hearing all his opinions and then feeling like shit. Still trying to figure out boundaries but its getting better.