Do not take her back right now. She's still an addict. She needs to prove herself by going to an extensive rehab and staying sober for at least a year before she moves back in with you and the kids.

Also, since you dont know where shes been all this time you MUST have her get tested for every STD and disease known to man before you even think of sleeping with her.

I was married to a man addicted to alcohol. They dont care about us they only care about the substance they are abusing.

Dont put yourself through that hurt again. You have no idea where she has been for three years and like another poster said she could just be turning to you right now because shes hit rock bottom and thinks she can come back and use you for money and a place to sleep. She could have hepatitis c from shooting up or worse Aids.

I divorced my alcoholic husband inn 2014, he was also a needle user. Three years later he died from his alcholism. but two months before he had been diagnosed with Hep C....so yea DONT sleep with her unless she gets tested for EVERYTHING

I hate to say this but all she cares about is the heroin right now. She admitted to you she was an addict. and dont waste your time trying to be involved in her life right now. Tell her love and support her but she must seek help on her own and do right by herself. she has to go get clean find a job and prove she can stay sober. in the meantime you must continue to live your life and focus on your children and yourself.

Otherwise you could end up wasting more of your time and your life when she relapses. Tell her to give you a call when shes finished with rehab and has been sober for year