My sister died of cancer on June 16th of this year. She and I are/were both medical professionals (Med Tech/Nurse).

Sissy was resistant to Hospice in the beginning. When the doctor recommends Hospice, it's the final wake up call. Hard to swallow. I let her ponder the thought for a few weeks. She was determined to die in our home in the mountains. No facilities. Home Hospice was the only answer.

As it turned out, it was quite the blessing. No more running back and forth to the doctors office, meds paid for and delivered to our door. The nurses were splendid. Weren't pushy but available when we needed them.

When she finally passed, it was very quick and for the most part painless. The hospice people instructed me what to do for her but didn't hover. Only came when I asked them to. She wasn't fearful, quite the contrary, when she was "aware", she was in good spirits.

I wouldn't have done things a different way. That said, each person's experience is different. A lot depends on where you want to spend your last days. Home is always best IMO.

God Bless and good luck on your journey