Any advice on how to deal with todays teenagers?

Nothing will.

Social media is the biggest poison to their brains.

That and Tide Pods

Specific examples?

I raised three boys and we resolved any conflicts with dialog...we had very few disagreements...they stayed busy with sports and girls...

But when was this? Recently or years ago?

tell him to stop acting like a mi99er or you gonna kick him tf out,

then kick him out anyway n get the locks changed

Not sure about the tough love approach in todays world. Preditors look for thkse ki d of kids and the kids think they are worldly from the i ternet yet have no real world experience

Too late. That's why you raise them right in their pre-teen years.

Liberals have made complaining like a child about everything, regardless of age, an "accepted" social behavior.

Until they realise how stupid they look, you can't help.

Your best bet is to trip up their complaints to the point they see that their mindset is the only real problem

Teens always been rebellious but social media is fanning the flames of bad behavior and reinforcing their delusions.....take the incel phenomenon.....there were always socially awkward people, but now festering in numbers its society's fault.....back in the day these kids adapted and moved on in life....

Eliminate every connected device and game console. Turn off the internet. If they have access to any of the above, smartphones and the like, they will only get reinforcement from their liberal friends and liberal social media. Are you a Conservative? Do you have a home church? All these are very important.

If you can't do this, your children are lost.

Simple op

Tell them that is fine, you carry on, but unless you sort your shit out and fall in line, on your 16th birthday at 7am sharp I am kicking you out the family house.


That's what I'm going to do, as I expect similar situations for me.


I had to leave home at a young age, made me who I am today, so don't worry.




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Keep them away from the media and social media. Talk with them about everything. Eat together - it's proven that people bond over food. Basically, GO BACK TO THE OLD WAYS. Good luck.

padded cell and a shock collar

If we keep telling them their brain is an app...they might start using it.

If you dont lay down the law in the preteen years, its tough. My teenager tells me everything. I dont even have to ask. Earn trust and respect, then you can get through to them.

Teens have always been a trainwreck in slowmo. Your job is to ensure that as little permanent long-term damage happens. Don't sweat about the minor stuff like sex experiments, alcohol, weed, fights or average school performance (I was a solid C- student, now I've got a doctorate from MIT). As long as it doesn't go overboard, it's tolerable.

Teens are surging with hormones, creating feelings of intensity never felt before. Media encourages outrageous responses and kids mirror what they see.

Validate their feelings, but look to compromised solutions to get things accomplished. You have to walk them through it. You are the adult and must not get drawn in, avoid fighting drama by raising the drama.

Speak at a calm level and explain you understand they feel "put out", but they need to do XYZ . Come up with a plan how you can complete task at hand and help or encourage. Ultimately if they make the decision not to follow through explain the consequences. In a few years teens are own their own. Lots of young adults get support from their parents but plenty are kicked to the curb at 18. What is it going to be for you guys? This is a relationship. Take responsibility on both sides.

Make Tik Tok videos about your concerns.

Then share the video with them, they will better understand you.

Reform the education system!

Beat them and take away their shit when they don’t listen.

Don't put them on psychiatric meds!!!!

Sun Tzu: If I have not made my expectations clear, then it is my fault.

If I have made it clear and you do not carry out my orders, then it is your fault.

talk to them like grownups..tell them like it is..tell them once they are 18 they can do what they want and you can pay for what you want..and they won't get a dime unless they are doing the right thing.

it really depends a lot on the teens..2 of mine were really good natured and hard working..2 were bucking and kicking all the time and acting like 12 yo's. Don't enable bad behaviour..always praise and reward sound behavior.

When I had teens I just told them, if you don't make it from the million dollar education system, you'll have no choice about making it in the billion dollar prison system.

One trick is to appreciate that teens are moody and you would be as well... Intense hormones, trash food, no sleep, comparison pressures 24/7 with snap chat, Instagram, pressure from coaches, minimum wage jobs and college classes are now part of the highschool expectations...


Given the above context meet with your teen at a set time, like an appointment. Outline everything that is going down that week as a family and outline your expectations like I will need help with the lawn, so they can plan for it. Kids hate to be asked even the smalles thing be required of them when they just made other plans.

If your teen is very frustrated with home life an appointment may not be enough you may need a contract. IT would look like, teen will do this by this time frame and teen will be home by this time frame, these are the awards we agree to and these are the consequences we agree to. Both you and your teen sign this contract.


Teens are all about fairness. Respect that and use it to your advantage.



Be interested in them and treat them the way you want to be treated. Explain your reasoning with the whys and know they actually want to please their parents. They love and respect you as you love and respect them!


Good luck.

Also talk about drugs and why they take so much out of people. Teens like never before are expected to try all kinds of crap that just makes everything ten times harder at this stage of life.

Try to have them stay kids as long as possible so they can have maturity on their side when faced with the adult problems just better to be an adult when dealing with the adult problems.

We are all seeing the fruits of the coddling nineties when no one was held back at school and everyone got a gold star. God forbid Johnny got his feelings hurt.

Social media is a military-controlled social engineering evil that has got these youngsters by their noses. And, aware from their parents and family unit.

Parents needs to be firm. You don't ground a kid for a week then turn around and lift it an hour later because you're a softy.

Everyone has to contribute to the management of the household, be it lawn mowing or laundry cooking a family meal once a month to cleaning/washing the cars (especially if they get to drive them).

No phones at the dinner table, a common area computer - not in their rooms.

No one gets a free pass.

In the long run kids want firm but fair discipline, they want consistent and dependable structure, they want to respect your authority as it develops their skills for integration into society and relationships.

When I was a terrible teenager my minister took me and the other teens to the local county jail, to show you where bad choices take you. That helped a little. Having a couple of really good teachers, aunts & uncles, mentors always helped because I wouldn't listen to mom and dad.

Another thing you could try is sign your teen up to do ride alongs with your local police, first aid squad or first responders. They can see and learn about real life and death experiences, plus they may enjoy it and find a career path.

Just a few thoughts. Most importantly spend time with them, and keep God in their lives!

Now a days you’re minister will take you to a drag show.