now that I'm 50 i look back and cannot believe my parents never gave me any instruction on how to live whatsoever

The bank is not your friend.
Stay out of debt.

Only life experience passed by WW2 era hardworking parents.

You made it to 50. Shut up, Jimmy.

Be Careful and You might want to read this thread. Head injuries are traumatic... Thread: "Take Good care of Your Noggin"

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Sounds like your life wasn't nerfed like most kids these days. As a parent I find a good middle road with too much parenting and room for them to grow on their own.

I don't know why some people got upset with the OP. He's simply stating his

reality. If it's not of interest to you why hang in the thread.

All our life experiences are different... with multiple variables. Maybe some people

can relate to what he said and others won't

I wouldn't bother to even share other than as I said earlier, I made a mental note

at 8 years old.. my kids lives would be very different and they were. That, for me

makes everything prior of worth, even though I would never choose to repeat it.

We're all snowflakes in that we're all beautifully different. Allow people to share..

geeez

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Hey OP, I hope now that you see all the other whiners, you're not alone, so stop feeling sorry for yourself. You are not special. Your fate is as it should be, you were not made to continue, your life blood ends with you. YOU ARE RESPONSIBLE FOR YOU and that's all you could handle.

One more thing, I'm 50 and could say the same,"boo-hoo, my parents didn't do this or that..." I did that in my 20s. GROW UP.

how can you be taught anything..ma and dad go to work..if they open their mouth they get fired and then blacklisted.

those who get their education at the federal sponsored schools got no chance

You are 50? The knowledge is out there, go get it!
It took you this long to figure out that you’re stupid?
Blame everyone else, but not yourself. Wow!

Go fuck yourself asshole! I had to learn every lesson the fucking hard way! Tak your self pity and jam it up your ass dickhead!

How much of the thread have you read? This comment seems a little out of place to me.

I am observing that most people on this thread are not blaming anybody else...what they are saying is they learned from it to make them and their children lives better...deal with it, nobody asking you to like it

as hard as mass media try to make us all a bunch of idiots...most of us remain normal...much to your chagrin

Don't let that AC get you riled up. There are others here who understood your words and get it.

One of the worst things you can say to someone over 50 and depressed is "it's never to late"

It is to late, it's to late for almost everything.

I've been unloved my entire life. Every brother, father, Uncle, mother, anyone I ever knew, not one person loved me one bit. I'm 60 now and life sucks as bad as it did every day of my life.

If I didn't have gratitude and love animals and nature enough to use that to sustain me, I would have died a long time ago.

It also fascinates me I'm not an alcoholic or drug addict.

I might make one more call, to find out if anything can be done to save what's left.

I doubt it.

Been pondering the same question lately. My parents literally taught me nothing about life when I was young (or older)... except to spend my Chuck E. Cheese tokens slower. Would have been nice to at least get some pointers

If you're looking behind you, you can't see what's ahead. Living in the past is to embrace regret and despair. You can't pick your patents but you can pick how you move forward and moving forward means a certain hopefulness. Don't be bitter, be better.

watch out, the man up suck it up brigade is here to tell you about uphill in the snow, both ways, blah blah blah.

I'm 36 and my mom never taught me anything, she would get mad at me if I was anywhere near the kitchen while she cooked. I have a 2yr old now and won't be anything like her, I plan on teaching my son everything I can.

If you think this neglect at a young age doesn't fuck people up, Just ask Michael Jackson.

we are all doing the best we can and I can't notice that society advances with or without you

i like christian people a lot, they are so nice and live saving friendliness almost anywhere you go

religion by itself filled my head with lots of sick delusions mostly, can't say it was too beneficial. always waiting for end of the world, or thinking I should give all my money away and wander around homeless like a prophet, fills me with all kinds of really super bad advice, like it's a death spell or something

i know it helps a lot of people, they are totally sane with religion. to be honest though, i dont think they really take anything serious about the bible actually says, but there's some kind of life force in the words, it's true!

to be honest you have to just absorb the life force and let the actual words and meaning go. words are meaningless anyways, all that matters is life force. you could be total illiterate and if you got a big life force, life yields to your desires.

but of courrse, the dynasties know all the magic too, they got all the varsity players AND the occult knowledge, as usual, every advantage to those who don't need it and every disadvantage to the people who are pinned down by life's shit show

Wrong! As a parent, if I can't improve the standing of my son by influencing others to assist him then I haven't done my job! My job is to open doors and not make him go knocking to find out which doors open for him.

i don't think Michael Jackson was neglected, he had father who basically created the Jacksons , made them what they were. Michael Jackson's father was the real creator of their talents, taught them music , forced them to learn everything, took them around to perform.

parents can't teach everything..somethings you are expected to learn yourself, even at a young age

Try working with people younger.

Its interesting isn't it? - someone wants to discuss a kind of traumatic or abusive situation and troll types come in and kick the down. Its a case study in human behavior.

The reason this is interesting to me is I made a kind of OH WOW realization a while back about how most of my peers who graduated in the 1980s - had parents who were not very kind - the realization actually hit while discussing another demographic - the mils - and so it was more like pattern recognition and observational - so threads like this just sort of validate a loose observation.

The study of demographics and generational patterns against the construct of larger societal norms at the time fascinates me.

I am a totally geek.
The end of the day though - I think its too bad how much pain humans cause each other. It really doesn't have to be this why - so why can't we fix this shit as a species? I dunno.

GenX as well. Parents were fueled by cocaine and were beyond selfish constantly. Went through every abuse, bullying, and was also excluded & isolated. Every milestone I had was always destroyed including the very important ones in adulthood. I was the scapegoated child.

It's truly not how we fall down, it's how we get back up! I have resilience and perseverance. Decided to change the narrative. Was tired of living in the past and was missing out on the present. Glad I wised up in my late 30s refusing to be a lifelong victim filled with resentment and went no contact. Began my 40s with a new life. Vowed I'm not missing out anymore. Better late then never.

Did you ask? Did you observe? It's really up to you as a kid to realize that you are responsible for learning all that you can to ready yourself for being an adult. Then go out of your way to do it.

Your behavior is so clearly narcissistic, but I wonder if you are even self aware?