Dating at 40 is horrible...fuck boys everywhere

it sounds like your priorities are wrong.

You just described the "new normal". Guys got woke and finally figured out that relationships end and they get the shaft. How about you? Are you a single mom, or a divorced mom. If divorced, how much did you take him for?

I set my standards very high. I get hit on by all types. But they all have baby mama drama, paying out the ass in child support, hating on women. So maybe they are just afraid to settle down again? I don’t know I guess I’ll takr the single road

because we know better then to fuck with a single term mother long term.

single mother is a red flag.

But being a single dad is ok? Makes a lot of sense. I’m single for a reason because I don’t tolerate lies and cheating.

Yes but anyone out of a long term relationship should give it time, way too many men and women are needy and run at the first relationship they find. Give it time one year isn’t long. Enjoy your kids they will be gone very soon:) when ex don’t come up on both sides your ready

Abort mission. Abort mission!

Divorced he doesn’t pay much. I make more than him. I get $300 a month for 2 kids

what is your star sign op??

I'm 45 and stopped dating altogether. Too much damn drama.

Give me a beer and a BBQ grill and I'm good.

You said successful and single mom in the same sentence.

Single dad's don't get much love themselves, because most women know, that the attention from that man will not be same towards them as a man who is single and can give them all they want.

You came to a place with a lot of bitter men? I’m not I moved on a long time ago

Thanks for the advice. Seems to be the road I should take. I don’t have my kids 2 days a week when they go to their dads and I get lonely I guess I’ll start volunteering or something

Im a single guy around your age. I have one successful child in their early 20s.
My rules for dating are this-no smokers, no tats, no democrats, no litte brats.

bitter for a good reason.

A woman in her 40s using the term "fuck boys", you may be the problem OP

Maybe mature a bit and set your sights a little higher than boys

I’m a Taurus. I’m sweet loyal and stubborned

Good for him I paid 3600 a month in b s cal

All the bitter male replies are from broke men.

The economy sucks, and females are a luxury for men-- one that many cannot afford.

Simply start screening your prospects better. Being a 'nice girl' NEVER works, they will never respect you for that. Do not entertain any men who aren't successful and monied. Over the first few dates gauge generosity. They are to be treated as dogs; kisses and intimacy are given as treats.

Keep your great personality and skills but mete them out AS HE EARNS IT. A man does not deserve a good woman unless he EARNS it.

That's a start.

Damn I got screwed lol. I’m actually fine with it. He sees them twice a week and is a good dad

Hey I was there, just moved on and am better for it

So you don't like casual sex? You need to be in a relationship to have sex? What's wrong with just being friends with benefits?

I am sorry maa'm... you're too high of a risk.

No disrespect meant... But I'd lay you down and stretch you out a fair bit. But you won't be moving in, and we won't be sharing a bank account, and you wont be borrowing my cars.

ps: Please wear match hing bra and panties, if you have none I will buy you some.

Your children do not need to wake up in the morning with a man that they don't know in your bedroom.

Think about your children first and be a good mother.

If you need to have sex, do it at his place. Don't expose your children to your sex life with the men that you date.

Great advice. I don’t need a man, I want one in my life . There is a huge difference