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MissCleo User ID: 77082640 United States 10/20/2019 04:59 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Turn off the location on your phone. The Sheriff's office in your town has a woman's shelter. Know the contact number if you don't have a place to go to to get out of town. Ghost him. |
MissCleo User ID: 77082640 United States 10/20/2019 05:09 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Another thing a narcissist does is gaslight. Makes you think you are the crazy one. It's a tactic to throw you off balance so they can take advantage of you! No contact. A Narcissist is not your friend, they don't love you, they never will. |
Anonymous coward User ID: 78082414 Sweden 10/20/2019 06:11 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | If he has a smart phone and calls you he can know your location with an app. Quoting: MissCleo Turn off the location on your phone. The Sheriff's office in your town has a woman's shelter. Know the contact number if you don't have a place to go to to get out of town. Ghost him. Thank you, did not realise you could be located using an app on a smart phone.. |
Mousse (OP) User ID: 76083912 United States 10/20/2019 09:18 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Once they know you are on to them the violence increases. You are in their trap. And it gets dangerous. Quoting: MissCleo Don't think you are safe. Don't think they will change. Don't think you can outsmart them. Wow, sounds like you’ve had some experiences with yep. he attempted murder. I was blindsided. hind sight is 20/20. How do you communicate if not by phone? Wow that sounds awful. Attempted murder after he raped? I used to be so tolerate of strange/bizarre characters but no more. i will trust my gut from now on. How did you resolve all this? We texted mostly and worked together. StrongLion |
Mousse (OP) User ID: 76083912 United States 10/20/2019 09:20 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | You better hope it really happened too OP . Cause if you were lying to make someone look bad because whatever reason and the state investigates and find out you lied . Quoting: Anonymous Coward 76857890 You'll have sunk your own ship. This is not a lie. I’ve never had this happen in my life. I am extremely distraught/fucked up over this. But if I pressed charges he would spin in like it was a lie. I wouldn’t be surprised if he laid the groundwork for this right now. StrongLion |
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Mousse (OP) User ID: 76083912 United States 10/20/2019 09:23 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Another thing a narcissist does is gaslight. Makes you think you are the crazy one. It's a tactic to throw you off balance so they can take advantage of you! Quoting: MissCleo No contact. A Narcissist is not your friend, they don't love you, they never will. I was loved bombed for 5 months and triangulated with his daughter. He said he would make a happy family. He told me God put us together. I felt so cherished and lived by him. Weird though, that he would always ask me, “how does it feel to feel so loved by me” and “what else do you want to know about me” after talking about himself for 2 hours. StrongLion |
Mousse (OP) User ID: 76083912 United States 10/20/2019 09:32 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I just feel that he is capable of anything. That he will hurt my family, or me, or hurt my life MORE if I report him. He’s crazy. He’s a crazy Jamacian. Can you tell me why not reporting was best for you? Quoting: Mousse Another thing, narcissists don't love, they are incapable. They will make empty promises, grand promises just to get what they want. Drugs, sex, money. They are scavengers. Dirty filthy scavengers. Ok the Jamaican thing is another red flag. Those island boys are into trafficking, common in the islands. And I suppose he's black? Honey, you need to go to the police, go stay with your parents for a long time, get the hell out of town. Go get checked for STDs too. Yes, he’s black. Has a older white girlfriend that he lives with. He raped me in her house. I’ve only been there twice, he attempted rape the first time, and I punched him/pushed him off me. I thought I had established boundaries and continued the friendship because I was addicted to the lovebombing. It was creepy and scary, when he picked me up and took me to the back room he said, “you’re not gonna act like you did last time” (the pushing, hitting) that alone is bone chilling. He is a rapist, he only inserted his penis in me once or twice, I yelled and he did stop and just lay there doing nothing. I told him to take me to my car and he did. Thats why part of me feels like he doesn’t know what he’s doing, maybe he is victim of sexual crimes/unresolved trauma. Or demon possession. But he’s also so calculating. My first impression of him was to run. He gave me alot of gifts too. He would “study” me from across the room when I came into work. StrongLion |
Mousse (OP) User ID: 76083912 United States 10/20/2019 09:34 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 75187366 United States 10/20/2019 09:39 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | The state will file the charges. They don't give a fuck anymore about you pressing anything. The police state has taken the position as a victim itself. Quoting: Chip If you tell the police you got raped...they're going to arrest the perp no matter what. Yep. Happened to someone I know. He was innocent.No evidence rape happen. Arrested - name publicly run through the mud.. women lie. |
MarPep User ID: 78072507 United States 10/20/2019 09:45 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | If someone reports they were raped, but tells the cops they don't want to testify in court or have a rape exam---then why would a cop take action? Without willing testimony or evidence, there is no probable cause to arrest anyone. _______________ They let me off with a warning and a couple of bullet holes. |
Judethz User ID: 75895360 United Kingdom 10/20/2019 09:59 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | The DA decides if they will be charged but without any witnesses, evidence or testimony it's unlikely they would charge them as they would not have much of a case. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 77992195 But would the report be on the perpetrators file? You betcha. All that sounds like being found guilty without having done anything. |
Mousse (OP) User ID: 76083912 United States 10/20/2019 10:06 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | If someone reports they were raped, but tells the cops they don't want to testify in court or have a rape exam---then why would a cop take action? Without willing testimony or evidence, there is no probable cause to arrest anyone. Quoting: MarPep I’ll testify in court. Originally I was just thinking of his daughter, how she doesn’t deserve to lose her Dad, since she just lost her Mom (he won custody). Then the Mom kidnapped her for a week, then he found her took her back..then maybe she would lose him too? Where would she go..the foster care system? There are no other relatives. StrongLion |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 77079698 United States 10/20/2019 10:11 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | And does it harm their life in some way? Say you wanted to report a rape, but without pressing charges. Quoting: Mousse NO!!! you will never know AND it will quietly sit there until someone uses it for leverage, job promation, to get rid of you, and its all done to you and you have NO IDEA. why or what is going on. |
Mousse (OP) User ID: 76083912 United States 10/20/2019 10:46 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | And does it harm their life in some way? Say you wanted to report a rape, but without pressing charges. Quoting: Mousse NO!!! you will never know AND it will quietly sit there until someone uses it for leverage, job promation, to get rid of you, and its all done to you and you have NO IDEA. why or what is going on. How could reporting a rape hurt ME? StrongLion |
Sungaze_At_Dawn User ID: 77427246 Canada 10/20/2019 10:57 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | He could this again to someone else, never mind the danger and risk you're in. People report rape to prevent rapists from continuing. Report him. Gather the evidence, and report him. Could you live with finding out a 14 year old was raped/murdered and the investigation finally leaves to him, but you had the chance to stop a dangerous felon? The Devil tries to convince everyone he doesn't exist. The state tries to convince everyone they cannot resist. Do not go quietly into the good night. Rage Rage against the dying light! |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 20306582 United States 10/20/2019 11:12 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Good morning OP. Looks like you did not get much sleep. You are sounding braver. I am glad you have the people here to talk with how ever off some may be, it is better than dealing with it alone. Many do care. It is easy for me to see and say you need to go file charges, when I did not have the courage to do it when I needed to. I hate dealing with cops and courts. I am the one who asked questions about filing charges against some one that confessed to years of poisoning me and others. Everyday for months I have known I have to report it to protect others from the same fate. I know they will make me out as the liar but there is a child involved in this case too that needs protected and will be displaced by having the single parent in jail. I think the perps are also a danger to their own child. I do not want to instilling more fearmongering. I think you are safer with police protection than non at all . You should get a gun if you do not have one. He may already have a record and this could be what the police need to get him off the street. I do hope you make the phone call to the rape center. I did call a crisis line to get advice on the poisonings. They told me to call the poison control center, that they will help me with criminal poisonings. I have not done it yet. geesh, your thread is helping me to get the courage to deal with own problems. Thank you. |
Mousse (OP) User ID: 76083912 United States 10/20/2019 11:18 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | He could this again to someone else, never mind the danger and risk you're in. Quoting: Sungaze_At_Dawn People report rape to prevent rapists from continuing. Report him. Gather the evidence, and report him. Could you live with finding out a 14 year old was raped/murdered and the investigation finally leaves to him, but you had the chance to stop a dangerous felon? True. Thanks I’m thinking of his daughter. She would probably go into foster care, ruin her life. Although, he may not be convicted, because of low evidence. Still I guess it would be good to report it, but he is known for destroying people, he could counter and make up a claim against me...he’s very conniving..thats why I hesitate..he could spin this into a true nightmare and make false allegations. StrongLion |
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Mousse (OP) User ID: 76083912 United States 10/20/2019 11:45 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | The daughter might just go back to the mother. You are going on what he told you, she might be a victim too and this could be best for the mother and daughter. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 20306582 Even if the mother lost custody in court? She would be returned? That would be true karma right there. Because the only reason he fought so hard for custody was to hurt the mother. He was in it to WIN StrongLion |
Mousse (OP) User ID: 76083912 United States 10/20/2019 11:51 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | |
Mousse (OP) User ID: 76083912 United States 10/20/2019 11:54 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | So my actions could determine the fate of the daughter. She is 5. Thats why I am so hesitant. She just started kindergarten. He life has had so many disruptions already. Don’t want to hurt a childs life. He’s using her in this way on purpose, to deflect from his crimes. StrongLion |
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MKPitBull User ID: 24338353 United States 10/20/2019 11:54 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | The daughter might just go back to the mother. You are going on what he told you, she might be a victim too and this could be best for the mother and daughter. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 20306582 Even if the mother lost custody in court? She would be returned? That would be true karma right there. Because the only reason he fought so hard for custody was to hurt the mother. He was in it to WIN Stop thinking about any repercussions on him, daughter, family. Daughter is better off without him, no telling what abuse she's already suffered. Contact your local rape crisis center and follow their instructions. Enroll in a RAD class [link to www.self-defense-mind-body-spirit.com] Most police depts have people they can direct you too. Buy a pistol and take a Basic Handgun course and then apply for a concealed carry permit. Never be a victim again. "Be like water my friend”- Bruce Lee |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 3098103 United States 10/20/2019 12:04 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Another thing a narcissist does is gaslight. Makes you think you are the crazy one. It's a tactic to throw you off balance so they can take advantage of you! Quoting: MissCleo No contact. A Narcissist is not your friend, they don't love you, they never will. Imho show them how crazy you are! Get a big dog. Sling a rifle over your shoulder. Pace back and forth in your yard for a few days. Take selfies with dirt smeared on your face and camo netting on your head. Shave your head too. Make a target and practice throwing your spear at it. Put a life size pic of him in the middle of the target. Just ideas to keep him away. Let him see you aren't worth the potential risk. Thats what you do with animals to keep them from eating you. |
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Mousse (OP) User ID: 76083912 United States 10/20/2019 12:17 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Are you saying you have to face this man at work for another week? Are you quitting or is he? Did you quit your job over this? Quoting: Anonymous Coward 20306582 I have not quit my job. In my job we move around locations, we bid every 6 months. The 6 months is up next week and everyone goes to different locations. He said he will soon quit anyway, he told me that awhile back. However I don’t want to see him at all. Everyone likes him. I think he even spread a rumor about me. But I don’t confront flying monkies. StrongLion |
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