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Anonymous Coward User ID: 73613959 United States 11/30/2019 09:33 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Honey, only a couple years younger than you, husband still alive and kicking but pretty much he ignores me, starting to act like an old man watching TV hour after hour and working out in the garage.... so not so sure our lives are so much different! |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 77928748 United States 11/30/2019 09:38 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | And I'm not even that old. I'm 60, and in excellent health and height/weight proportionate, but despite my many prayers and efforts with online dating, I haven't had one date in four years. Quoting: Hope_Full I'm just feeling so alone tonight. I've been through so much in the last four years. My husband killed himself in 2016, and two years later, a medical mistake killed ME, and I got to see heaven, but then I was told that I had to go back to earth... I would love to find a man that could just hold me, so I could remember what that feels like. Being alone is tough. For those who believe in prayer, I'd be grateful for your prayers that God might send me someone to love. Be careful and very specific about what you are asking for, the last time I gave in to the feelings that you are expressing, feeling so alone, when I got home that night, the universe delivered, but I wasn't specific enough and the guy was just not a good person. In fact he was a terrible person and even though I saw the red flags, I ignored them because I wanted some relief from the loneliness. It took me months to move past that and back to being ok on my on. Yes it gets lonely but it doesn't hurt nearly as bad as letting someone in who is not genuine. |
Moses Born Again in L.A. User ID: 74943424 United States 11/30/2019 09:41 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | ...bad request...he may break thru the back door...like a thief in the night.. Last Edited by Moses Born Again on 11/30/2019 09:42 PM Moses Born Again |
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NOLAangel User ID: 78128369 United States 11/30/2019 09:43 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | And I'm not even that old. I'm 60, and in excellent health and height/weight proportionate, but despite my many prayers and efforts with online dating, I haven't had one date in four years. Quoting: Hope_Full I'm just feeling so alone tonight. I've been through so much in the last four years. My husband killed himself in 2016, and two years later, a medical mistake killed ME, and I got to see heaven, but then I was told that I had to go back to earth... I would love to find a man that could just hold me, so I could remember what that feels like. Being alone is tough. For those who believe in prayer, I'd be grateful for your prayers that God might send me someone to love. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 77930416 United States 11/30/2019 09:44 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Honey, only a couple years younger than you, husband still alive and kicking but pretty much he ignores me, starting to act like an old man watching TV hour after hour and working out in the garage.... so not so sure our lives are so much different! Quoting: Anonymous Coward 73613959 Old men just want their wife to cook them a meal and leave them alone to watch sports on TV. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 75389481 United States 11/30/2019 09:45 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I Wanted to stay but someone said “this is too important” and it was like I was punched in the chest and woke up on the table in the hospital and started screaming. Still waiting to find out what was so important, it’s just been ten years of watching everything fall apart. I gave up on finding a decent woman long ago. I don’t pray to God, he will give me what I need without me asking for it. Every day is endless boredom and loneliness until I get to do whatever it is he wants of me. I just want to go home, there is nothing here worth fighting for anymore. I have a sense that the wait is almost over. |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 78214388 Australia 11/30/2019 09:56 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | And I'm not even that old. I'm 60, and in excellent health and height/weight proportionate, but despite my many prayers and efforts with online dating, I haven't had one date in four years. Quoting: Hope_Full I'm just feeling so alone tonight. I've been through so much in the last four years. My husband killed himself in 2016, and two years later, a medical mistake killed ME, and I got to see heaven, but then I was told that I had to go back to earth... I would love to find a man that could just hold me, so I could remember what that feels like. Being alone is tough. For those who believe in prayer, I'd be grateful for your prayers that God might send me someone to love. All the sweet ones live on the other side of the planet. Always the way. |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 78214388 Australia 11/30/2019 10:17 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I was sent back too. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 75389481 I Wanted to stay but someone said “this is too important” and it was like I was punched in the chest and woke up on the table in the hospital and started screaming. Still waiting to find out what was so important, it’s just been ten years of watching everything fall apart. I gave up on finding a decent woman long ago. I don’t pray to God, he will give me what I need without me asking for it. Every day is endless boredom and loneliness until I get to do whatever it is he wants of me. I just want to go home, there is nothing here worth fighting for anymore. I have a sense that the wait is almost over. If he gives you what you need...and all you have had for 10 years is lonliness and boredom...then thats EXACTLY what you needed. Im in the same boat. Been single for 17 years now. Though I have times I feel lonley...He always cheers me up by telling me..."if only you KNEW the heartbreaks and tribulations ive SAVED you from by keeping you single". And hes right. |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 78131355 United States 11/30/2019 10:33 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Not trying to turn you against marriage or anything, but there really are a lot of worse things than being single. You have total control of your life; you have control of your money; you can come and go when you want; you do not have to cook or clean or do laundry for somebody else; if you want to take a road trip you can - no having to clear it with a spouse; if you need to work late at the office, there's nobody complaining about your being late. Single life is really a much more free life. If you are meant to be married again, Mr. Right will come knocking on his own. You don't need to go out looking for him. There are a lot of single older men out there - I've discovered that already. He'll show up when you least expect it. |
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Squarewave User ID: 69407202 United States 11/30/2019 10:36 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Sunday Morning I'm seconding that earlier thought. Find a good church - there are a lot of them - with a good womens ministry and good small groups. Become part of a small group, and keep your eyes open..! There may be a second time around for you. Lots of folks have found this to be true, I hope it all works out for you as well. Last Edited by Squarewave on 11/30/2019 10:37 PM |
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Interested_1 User ID: 77128962 United States 11/30/2019 10:42 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I divorced my husband a couple of years back after over 30 years of marriage and am not far off your age. I get it that sometimes you get lonely. I guess the difference is that I'm not looking for love - I figured I would go it alone after my marriage dissolved, and if love ever found me again I wouldn't run the other way, but I'm not looking. The embarrassment of being divorced is actually worse than being alone - people just figure I am part of the First Wives' Club or something, and it's embarrassing to me because it's the only thing I've ever failed at. Other people just automatically think you should be looking for another husband. Make sure that you really want a husband and not because of social pressure to be married. That being said, I have discovered the world is full of lonely people - make some friends. There isn't a day where I cannot call up some friend and ask if they want to go out and eat or to a movie or on a hike. Get a dog or cat to snuggle at night if you need the warmth. Quoting: GA Girl Not trying to turn you against marriage or anything, but there really are a lot of worse things than being single. You have total control of your life; you have control of your money; you can come and go when you want; you do not have to cook or clean or do laundry for somebody else; if you want to take a road trip you can - no having to clear it with a spouse; if you need to work late at the office, there's nobody complaining about your being late. Single life is really a much more free life. If you are meant to be married again, Mr. Right will come knocking on his own. You don't need to go out looking for him. There are a lot of single older men out there - I've discovered that already. He'll show up when you least expect it. I was widowed at 45. Being widowed and being divorced are two entirely different things. All my divorced friends sound like you. I would give anything for one more day with my beloved. Take the red pill now...later it will come as a suppository. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 78198017 United States 11/30/2019 10:43 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | The difference between many women in your situation and many men in the equivalent situation is that for the "good" single men of your age they usually have had a very bad experience with women, and Divorce Rape, and are ready to live the rest of their lives withOUT a woman being a permanent fixture in their life. In fact in many (most?) cases those older men would PREFER to live life withOUT the chaos and economic stress that a woman tends to bring into their lives - I know that is the case for me. Of all of the single decent men I know in your general age bracket I can only think of one (out of many) who would like to be married again. Find some things you truly enjoy doing, some way to volunteer time to your local community, and some other people to do things with who enjoy being around you. Who knows, if you do that you may very well meet a giving community minded giving man who is not so scarred as to totally reject the concept of marriage. Wishing you the best. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 78214475 United States 11/30/2019 10:44 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | And I'm not even that old. I'm 60, and in excellent health and height/weight proportionate, but despite my many prayers and efforts with online dating, I haven't had one date in four years. Quoting: Hope_Full I'm just feeling so alone tonight. I've been through so much in the last four years. My husband killed himself in 2016, and two years later, a medical mistake killed ME, and I got to see heaven, but then I was told that I had to go back to earth... I would love to find a man that could just hold me, so I could remember what that feels like. Being alone is tough. For those who believe in prayer, I'd be grateful for your prayers that God might send me someone to love. Me too. Same story. |
Proud Trump Supporter User ID: 78214464 United States 11/30/2019 10:48 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Actually 60 these days is considered middle age. Take classes, workshops, if possible go on a cruise, take up a hobby, join a hiking group. There are lots of men who would love companionship. First get to know someone in any of the above activities. Then take it from there. The truth is incontrovertible. Malice may attack it, ignorance may deride it, but in the end, there it is. Winston Churchill Daily Updates Thread: ASS IS IN THE WRINGER - Rolling Updates from 11/16/20 to present (Page 235) |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 75658817 United States 11/30/2019 11:03 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | And I'm not even that old. I'm 60, and in excellent health and height/weight proportionate, but despite my many prayers and efforts with online dating, I haven't had one date in four years. Quoting: Hope_Full I'm just feeling so alone tonight. I've been through so much in the last four years. My husband killed himself in 2016, and two years later, a medical mistake killed ME, and I got to see heaven, but then I was told that I had to go back to earth... I would love to find a man that could just hold me, so I could remember what that feels like. Being alone is tough. For those who believe in prayer, I'd be grateful for your prayers that God might send me someone to love. |
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Pilgrim001 User ID: 78018011 United States 11/30/2019 11:06 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Honey, only a couple years younger than you, husband still alive and kicking but pretty much he ignores me, starting to act like an old man watching TV hour after hour and working out in the garage.... so not so sure our lives are so much different! Quoting: Anonymous Coward 73613959 Old men just want their wife to cook them a meal and leave them alone to watch sports on TV. Not all of us. Communism is for LOSERS Communism is SLAVERY Fuck Joe Biden |