The situation

Hmmmmmm... I wonder what your wife would put forward as her image of the relationship. I wonder how she'd feel if she knew she was just a symptom of you settling?

Don't get me wrong - I'm not knocking you. I'm truly wondering.

IMHO in being married, raising boys, having brothers etc men are passive settlers and constant bitchers in relationships, seemingly content to dream of greener grass but feeling anxiety/apathy/anger when the grass doesn't grow on it's own. You're very very visual creatures and it's so much more than sexual. Despite your being truly simpler creatures (a compliment) you are harder to please.

Regarding the OP, I do not know the details of your break in but I'd be curious to find out how you handled the situation. The truth is if she felt the details would be the same without you there, any gush left in her ovaries probably just dried right up.

The minute a woman stops feeling like you're the the who augments her ability to be a woman (raising kids/grandkids/aging parents/cooking/cleaning/creating a home/safety) she kinda has no use for you. Sad but true. If life is no different for her with you there, all you become is another chore and item on the list.

Women are by contrast very easy to please. If she sees your value in even the smallest thing she'll love you. Guess what - it's not a joke. Taking out the trash or filling up her car (or genuinely saying thank you) is the easiest way to get laid.

yesterday a robber came to your house, today wife leaves you

ffs

go see a Gipsy Fortune teller where u're wrong

I too would like to hear the other side. OP, I''m sorry to say, but throughout this thread you sound very immature and unprepared to be a responsible father and husband.

How old are your kids? Didn't anyone ever tell you (and your wife) that sometimes having small kids just plain sucks? When I was pregnant, someone told me that our lives will be put on hold for about 3 years. I didn't believe it, but it was true. I only have one child, she was an "easy" baby, but we were still overwhelmed.

Do you have family nearby to help with the kids? We do not, and it was hard to find reliable, affordable help -- not to mention the guilt of admitting we needed time away from our adorable child. You mentioned going out with friends for a few hours, leaving her home alone with the kids. I assume it was in the evening, also known as the witching hour with small kids. No wonder she was overwhelmed. How often did you offer her the same escape?

There is a lot of joking here about banging young chicks, internet dating, and you even responded to one post with "flying double uppercut dragon fist punch". Only a 13-year-old video game playing boy talks like that.

There have been several mature ladies on this thread trying to give you gentle advice. You are blowing it all off.

I agree with others, you need to lawyer up. But you also need to man up.

Remember............

When she texts you “can you delete my number please”

Your response is “who is this please”

Hey, feel free to swing by your other threads that I’ve kept alive for you.......

& here........ a gift.......

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Remember............

When she texts you “can you delete my number please”

Your response is “who is this please”

Hey, feel free to swing by your other threads that I’ve kept alive for you.......

& here........ a gift.......

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fucking love it!!

right im going to head to bed and to watch an episode of Hornblower.


cheers guys, its helped me through these first crucial hours.



lets see what happens

i just wrote a massive reply and my connection went and i lost the post...

so ill just say, ive done this 10 years now, enough is enough, ive strived to keep the family unit as one, and ive doted on my family for the last 7 years, ive been saying i feel like a negleted house wife, as i did, you try doing all the house work and cooking while the other half is just sat on their phone on facebook.


no im not immature, im realistic, im young, healthy, and i have a lot of love to give.

true story.


she came home earlier and said "we need to talk"


oh yeah, i know the talk.





so turns out im single now.



i am fucking gutted for the kids

yeah its cool mate, stiff upper lip and all that.

right im going to head to bed and to watch an episode of Hornblower.


cheers guys, its helped me through these first crucial hours.



lets see what happens

Ok Op, Send flowers send her candy, tell her how you can't live without her. Tell her you are willing to go to marriage counseling. Try everything you can to repair your relationship. When the kids are 18 and grown out of the house.. then you can dump her OK.

Your life will suck until you are 50 unless you get this fixed. Got it. Get in there and get your women back for now.

Oh fuck.


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this has turned out to be a really rough week

What is wrong with you jack@sses!! Children need BOTH parents!!! Parents OWE
that to their children!! It's all about the kids IF you have kids. Children DO NOT deserve to have to pay for the mistakes of the parents. If at all possible.. work it out. You OWE your children that much.

Saying a prayer for clarity for you OP!! This is a big damn deal!! Shame on all you guys who are trying to make it into a time to party!!