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Renaissance Woman User ID: 78409544 United States 02/02/2020 06:22 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Hmmmmmm... I wonder what your wife would put forward as her image of the relationship. I wonder how she'd feel if she knew she was just a symptom of you settling? Quoting: Bright Side Don't get me wrong - I'm not knocking you. I'm truly wondering. IMHO in being married, raising boys, having brothers etc men are passive settlers and constant bitchers in relationships, seemingly content to dream of greener grass but feeling anxiety/apathy/anger when the grass doesn't grow on it's own. You're very very visual creatures and it's so much more than sexual. Despite your being truly simpler creatures (a compliment) you are harder to please. Regarding the OP, I do not know the details of your break in but I'd be curious to find out how you handled the situation. The truth is if she felt the details would be the same without you there, any gush left in her ovaries probably just dried right up. The minute a woman stops feeling like you're the the who augments her ability to be a woman (raising kids/grandkids/aging parents/cooking/cleaning/creating a home/safety) she kinda has no use for you. Sad but true. If life is no different for her with you there, all you become is another chore and item on the list. Women are by contrast very easy to please. If she sees your value in even the smallest thing she'll love you. Guess what - it's not a joke. Taking out the trash or filling up her car (or genuinely saying thank you) is the easiest way to get laid. I too would like to hear the other side. OP, I''m sorry to say, but throughout this thread you sound very immature and unprepared to be a responsible father and husband. How old are your kids? Didn't anyone ever tell you (and your wife) that sometimes having small kids just plain sucks? When I was pregnant, someone told me that our lives will be put on hold for about 3 years. I didn't believe it, but it was true. I only have one child, she was an "easy" baby, but we were still overwhelmed. Do you have family nearby to help with the kids? We do not, and it was hard to find reliable, affordable help -- not to mention the guilt of admitting we needed time away from our adorable child. You mentioned going out with friends for a few hours, leaving her home alone with the kids. I assume it was in the evening, also known as the witching hour with small kids. No wonder she was overwhelmed. How often did you offer her the same escape? There is a lot of joking here about banging young chicks, internet dating, and you even responded to one post with "flying double uppercut dragon fist punch". Only a 13-year-old video game playing boy talks like that. There have been several mature ladies on this thread trying to give you gentle advice. You are blowing it all off. I agree with others, you need to lawyer up. But you also need to man up. "For with thee is the fountain of life: in thy light shall we see light." |
ayr phorce yuan User ID: 78416597 United Kingdom 02/02/2020 06:25 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Remember............ When she texts you “can you delete my number please” Your response is “who is this please” Hey, feel free to swing by your other threads that I’ve kept alive for you....... & here........ a gift....... [link to imgur.com (secure)] GLP alert level 2; "Go get a Hard Hat:. GLP alert level 1; "Put the fucking Hat on:. |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 45513611 United Kingdom 02/02/2020 06:32 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Hmmmmmm... I wonder what your wife would put forward as her image of the relationship. I wonder how she'd feel if she knew she was just a symptom of you settling? Quoting: Bright Side Don't get me wrong - I'm not knocking you. I'm truly wondering. IMHO in being married, raising boys, having brothers etc men are passive settlers and constant bitchers in relationships, seemingly content to dream of greener grass but feeling anxiety/apathy/anger when the grass doesn't grow on it's own. You're very very visual creatures and it's so much more than sexual. Despite your being truly simpler creatures (a compliment) you are harder to please. Regarding the OP, I do not know the details of your break in but I'd be curious to find out how you handled the situation. The truth is if she felt the details would be the same without you there, any gush left in her ovaries probably just dried right up. The minute a woman stops feeling like you're the the who augments her ability to be a woman (raising kids/grandkids/aging parents/cooking/cleaning/creating a home/safety) she kinda has no use for you. Sad but true. If life is no different for her with you there, all you become is another chore and item on the list. Women are by contrast very easy to please. If she sees your value in even the smallest thing she'll love you. Guess what - it's not a joke. Taking out the trash or filling up her car (or genuinely saying thank you) is the easiest way to get laid. I too would like to hear the other side. OP, I''m sorry to say, but throughout this thread you sound very immature and unprepared to be a responsible father and husband. How old are your kids? Didn't anyone ever tell you (and your wife) that sometimes having small kids just plain sucks? When I was pregnant, someone told me that our lives will be put on hold for about 3 years. I didn't believe it, but it was true. I only have one child, she was an "easy" baby, but we were still overwhelmed. Do you have family nearby to help with the kids? We do not, and it was hard to find reliable, affordable help -- not to mention the guilt of admitting we needed time away from our adorable child. You mentioned going out with friends for a few hours, leaving her home alone with the kids. I assume it was in the evening, also known as the witching hour with small kids. No wonder she was overwhelmed. How often did you offer her the same escape? There is a lot of joking here about banging young chicks, internet dating, and you even responded to one post with "flying double uppercut dragon fist punch". Only a 13-year-old video game playing boy talks like that. There have been several mature ladies on this thread trying to give you gentle advice. You are blowing it all off. I agree with others, you need to lawyer up. But you also need to man up. i just wrote a massive reply and my connection went and i lost the post... so ill just say, ive done this 10 years now, enough is enough, ive strived to keep the family unit as one, and ive doted on my family for the last 7 years, ive been saying i feel like a negleted house wife, as i did, you try doing all the house work and cooking while the other half is just sat on their phone on facebook. no im not immature, im realistic, im young, healthy, and i have a lot of love to give. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 45513611 United Kingdom 02/02/2020 06:34 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Remember............ Quoting: ayr phorce yuan When she texts you “can you delete my number please” Your response is “who is this please” Hey, feel free to swing by your other threads that I’ve kept alive for you....... & here........ a gift....... [link to imgur.com (secure)] mate, the week i have had, some folk would top them selves |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 45513611 United Kingdom 02/02/2020 06:34 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Remember............ Quoting: ayr phorce yuan When she texts you “can you delete my number please” Your response is “who is this please” Hey, feel free to swing by your other threads that I’ve kept alive for you....... & here........ a gift....... [link to imgur.com (secure)] fucking love it!! |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 45513611 United Kingdom 02/02/2020 06:38 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Remember............ Quoting: ayr phorce yuan When she texts you “can you delete my number please” Your response is “who is this please” Hey, feel free to swing by your other threads that I’ve kept alive for you....... & here........ a gift....... [link to imgur.com (secure)] fucking love it!! i will sick it up in the morning hahaha nice one! |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 77184054 United States 02/02/2020 06:43 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Definitely suggest counseling for coparenting and mediator for separation/divorce/custody. Since you have kids she will be in your life forever. You want it to be peaceful and admirable. Get counseling for the kids and yourself as well. Be aware the kids might act out. You all have a tough road ahead of you. Ts & Ps. |
jkm1864 User ID: 77810344 United States 02/02/2020 06:44 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Look bud I went through it last year and I'm still trying to get away from the cunt. I will advise You to get Your finances in order and get the fuck out. I would also advise against dating because You are in a very bad emotional state and any women You do meet will just use You. I'd also hit they gym and work on Yourself and if You need a piece of ass get a hooker or a doll and call it a day. BTW I am being very serious when I say to avoid women if You are in a stage of grief because the MAJORITY of them will literally make promises of love and sex so they can get access to Your wallet and You won't get anything but a empty wallet. Pussy Grabber Extraordinaire |
Renaissance Woman User ID: 78409544 United States 02/02/2020 06:46 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Hmmmmmm... I wonder what your wife would put forward as her image of the relationship. I wonder how she'd feel if she knew she was just a symptom of you settling? Quoting: Bright Side Don't get me wrong - I'm not knocking you. I'm truly wondering. IMHO in being married, raising boys, having brothers etc men are passive settlers and constant bitchers in relationships, seemingly content to dream of greener grass but feeling anxiety/apathy/anger when the grass doesn't grow on it's own. You're very very visual creatures and it's so much more than sexual. Despite your being truly simpler creatures (a compliment) you are harder to please. Regarding the OP, I do not know the details of your break in but I'd be curious to find out how you handled the situation. The truth is if she felt the details would be the same without you there, any gush left in her ovaries probably just dried right up. The minute a woman stops feeling like you're the the who augments her ability to be a woman (raising kids/grandkids/aging parents/cooking/cleaning/creating a home/safety) she kinda has no use for you. Sad but true. If life is no different for her with you there, all you become is another chore and item on the list. Women are by contrast very easy to please. If she sees your value in even the smallest thing she'll love you. Guess what - it's not a joke. Taking out the trash or filling up her car (or genuinely saying thank you) is the easiest way to get laid. I too would like to hear the other side. OP, I''m sorry to say, but throughout this thread you sound very immature and unprepared to be a responsible father and husband. How old are your kids? Didn't anyone ever tell you (and your wife) that sometimes having small kids just plain sucks? When I was pregnant, someone told me that our lives will be put on hold for about 3 years. I didn't believe it, but it was true. I only have one child, she was an "easy" baby, but we were still overwhelmed. Do you have family nearby to help with the kids? We do not, and it was hard to find reliable, affordable help -- not to mention the guilt of admitting we needed time away from our adorable child. You mentioned going out with friends for a few hours, leaving her home alone with the kids. I assume it was in the evening, also known as the witching hour with small kids. No wonder she was overwhelmed. How often did you offer her the same escape? There is a lot of joking here about banging young chicks, internet dating, and you even responded to one post with "flying double uppercut dragon fist punch". Only a 13-year-old video game playing boy talks like that. There have been several mature ladies on this thread trying to give you gentle advice. You are blowing it all off. I agree with others, you need to lawyer up. But you also need to man up. i just wrote a massive reply and my connection went and i lost the post... so ill just say, ive done this 10 years now, enough is enough, ive strived to keep the family unit as one, and ive doted on my family for the last 7 years, ive been saying i feel like a negleted house wife, as i did, you try doing all the house work and cooking while the other half is just sat on their phone on facebook. no im not immature, im realistic, im young, healthy, and i have a lot of love to give. Thank you for responding, OP. I hear you. Wow. Sounds like a tough situation. I hope you get some rest tonight. Think on it all fresh tomorrow. "For with thee is the fountain of life: in thy light shall we see light." |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 78422788 United Kingdom 02/02/2020 06:59 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Fellow Brit. Happened to me 2.5 years ago. I'm barely in my 30s, we have two toddlers. She was a useless cow that wanted the Instagram lifestyle of being wined and dined, forgetting there was a mortgage to be paid. I held the financial fort, she contributed nothing but the food bill. In hindsight, glad it ended. Luckily we weren't married and I owned the house, she entered my life and had it all setup. Sucks for the kids I agree but if someone's not committed once and tell you so, you'll forever live with the doubt. Not worth the stress of making it work IMHO, there will always be that incident at the end of any future argument, sounds like she's thought of or is already having greener grass. Focus on yourself (so cliche) but channel all energy to doing things you enjoy and time with your kids, they are far more precious and will love you regardless what you and your partner decide. I did, then out of nowhere met someone new with her own child by accident, just playing with my kids in the park. Best turn of events ever, if only I'd have of met this lady sooner. But I'm a believer of fate, so whatever. Good luck mate. Life always finds a way. |
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My Fear User ID: 71860689 United States 02/02/2020 07:03 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Your life will suck until you are 50 unless you get this fixed. Got it. Get in there and get your women back for now. |
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ayr phorce yuan User ID: 78416597 United Kingdom 02/02/2020 07:07 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | right im going to head to bed and to watch an episode of Hornblower. Quoting: 0000001 cheers guys, its helped me through these first crucial hours. lets see what happens [link to youtu.be (secure)] GLP alert level 2; "Go get a Hard Hat:. GLP alert level 1; "Put the fucking Hat on:. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 78422788 United Kingdom 02/02/2020 07:10 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Also anyone not married with kids sort the legal shit with houses and finances in ink. Don't be blind. The phrase 'I'll never hurt you or do that' is uttter bullcrap. Eventually money ruins everything if things ever take a turn. I grimaced getting a deed of trust made to protect my investment in a house before adding her to the mortgage (she added nothing financially to our relationship, I added her because of our kids). It was awkward, but saved my soul in getting a clean break. Kids are shared 50/50, though I have then more like 70/30. |
Reilly User ID: 72613089 United States 02/02/2020 07:21 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Ok Op, Send flowers send her candy, tell her how you can't live without her. Tell her you are willing to go to marriage counseling. Try everything you can to repair your relationship. When the kids are 18 and grown out of the house.. then you can dump her OK. Quoting: My Fear Your life will suck until you are 50 unless you get this fixed. Got it. Get in there and get your women back for now. Oh fuck. [link to www.youtube.com (secure)] |
Reilly User ID: 72613089 United States 02/02/2020 07:25 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Ok Op, Send flowers send her candy, tell her how you can't live without her. Tell her you are willing to go to marriage counseling. Try everything you can to repair your relationship. When the kids are 18 and grown out of the house.. then you can dump her OK. Quoting: My Fear Your life will suck until you are 50 unless you get this fixed. Got it. Get in there and get your women back for now. Oh fuck. [link to www.youtube.com (secure)] PUT THAT FUCKING REEFER DOWN AND FUCKING GET HER OP! :D |
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SerenaSeesAll User ID: 77018108 United States 02/03/2020 11:24 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | wow, if youre ready to put down the bong over this, okay thats next level life stuff. hey why not, its always there to come back to. Quoting: Plato II how bout meeting some younger health chick with yoga pants someone to feed quinoa to your kids, suddenly making you a hero anytime they get actual food from you. trust me. your ex wife will hate it. how rich, am i right? What is wrong with you jack@sses!! Children need BOTH parents!!! Parents OWE that to their children!! It's all about the kids IF you have kids. Children DO NOT deserve to have to pay for the mistakes of the parents. If at all possible.. work it out. You OWE your children that much. Saying a prayer for clarity for you OP!! This is a big damn deal!! Shame on all you guys who are trying to make it into a time to party!! Well said ============================================================= Noticing Miracles Is My Hobby The Bible - When you carry the Bible, Satan has a headache, when you open it, he collapses, when he sees you reading it, he loses his strength, AND when you stand on the Word of God, Satan can't hurt you! |