The situation

So true.

And interesting about kids not being able to verbalize until around 12. Didn’t know that.

Spouse is normally last to know. Be direct and ask one of her closest friends if you really want to know. Just remember, If you afraid of the answer, don't ask the question!

Congratulations, when is the party? I would be happy as a pig rolling in shit if my wife left.

At 5, 10, and 20 years your relationship will be tested. When you split with her one of those other two times, was it around the 5 year mark?

nope

when you demand all this 100% bullshit you lock your own mind and heart
with, assumptions, accusations, judgment, condemnation, grudges, bitterness, offenses, and resentment

no one is ever 100%

and it's never to be about owing, earning, demanding, etc.

it always has to be about freedoms
freely sharing all things together
giving out of oneself without expectation of return

if / when I do something for someone, it's because I want to,
not because I have to, or because I'm looking for something in return

as soon as one or the other assumes it's about owing, or earning,
or someone is assuming the other is being demanding

then it moves from freedoms and real
to totally performance based fakery

never do this, it's destructive

never demand 100% no one can meet this outrageous expectation of performance perfection

Pretty fucking accurate there, mate.

Right I'll give you all an update


So ive not eaten anything more than a handful of haribo sweets, a day, since Saturday.

But this evening I have eaten a bowl of mashed potatoes, with salt and pepper, I would of been in serious trouble if i didn't eat something today.


So yesterday, I sent her a long ass text, I didn't get a reply.... That sucked.


And this morning I had roses delivered to her work, with the message 'flippin 'eck xx' on the card (lol)


SHE WASNT AT FUCKING WORK TODAY

so I get an email about midday saying they have been delivered, but I didn't get a text message off her or anything, so that broke my heart a little today.

But I got a text an hour ago asking if i did send flowers, and she put a kiss on the end of the text.

In fact there was two text's from her, both with a kiss on the end.


So......


I'm felling better

I have had something to eat

My kids are here with me, I was so happy to see them I actually started to 'man cry' where you don't cry, but your crying.

My productivity has slumped since Monday, and working in sales, that's not clever, but I have kept the boat afloat, I just need a boost.


I fell a lot better right now.


I have NOT smoked weed since Sunday... It has bothered me that much, I have some, I just dont want it, and thats totally out of character.


Fuck me I've been a right little bitch







Give it a day or two and I'll be in charge of my emotional thoughts again

And thanks for your input everyone, it's helped me make some right decisions.

Give me a week and I'll be an arsehole again.

Don't engage in recreational sexual activities with your wife.

Don't do it ever again!


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At least youre consistent bro

Glp has witnessed me being at the top of my game, and declining into something awful, in under 10 days, it can happen to the best of us.

You are looking for happiness outside of yourself. Only you can make you happy. Do not let a woman define who you are.

Usually around 12 they develop original thought and ability to form adult conversation. Before that they copy, respond, cry and other forms of communication. We have to listen not just to words.

don't be an arsehole. lol

yet I had original thought and capacity before age 6

even got me into trouble

when I was 5 I decided to piss in the bathtub instead of the toilet because it wouldn't make any noise and thus not wake anyone up

got my ass beat for that because dad didn't believe me when I told him that I pissed in the tub because I didn't want to wake anyone up with my pissing and flushing the toilet as
I thought it would be too loud

Do you maturbate furiously to violent porn?? I think we know the answer is yes.

It's funny when I'm an arse ha

I've got my mojo back now I reckon

Not as often as I would like

Lol. Looks like the ‘repair job’ is coming along.

Hit me up on tinder LMAO j/k

made ya smile

Really good point!

Expectations are a slow death of any relationship.

Gratitude and appreciation are what is needed.

OP
Go take your kids out for dinner and a movie or something.

It is important to see them as often as possible. They are freaking out too.

Gutted for you mate, but you’ve got some great advice from a few people who really know what they’re talking about.

I’d like to quote the ones you really should be taking heed of, though I’m sure you know which comments resonate with you and your situation.

Awesome to read you’re gonna fight to win her back.

I know you know why this has happened, just as I know you know what is required for you to correct the situation. WHATEVER IT TAKES JUST DO IT!

The most important thing that I know you know you need to do right now is
to give up the dope, at least for the foreseeable future

Honestly mate, give up the pot and spend time with her and her family (they’re your family too bro) show them you see them as your family, regardless of their shortcomings.

Like many here, I like you, and wish the best for you and your family for the future.

Me, too.

Sending love to you and everyone who is in pain of any kind.

dude, you've been given a new lease on life.

can I hangout? a lot of chicks here

U need to edit your signature ma’am

Be kind to yourself OP, start building yourself up, for your kids!



Think about what you want in your future, plan for good stuff. All the best OP

Mindfulness is helpful, helping you to focus