The situation

Congratulations!

So today

I phones dominoes pizza, and ordered 4 boxes of cookies to be sent to her work, and I asked the guy to write "he really loves you" on the inside of the boxes.


Well she got them.



I sent her a text asking if she got them, she just said "yeah i shared them out"


No thanks or nothing...


Cold as fuck


Then i replied saying I'm going to fight her and our family but i know she needs space.


Then she texted me back saying "you need to quit smoking, that's a huge issue of mine!!"


Ahhh shit.... Check mate





So that's where I'm up to with it now.


I've eaten twice today, they was mcdonalds meals, but fuck me i was empty.

I wasn't fat before, but i have lost a hell of a lot of weight.


My heads in a better place today, I've made a few jokes at work and shit.

Life is a fucking ball ache.

She just text saying "night"


I can fix this

You AC 449, Have been very influential on my thought process, thank you.

investigate:

- assumption(s), accusation(s), judgment, condemnation,
- offense(s), grudge(s), bitterness, resentment,


faulty assumption is what leads to all the rest cascading into a giant overblown overly exaggerated bunch of made up bullshit

it all starts with "she / he or both assumed ..."

What is wrong about being an attention seeker????

I will tell you. Nothing.


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Something to consider.

"Its not you, its me, is actually true."
"No, three is no one else in the picture, is a lie."
"We have simply grown apart," is not true.

Your whole world is going to fall apart. She is doing this to your family, and it is unforgivable. Protect your children from the assholes she is already dating.

Separate quickly, and never face her again.

Take care of yourself first, do not start dating, suffer now, get it out of your system. Then make yourself happy. Never remarry.

OP

Sometimes things like this happen to show and remind each other how what we mean to each other

Remember that


And chances are you'll realize it even better than you did before <3




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Je suis Reilly

Fucking right mate

If you knew OP historic pattern of posting you would know this not to be the case. He appears to be about the entertainment, getting it & giving it in equal doses.

You need a huge angry wasp to give you a nasty sting. Provide some content for your subjective opinion to have any merit.

She wants too f@ck lol

Get gum, best flavor and get a pen to hold. Straws too, you can hold them and put in your mouth. Think of your wife.

Good to see you’re feeling better.
Yes you can fix this.
Promise her you’ll not smoke again.

He's feeling better because of hope. I hope it works out. But I've seen this game before. I'd prepare for the worst. It makes the let down much much easier.

My advice would be to expect to be let down and DON'T BE NEEDY! She'll drop him like a hot potato. Women want constant assurance they made the right choice. He cannot feed that question by forcing an answer into her mind.



Last Edited by Bill the Butcher on 02/06/2020 11:42 PM

I'm going too, and cheers fella

Yeah, that's my stance in life, prepare for worst, and hope for the best.

And yeah you're right, a bit of hope goes a long way, she my girl at the end if the day.


And the thought of some other bloke chatting her up or even giving her the deep dish, really infuriates me.

Have you worked out your plan?
Write down what you want / need to do and do it.
Keep referring to your list as a reminder.

If you’ve never been the type to open up emotionally to her, and she’s never really seen you vulnerable, it’s advisable to start there, as this simple act earns maximum brownie points.

A tip regarding quitting anything, don’t ever say you’ll miss it, or you will. I’d edit that comment to say you won’t miss Mary Jane.

You’re gonna do this, and your life is gonna be so much better for it..

And this is probably the most important thing you have said....

Im wondering deep inside YOU how much you actually blame yourself.... Yoou certainly speak as if YOU are the key to this and YOU are the one who is going to have to do mmore...

I certainly feel you accept blame on your side... and frustration on hers....

OK this isnt going to be a blame session but rather a positive post... As much as we ALL can give advice...its YOU who has to implement change and NOT just lip servicee.


So What is the REAL issue here...is it smoking?? If so...how much do you smoke??

Before I would suggest how you could go about working and be seen to be working on things, is there anything else thats become fractious between both of you??

Last thing anything you do now towards fixing this will be hard for you as it may well mean changing some `scripts` and attitudes!!... Are you Man enough to accfept the challanges and changes you may have to make....And stick with them??

Done :D Hope you are feeling a bit better dude Xx

Were you ever on DNBArena or DOA?

used dnb arena, but never really used to forum much, it was great for finding out what raves was on

I've never been the type to be emotional full stop, I don't show my feelings at all, even on this thread I have let my guard down, feels odd, maybe that's something i need to work on, but i don't like emotional people anyway so that's not for me, but i am being honest with my feelings with her (fuck my feelings)

:cruisemask:

that could be an issue right there ha.


in regards to a plan, honestly, i haven't a clue.

she needs space, i need space, so its going to be a while yet.

i'm taking on all the payments for the house and all that shit, so she will have some level of financial freedom, so she can treat herself and what not.

and yeah the weed thing, I am rather discombobulated about the situation, she sent a text saying i need to stop smoking, i text back saying "i will stop the cigs, I have wanted too for a long time" sooo... she didn't snap back saying "ITS THE WEED" or anything, i know i can smoke a hell of a lot of it, but its not like i'm a stoner waster pot head loser, it just helps keep me leveled.

but i have ran out of bud, i have no intention of buying any currently, but i am really struggling with sleep, i just don't stop unless i've had a night cap.


and good point on the lists too, my mother said that as well.

I like you, your clever and talk about things I do already.

the smoking bit - i smoke a lot mate, and i smoke hard and fast too, im the worst kind of smoker, and thats just the cigs, and the weed smoking, can be 5/6 spliffs on a day off work, 2/3 on a work night.


im ready to accept the challenges, but i'm starting to think that may change the dynamics of the relationship, i don't want to be emasculated after all.

its fucked man lol



and she hasn't text me back today, even when it was kids related, so i don't fucking know, but if this ignoring me shit continues, it will change my mindset.

changing thread title

Pussywiped and praying for more abuse?

J/k bro haha

Help I cant stop smoking! Wife called the Fire Dept!