I have been through and seen a lot
what I have discovered is that the death of a relationship is always due to loss of respect
women will put up with a lot until they no longer respect you
respect is hard to define
however, being an ass kisser does not gain respect
while apart carry on with your life and keep busy
it takes time but if there was a real connection, she will remember that
10 years together is not easily forgotten, be good to your children and leave her alone to get over her resentment and remember she loves you
be strong and have faith
trust me Op, given space to do so she will remember the good