The situation

oi you

yeah fuck being pussywiped

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No one’s ever truly comfortable showing their emotions to others, especially true for most of us guys. You’re learning a lesson that it’s important to a woman and a healthy relationship that you open up to them more, and more often.

I gave up cigs and weed @ same time, it really isn’t that hard if you actually want to give up. Stopped cold turkey with only mild withdrawals & cravings thankfully.

Most have an issue with eating & sleeping after quitting cigs and or weed, but it’s only temporary, and gets better with each day.
The fact is that you’d be having difficulty eating & sleeping anyway, cos of your emotional state, so why not take advantage of that to help you mask the similar symptoms from withdrawals of quitting..

You don’t need weed, especially if it's causing turmoil. Don’t wait for her to ask you to stop the weed. Tell her you intend on quitting that too. Don’t look for a reason to continue to use. Even if she says you don’t have to quit, or that she just wants you to cut back, hell, even if she says she doesn’t want you to give it up, you gotta tell her that you’re giving it up anyway, because you want to.

Even if you think you’re a light user, and weed doesn’t really affect your life and the way you live it, I can assure you it still does.
I can almost guarantee that you’d not be in this predicament if it were not for weed. It clouds your view, so much so that you fail to recognise potential problems, immediate and future.

It changes your behaviour regarding many aspects of life, many that can only truly be appreciated after quitting. I’ve been there guy, many of us have, for some of us it was too late... don’t make the same mistake or you’ll regret it the rest of your life.

You have to do it mate, for yourself as much as your family. Vices are always gonna be there, the unfortunate reality is that your family may not. You are the only one with the power to ensure that doesn’t happen.

Your wife doesn’t want to do this, it’s easier for her to stay. You need to convince her of that with your actions. Don’t push it on her, let her realise for herself. Tell her your plans, give her space, and continue to work on your list.
Don’t give up or relapse into bad habits just because it’s seems pointless, or because she isn’t responding how you expect or want.

It doesn’t matter if you feel emasculated, nor how you look to your mates. The only thing that matters is fixing your family, and if you’re truly invested in doing that you must be willing to do whatever it takes.

As for your plan, it need only be simple.
Sticking with a plan is your best chance of being successful.
Write it on paper and keep in your pocket at all times.
Review it constantly to reinforce your intentions.
Don’t worry about how gay it looks or feels or sounds, just do it.

If you want help or advice making a plan you just have to ask and I’d be more than happy to do that.

You can pm me an email address if you’d prefer to make it private.
Whatever avenue you take just promise to keep us updated and stay positive..

No one’s ever truly comfortable showing their emotions to others, especially true for most of us guys. You’re learning a lesson that it’s important to a woman and a healthy relationship that you open up to them more, and more often.

I gave up cigs and weed @ same time, it really isn’t that hard if you actually want to give up. Stopped cold turkey with only mild withdrawals & cravings thankfully.

Most have an issue with eating & sleeping after quitting cigs and or weed, but it’s only temporary, and gets better with each day.
The fact is that you’d be having difficulty eating & sleeping anyway, cos of your emotional state, so why not take advantage of that to help you mask the similar symptoms from withdrawals of quitting..

You don’t need weed, especially if it's causing turmoil. Don’t wait for her to ask you to stop the weed. Tell her you intend on quitting that too. Don’t look for a reason to continue to use. Even if she says you don’t have to quit, or that she just wants you to cut back, hell, even if she says she doesn’t want you to give it up, you gotta tell her that you’re giving it up anyway, because you want to.

Even if you think you’re a light user, and weed doesn’t really affect your life and the way you live it, I can assure you it still does.
I can almost guarantee that you’d not be in this predicament if it were not for weed. It clouds your view, so much so that you fail to recognise potential problems, immediate and future.

It changes your behaviour regarding many aspects of life, many that can only truly be appreciated after quitting. I’ve been there guy, many of us have, for some of us it was too late... don’t make the same mistake or you’ll regret it the rest of your life.

You have to do it mate, for yourself as much as your family. Vices are always gonna be there, the unfortunate reality is that your family may not. You are the only one with the power to ensure that doesn’t happen.

Your wife doesn’t want to do this, it’s easier for her to stay. You need to convince her of that with your actions. Don’t push it on her, let her realise for herself. Tell her your plans, give her space, and continue to work on your list.
Don’t give up or relapse into bad habits just because it’s seems pointless, or because she isn’t responding how you expect or want.

It doesn’t matter if you feel emasculated, nor how you look to your mates. The only thing that matters is fixing your family, and if you’re truly invested in doing that you must be willing to do whatever it takes.

As for your plan, it need only be simple.
Sticking with a plan is your best chance of being successful.
Write it on paper and keep in your pocket at all times.
Review it constantly to reinforce your intentions.
Don’t worry about how gay it looks or feels or sounds, just do it.

If you want help or advice making a plan you just have to ask and I’d be more than happy to do that.

You can pm me an email address if you’d prefer to make it private.
Whatever avenue you take just promise to keep us updated and stay positive..

To a large extent ...Thats exactly what you want to do.....Change the dynamics!!

After all....how would you describe BOTH your dynamics as it stands??

Do you accept that if.when you `WEAN` and not cold turkey you will go through a major `psychodynamical` changes.... This will affect how you will interact and with it how others will perceive you.... As I said... you will need to be up to this.

Have you taken any steps towards this change??

Yes she may well ignore you...after all... what change has she seen.... Whats the incentive for her here??
If,and it will; change your mindset....make it a positive one.

You will be tempted to `blame` not yourself but perhaps others..... DO YOU accept you `own` this issue and only YOU can repair this??

DOnt forget...this is serious stuff!!!

Well mate, ive not smoked a cig all day, and I've not got any left, I have no weed either.

So we're off to a start.

I'm a tad busy, i will drop you a line later mate, thanks.

Nah, I'm blame myself.

And yeah, I have not smoked today.. And just bought some e-cig bits.. That will help.

I am taking it serious, but she's being cold as fuck.

I have been through and seen a lot
what I have discovered is that the death of a relationship is always due to loss of respect
women will put up with a lot until they no longer respect you
respect is hard to define
however, being an ass kisser does not gain respect
while apart carry on with your life and keep busy
it takes time but if there was a real connection, she will remember that
10 years together is not easily forgotten, be good to your children and leave her alone to get over her resentment and remember she loves you
be strong and have faith
trust me Op, given space to do so she will remember the good

yep, i get what your saying

well a slight update

i've just been to get the kids from the in-laws, she was there, she looked like utter shit, puling her hair out type shit with the kids going fucking ape shit at each other.

wow.

the house was a shit hole, the in-was wasnt there, just wow.

Guys, me and misses are heading in the right direction, i think we are going to work it out, its going to take time, but big work needs to be done on both sides.


ive stopped smoking.

not smoked any weed for a while either.

shes not coming home yet, probably a few months at least.


ive had a shave... baby fresh... and a haircut, so im looking sharp as fuck, and when i saw her today, it was better.


we texted each other, she said i need to be more honest with her about how much i earn and shit like that, as i do keep that to myself, well shit, i didn't want to tell her how much money i pissing away each month, i earn enough to do what i like, but i waste a lot of it clearly.


i just want to say thank you, to all who got involved, it kept my mind thinking positive, i have had a fucking shit couple of weeks, but its going to get better.

my health is almost tip top, im still struggling to eat, ive not worked out for about 2 weeks due to feeling weak, ive lost a a ton a weight, not that i was fat or anything before, but im looking skinny, ive gone from a 34 inch waist to a 28, fuck your personal trainer, give me a shout.


but once again, thank you to the GLP fam, at the end of the day, we are all just words on a screen, but those words, are words of wisdom, i'll upgrade a few of you when you loose your stars.


nice one for putting up with me in bitch mode.




im taking a break from GLP, just for a week or two, then i'll be back to GLP battle mode.



Yours,

0000001

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Wow. Some sad excuses for “men” around here. That’s messed up. Who raised you? Man-bear-pigs?

Fuck off you prick

From observing your very public thread, albeit briefly, you seem to be an attention *explicit*. Very unreliable. If I were your wife I would be embarrassed, hell, if I were your pet I’d be embarrassed. Anyways, I hope you make things fair since you have a very twisted perception of your role as a male in this relationship. I hope you get better.

Since you are so weak she is much better without you.

You must be new here

Ok...000001

Whats your game plan...make yourself a contract. What will you be actively doing??

How touching that you're concerned about my upbringing.

Where were you when I was tied to a fucking dog run in a foster home as a tot? Sitting in the rain and sleeping under the shed like an animal?

That's right. You were nowhere to be found. Just as useless then as you are now.

Some savior you are.

You champion.


Big love to you chief.

Of all the things I miss about my childhood, licking my ass after I shit isn't one of them.

Ffs hahahaha


Mate, there are some truly evil people in this world.


Fuck em.

........at least you didn’t have your balls removed.......

Salute’s you I do.....

No, but every time I see a nice rug I want to drag my ass across it.

Lol.

This little dude is gearing up for a championship by the look of it.

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Lol!

Lol, bless fluffy.

This chap likes disguising it by rocking out to Nirvana.

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I got a new pair of glasses.

Do you even lift bro?