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Anonymous Coward User ID: 78060222 United States 02/14/2020 09:52 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Not condemning Quoting: No Pressure 76095568 Just want to understand What does that mean when you say “Having children changes you” Every parent says it Usually when they want to justify tyranny or bullshit Please help me understand..... Thank you in advance You love someone more than yourself Your entire perspective changes Every decision you make isn't just going to affect you, it's going to affect your child/children |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 45008604 United Kingdom 02/14/2020 09:54 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | My mother always said to me, when your child's life begins, yours as you knew it, ends. Meaning, you focus on growing up, taking responsibility, put your child's wellbeing before your own, even. Everything in life revolves around that little life that you've just brought into this world, at that point. |
@MoonPie User ID: 28698215 United States 02/14/2020 09:56 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | You're not your center of the world anymore. They are. (Apart from the Almighty.) Last Edited by @MoonPie on 02/14/2020 09:56 AM “Shallow men believe in luck or in circumstance. Strong men believe in cause and effect.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson “Three great forces rule the world: stupidity, fear and greed.” — Albert Einstein. "Truth does not mind being questioned. A lie does" — Janis Ian |
Philly Special User ID: 48696927 United States 02/14/2020 09:58 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | While it may be true, it's more often used to make non-parental people feel incomplete or to elevate the speaker above the audience. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 75267417 It's a verbal pat on the head. Condescending. People are allowed their opinions, but don't act like some kind of authority on something that you haven't experienced. Also of note, there are a lot of really bad parents out there. Being a parent makes you the authority on your kids, and that's it. Doesn't make you a good parent. Doesn't mean you know more than anyone else. |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 56578585 United Kingdom 02/14/2020 10:39 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I didn’t know what Love was until I had a child. Quoting: Jenny222 That changes you, when you would take a bullet without question to protect your children, there is no love like that. Ever. Yes, absolutely this. From the proactive perspective I was always prepared to kill to protect my kids. I mean literally. Yet I loathe violence, this is a profoundly instinctive thing, logic and ethics aren't in it. My son became a father not long ago. He held her seconds after she was born. He told me he was instantaneously hit by a massive surge of a ferocious protection feeling for her. I guess that means he would kill to protect her too. Most normal parents would risk everything to protect and care for their children. Completely selflessly. You don't know the meaning of responsibility until your kids are born. Most, though not all, childless people live their lives in a sort of extended adolescence, a self-orientated, pleasure-seeking bubble. Childless people cannot possibly understand what it's like to be a parent. We are two different species. |
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Anonymous Coward (OP) User ID: 76095568 United States 02/14/2020 10:45 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I didn’t know what Love was until I had a child. Quoting: Jenny222 That changes you, when you would take a bullet without question to protect your children, there is no love like that. Ever. Yes, absolutely this. From the proactive perspective I was always prepared to kill to protect my kids. I mean literally. Yet I loathe violence, this is a profoundly instinctive thing, logic and ethics aren't in it. My son became a father not long ago. He held her seconds after she was born. He told me he was instantaneously hit by a massive surge of a ferocious protection feeling for her. I guess that means he would kill to protect her too. Most normal parents would risk everything to protect and care for their children. Completely selflessly. You don't know the meaning of responsibility until your kids are born. Most, though not all, childless people live their lives in a sort of extended adolescence, a self-orientated, pleasure-seeking bubble. Childless people cannot possibly understand what it's like to be a parent. We are two different species. Understand that also I completely agree |
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Anonymous Coward (OP) User ID: 76095568 United States 02/14/2020 10:48 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | While it may be true, it's more often used to make non-parental people feel incomplete or to elevate the speaker above the audience. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 75267417 It's a verbal pat on the head. Condescending. People are allowed their opinions, but don't act like some kind of authority on something that you haven't experienced. Also of note, there are a lot of really bad parents out there. Being a parent makes you the authority on your kids, and that's it. Doesn't make you a good parent. Doesn't mean you know more than anyone else. That’s exactly the point I’m making Sometimes Sometimes Grown ups hide behind their kids Or justify stupid shit in the name of protecting children But I understand all of your points also |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 75267417 United States 02/14/2020 10:52 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | While it may be true, it's more often used to make non-parental people feel incomplete or to elevate the speaker above the audience. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 75267417 It's a verbal pat on the head. Condescending. People are allowed their opinions, but don't act like some kind of authority on something that you haven't experienced. Also of note, there are a lot of really bad parents out there. Being a parent makes you the authority on your kids, and that's it. Doesn't make you a good parent. Doesn't mean you know more than anyone else. All very true. Widely speaking, people these days only needs 1% expertise to act as if they're 90% expert on the topic. I call it Internet Bias; where everyone gets a voice and opinions aren't solicited as much as they're thrown in your face. Great post. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 67148964 Australia 02/14/2020 10:53 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | You look at the innocent child and realise it is no different from yourself or anyone else. You realise that we were all in that beautiful clean slate once and that it is our interactions and our environment that mould our core. beliefs. You see the animal in yourself And know how it can overrides you. You know that if you don’t guide them away from it , they will loose themselves and be comsumed by it, without a care for anyone in their path. That not who I am and that’s not who I raise. |
Anonymous Coward (OP) User ID: 76095568 United States 02/14/2020 10:58 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | You look at the innocent child and realise it is no different from yourself or anyone else. You realise that we were all in that beautiful clean slate once and that it is our interactions and our environment that mould our core. beliefs. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 67148964 You see the animal in yourself And know how it can overrides you. You know that if you don’t guide them away from it , they will loose themselves and be comsumed by it, without a care for anyone in their path. That not who I am and that’s not who I raise. Understood |
Colour Crusader User ID: 78410550 Germany 02/14/2020 10:59 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Thank you for your thread, OP. In having a child, we are forced to reflect on so many things; on how we were brought up ourselves; on what aspects of our childhood we appreciated, and what we did not not; on how our parents treated us when we were little; on how dedicated they were; on their strategies for dealing with stressful situations like illness or tiredness; on whether they had difficulties coping with being responsible 24/7; on whether our parents' response to us was as fast as our response to our own children; on whether we emulated our parents and did what they wished; on what principles we wish to pass on to our children; on what our parents might have "sacrificed" in order to raise us; on behavioral patterns which we learnt as a child to survive in certain situations, but which are longer longer relevant now as an adult. In short, having a child furthers self-reflection in a huge way, which in turn furthers our spiritual growth. There is no getting away from it either. Even when we have "breaks", our thoughts are always with our children. Even when they are out of the house, we still think about our children and jump in and advise them if need be. It is a very, very long comittment. Similar experiences can also be had if looking after an elderly parent or caring for animals on a daily basis. Raising a child is one of the most tiring and most rewarding things one can do. It is a very important task - perhaps THE most important task, as it sets the tone for future generations. Not condemning Quoting: No Pressure 76095568 Just want to understand What does that mean when you say “Having children changes you” Every parent says it Usually when they want to justify tyranny or bullshit Please help me understand..... Thank you in advance Colour Crusader: may we fill the world with vibrant colour, constant critical assessment and deep compassion, moving ever forward towards a paradise of our own creating Thread THE WORLD WILL BECOME PEACEFUL, BEAUTIFUL AND ABUNDANT IF .. Thread: The world will become peaceful, beautiful and abundant IF .... Thread INCREDIBLE VOICES: THE MOST PERSONAL EXPRESSION OF THE HUMAN CONDITION Thread: INCREDIBLE VOICES, AND MUSIC WHICH COMFORTS AND INSPIRES IN DIFFICULT TIMES Thread: WHAT IS YOUR PROBLEM? CHOOSE THE QUALITY WHICH HELPS Thread: HOW WE CAN SOLVE GLOBAL PROBLEMS BY CHOOSING A NUMBER BETWEEN 1 and 100 Thread: HOW FULFILLING IS YOUR JOB? WHAT IS YOUR VOCATION? DREAM ON ... Thread: IS YOUR JOB USEFUL, AND HAVE RECENT DEVELOPMENTS HELPED YOU TO REFLECT ON YOUR REAL VOCATION? Thread: QUESTION OF THE DAY Thread Thread: QUESTION OF THE DAY: SELF-REFLECTION IS ESSENTIAL FOR SURVIVAL |
Anonymous Coward (OP) User ID: 76095568 United States 02/14/2020 11:08 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Thank you for your thread, OP. Quoting: Colour Crusader In having a child, we are forced to reflect on so many things; on how we were brought up ourselves; on what aspects of our childhood we appreciated, and what we did not not; on how our parents treated us when we were little; on how dedicated they were; on their strategies for dealing with stressful situations like illness or tiredness; on whether they had difficulties coping with being responsible 24/7; on whether our parents' response to us was as fast as our response to our own children; on whether we emulated our parents and did what they wished; on what principles we wish to pass on to our children; on what our parents might have "sacrificed" in order to raise us; on behavioral patterns which we learnt as a child to survive in certain situations, but which are longer longer relevant now as an adult. In short, having a child furthers self-reflection in a huge way, which in turn furthers our spiritual growth. There is no getting away from it either. Even when we have "breaks", our thoughts are always with our children. Even when they are out of the house, we still think about our children and jump in and advise them if need be. It is a very, very long comittment. Similar experiences can also be had if looking after an elderly parent or caring for animals on a daily basis. Raising a child is one of the most tiring and most rewarding things one can do. It is a very important task - perhaps THE most important task, as it sets the tone for future generations. Not condemning Quoting: No Pressure 76095568 Just want to understand What does that mean when you say “Having children changes you” Every parent says it Usually when they want to justify tyranny or bullshit Please help me understand..... Thank you in advance I appreciate all your responses Let me just ask the world Please Don’t hide behind your children God bless you all |
Too Dark Park™ Two User ID: 74739218 United States 02/14/2020 11:13 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | You cannot be self centered anymore. At least a good parent shouldn’t be. It’s a total wake up call when you are totally responsible for another life. One that you would give your life for. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 76984449 Well said. Bless my fuck "It’s in my interest, in ours perhaps, or maybe the interests of the greater good, for me to smoke a joint, and calm down.” — Hunter S. Thompson "I've got the spirit, but lose the feeling!" :rockon: |
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Anonymous Coward (OP) User ID: 76095568 United States 02/14/2020 11:18 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Not condemning Quoting: No Pressure 76095568 Just want to understand What does that mean when you say “Having children changes you” Every parent says it Usually when they want to justify tyranny or bullshit Please help me understand..... Thank you in advance Vladimir, go jerk Dave off again. You first loser Have a great day |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 73656735 United States 02/14/2020 11:24 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Not condemning Quoting: No Pressure 76095568 Just want to understand What does that mean when you say “Having children changes you” Every parent says it Usually when they want to justify tyranny or bullshit Please help me understand..... Thank you in advance Vladimir, go jerk Dave off again. You first loser Have a great day I am sick of Dave and Vladimir. |