COVID-19 And Funeral Etiquette...What Do We Do?

Seems like that would be a good opportunity for video conferencing software. I mean, you don't actually have to be in the same room as the body to grief and show your love and respect right?

That's terrible, I'm so sorry to hear, all my best to you and your family.

Yea, my mom died last Sunday. She was living with my brother, a baptist preacher. He called me and told me of the situation concerning where she will be buried. It is a nine hour drive from my house. We've decided to have a very small service, yet I'm worried about not being able to find accommodations near the funeral home. Will hotels be open? Right now there are no restaurants serving meals, except drive through. Should I go and figure out things as I come across the problems or just sit tight and pay my respects at a later date? What to do, what to do....

Thank you. The whole plan was to just have so much fun this month and make some quick memories since chemo isn't kicking her ass. Eat out at all her favorite restaurants, movies, and whatever she wanted to do. This has really put a damper on an already shitty situation. Dad has aged 10 years this past year so don't even know how that is going to work out. Married over 50 years. 2020 isn't going to be a good year.

I know for a fact (unfortunately lost a close immediate family member the other day) churches and funeral homes are limiting services to immediate family only. So I sincerely doubt you'd be able to attend anyway...

Maybe it's just the big cities right now but I expect this will be nationwide soon.

Additionally, we are having to wait for a mandatory autopsy to bury because even though the cause of death was known, this person was in a hospital last month where a confirmed COVID 19 case came to the ER despite no possible cross contact.

Fucking deplorable.

Very, very few people will be faced with your dilemma because very, very few people in this country will die from Covid-19.

One of my very close friends passed away last Friday, under mysterious circumstances. He called his girlfriend complaining of sudden and severe breathing problems, she immediately called 911 and emergency responders arrived within 18 mins. Unfortunately he was DOA. They were able to resuscitate him, but unfortunately he was pronounced brain dead upon arrival at the ER. He remained on life support for two days, but the plug was pulled Sunday. The hospital did press this issue because they needed the ICU bed for other patients that could be saved.

The doctors stated that his lungs had suddenly filled with fluid and he had drowned, but so far have only ruled out heart attack, and the coroners autopsy report is not yet in. We have no idea as of yet why this happened.

He was a huge fan of a popular local band here, never missed a set, there was a large gathering held at a bar on Sunday by the band that the majority of his friends attended, at least 300 people. Due to virus mitigation reasons we chose not to attend. Now all those same friends, as well as his family are planning to be at his funeral on Thursday. The possibility that someone, or even many people at this funeral have been exposed to the virus is pretty high IMO, especially after the bar gathering.

WTF were they thinking?

I'm middle-aged and have underlying health issues that put me in the high risk category for COVID-19, my mother and fiance's father are in their mid 70's and also have high risk health issues, and we see them every weekend to help with needs. None of us can afford to be exposed if at all possible.

He was an important and dear friend and we feel absolutely terrible, but it's pretty obvious that we cannot attend his funeral. As well we are pretty certain after speaking with other friends whom ARE attending that many will be upset with us for not being there. This is not an easy issue, in fact we're really struggling with it.

Neither MSM, nor POTUS' Team have spoke to the issue of funerals, and what mitigation factors should be at this point.

Your thoughts?

I don't think anyone should be having funeral services at this time. They could always have a memorial service after this threat has passed. I had a friend who also passed away suddenly last week. (They still do not know the cause of her death). I did not attend her funeral, because of this virus threat. Sorry for you loss.
It's more important to stay safe and use caution.
I don't think anyone is going to be upset with you for not attending.

One of my very close friends passed away last Friday, under mysterious circumstances. He called his girlfriend complaining of sudden and severe breathing problems, she immediately called 911 and emergency responders arrived within 18 mins. Unfortunately he was DOA. They were able to resuscitate him, but unfortunately he was pronounced brain dead upon arrival at the ER. He remained on life support for two days, but the plug was pulled Sunday. The hospital did press this issue because they needed the ICU bed for other patients that could be saved.

The doctors stated that his lungs had suddenly filled with fluid and he had drowned, but so far have only ruled out heart attack, and the coroners autopsy report is not yet in. We have no idea as of yet why this happened.

He was a huge fan of a popular local band here, never missed a set, there was a large gathering held at a bar on Sunday by the band that the majority of his friends attended, at least 300 people. Due to virus mitigation reasons we chose not to attend. Now all those same friends, as well as his family are planning to be at his funeral on Thursday. The possibility that someone, or even many people at this funeral have been exposed to the virus is pretty high IMO, especially after the bar gathering.

WTF were they thinking?

I'm middle-aged and have underlying health issues that put me in the high risk category for COVID-19, my mother and fiance's father are in their mid 70's and also have high risk health issues, and we see them every weekend to help with needs. None of us can afford to be exposed if at all possible.

He was an important and dear friend and we feel absolutely terrible, but it's pretty obvious that we cannot attend his funeral. As well we are pretty certain after speaking with other friends whom ARE attending that many will be upset with us for not being there. This is not an easy issue, in fact we're really struggling with it.

Neither MSM, nor POTUS' Team have spoke to the issue of funerals, and what mitigation factors should be at this point.

Your thoughts?

We are gonna need millions of new Cemeteries to allow Social Distancing of Graves and old cemeteries will have to redone.