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ThePassenger User ID: 79041139 France 06/17/2020 08:25 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Ok...a real advice? Make her believe that she is right about blm. Follow her in protest and even protest with her. Don t destroy your love for a idea. Patience. She will quickly see that this movement is nothing more than a huge joke. A.I.B.I.A. |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 12947052 United States 06/17/2020 08:34 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Ok...a real advice? Make her believe that she is right about blm. Follow her in protest and even protest with her. Don t destroy your love for a idea. Patience. She will quickly see that this movement is nothing more than a huge joke. Quoting: ThePassenger this sounds legit, but I would also mix it with something positive - go to a blm event ***DURING THE DAY ***, stay away from the mob, take photos, etc... then go to a nice restaurant and talk about something else - try to steer the conversation to anything but the blm thing that you just experienced by telling her that it's important to have balance in life, so the deal is this: 1) we can go to blm day event together 2) we go to dinner afterwards and NOT talk about blm because balance |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 78949901 United States 06/17/2020 08:35 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | My gf has lost her mind during this pandemic. Quoting: SoberLife She just put a BLM sign in the back of her car. In her side window she also put a sign that reads "White silence is white violence". We live in a nice neighborhood. Its like painting a bullseye on the front of my house. I made her take them down. She went to a BLM protest locally. Where some wacko convinced her to believe the phrase "all lives matter" is racist and is a hate term directed at the BLM movement. I asked her how she thinks this makes her teenage son feel...asking her if she intends to make him feel guilty for having white skin. The question was over her head. She can't understand this concept. She's vulnerable to propaganda. She's scared to death of the coronavirus. Has barely left the house for 10 weeks. Hasn't worked a minute. I've been working 60 hours a week to get us by. During the time i believe a preexisting mental health condition has come out. She'll talk nonstop for hours, changing the subject of the conversation so rapidly that what she says doesn't make sense. Contradicts herself from one sentence to the other. Manic depressive, with no regard to reasoning or logic. If I disagree with her on any subject, she takes it as an attack on her character. If she cries, she'll cry for 5 hours straight. If she gets excited about something, she'll become compulsive and stay up for 2-3 days straight (no drugs). I've asked her to talk to a therapist or see a doctor. She'll agree and then act like we never had the conversation. If I try to push it, she'll go into the crying stage and corner me until she breaks me down. The only way I get any peace is to completely leave her alone and let her chase whatever crazy ideas she has and not hold her accountable. Has anyone else dealt with a similar situation? I'm at a loss on where to go from here. PS- I want to help her. I've been with her over 5 years, and she has never been like this. Giving her the boot and leaving her out to dry is not an option. I have a Boss that acts the same way. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 77595243 United States 06/17/2020 08:35 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | My gf has lost her mind during this pandemic. Quoting: SoberLife She just put a BLM sign in the back of her car. In her side window she also put a sign that reads "White silence is white violence". We live in a nice neighborhood. Its like painting a bullseye on the front of my house. I made her take them down. She went to a BLM protest locally. Where some wacko convinced her to believe the phrase "all lives matter" is racist and is a hate term directed at the BLM movement. I asked her how she thinks this makes her teenage son feel...asking her if she intends to make him feel guilty for having white skin. The question was over her head. She can't understand this concept. She's vulnerable to propaganda. She's scared to death of the coronavirus. Has barely left the house for 10 weeks. Hasn't worked a minute. I've been working 60 hours a week to get us by. During the time i believe a preexisting mental health condition has come out. She'll talk nonstop for hours, changing the subject of the conversation so rapidly that what she says doesn't make sense. Contradicts herself from one sentence to the other. Manic depressive, with no regard to reasoning or logic. If I disagree with her on any subject, she takes it as an attack on her character. If she cries, she'll cry for 5 hours straight. If she gets excited about something, she'll become compulsive and stay up for 2-3 days straight (no drugs). I've asked her to talk to a therapist or see a doctor. She'll agree and then act like we never had the conversation. If I try to push it, she'll go into the crying stage and corner me until she breaks me down. The only way I get any peace is to completely leave her alone and let her chase whatever crazy ideas she has and not hold her accountable. Has anyone else dealt with a similar situation? I'm at a loss on where to go from here. PS- I want to help her. I've been with her over 5 years, and she has never been like this. Giving her the boot and leaving her out to dry is not an option. Based off your username I imagine she's been a security blanket for you to "turn your life around" Time to turn it around again and send her packing |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 78092480 United States 06/17/2020 08:36 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Ok...a real advice? Make her believe that she is right about blm. Follow her in protest and even protest with her. Don t destroy your love for a idea. Patience. She will quickly see that this movement is nothing more than a huge joke. Quoting: ThePassenger this sounds legit, but I would also mix it with something positive - go to a blm event ***DURING THE DAY ***, stay away from the mob, take photos, etc... then go to a nice restaurant and talk about something else - try to steer the conversation to anything but the blm thing that you just experienced by telling her that it's important to have balance in life, so the deal is this: 1) we can go to blm day event together 2) we go to dinner afterwards and NOT talk about blm because balance If any part of your relationship involves the phrase, "when we were at the blm protest earlier..." you are doing it wrong. |
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Mother Knows Best User ID: 78228976 United States 06/17/2020 08:39 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | In all sincerity, she sounds like she is having a break down of some sort. The stress of this pandemic has taken its toll on a lot of people. Now, we are being told to feel guilty for being "privileged". It is a lot for people to handle who are not extremely strong mentally. I have seen people freak out over these situations that I know in my personal life that I never dreamed would react that way. If she is willing to go talk to someone I would recommend it. The insomnia and mania definitely sound like a mental issue. In the moments she will agree to see a doctor, I would immediately make an appointment for her. Also, if there is a family member or friend who she respects the opinion of I would try to get them to talk to her. Amyone else who can help keep her accountable for getting care from a doctor. Praying for you and her! |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 78144924 United States 06/17/2020 08:41 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | My gf has lost her mind during this pandemic. Quoting: SoberLife She just put a BLM sign in the back of her car. In her side window she also put a sign that reads "White silence is white violence". We live in a nice neighborhood. Its like painting a bullseye on the front of my house. I made her take them down. She went to a BLM protest locally. Where some wacko convinced her to believe the phrase "all lives matter" is racist and is a hate term directed at the BLM movement. I asked her how she thinks this makes her teenage son feel...asking her if she intends to make him feel guilty for having white skin. The question was over her head. She can't understand this concept. She's vulnerable to propaganda. She's scared to death of the coronavirus. Has barely left the house for 10 weeks. Hasn't worked a minute. I've been working 60 hours a week to get us by. During the time i believe a preexisting mental health condition has come out. She'll talk nonstop for hours, changing the subject of the conversation so rapidly that what she says doesn't make sense. Contradicts herself from one sentence to the other. Manic depressive, with no regard to reasoning or logic. If I disagree with her on any subject, she takes it as an attack on her character. If she cries, she'll cry for 5 hours straight. If she gets excited about something, she'll become compulsive and stay up for 2-3 days straight (no drugs). I've asked her to talk to a therapist or see a doctor. She'll agree and then act like we never had the conversation. If I try to push it, she'll go into the crying stage and corner me until she breaks me down. The only way I get any peace is to completely leave her alone and let her chase whatever crazy ideas she has and not hold her accountable. Has anyone else dealt with a similar situation? I'm at a loss on where to go from here. PS- I want to help her. I've been with her over 5 years, and she has never been like this. Giving her the boot and leaving her out to dry is not an option. Does not sign like you're compatible. It wont work. It is impossible to change other persons beliefs. The longer you stay in this relationship, the worse it will become. |
MostlySunshine User ID: 48426092 United States 06/17/2020 08:46 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | If she doesn't get help then there is nothing you can do. Maybe it will pass or maybe it will get worse. My mother has a mental illness that she won't get help for and it has only gotten worse. Now I go to therapy to deal. I hope your girlfriend can get the help she needs. Ain't no sunshine when she's gone...ain't no borderline psychotic emotional outbursts either. Some days you just have to create your own sunshine. |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 79041947 Canada 06/17/2020 08:54 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Manic-depressive bi polar disorder, suffering from White Knight syndrome. Been there, done that many years ago. It eventually required involuntary hospitalization in the hospital psych ward (10 days, first 3 are mandatory 72 hour hold) to diagnose and get a working cocktail of drugs that would help me. She needs help you can not provide. This is the honest truth. You can help her get the help, thats it. My mom and doctor had to call the cops on me to get me to go to the hospital that had the psych ward. Things will get better, I am living proof. Hang in there brother. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 66141563 United States 06/17/2020 08:57 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I dunno man. Borderline personality? Histrionic personality disorder? I've noticed that a lot of mental illnesses that manifest in the frantic mania, crying, or acting like a child are usually rooted in childhood trauma. People get emotionally frozen in a certain age, like arrested development. Then again - Some bipolar folks (Depending on the types) have short mania cycle and others very brief. I'm no doctor but I bet it's super easy to diagnose for someone who knows their shit! |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 78092480 United States 06/17/2020 08:58 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | buy some rfid fabric, get her to let you cover her with it and see if she calms down or get her to get in a volume of water enough to block rfid. I was kind of like this, minus the blm part, for weeks. the rfid fabric stops it. I think some of us have been targeted, I just don't know how we were selected. I spent a lot of time in the water until my fabric got here. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 79042121 :saganwhat: |
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Otter girl User ID: 72455048 United States 06/17/2020 09:02 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Unfortunately meds don't work for me, but I found out multiple food allergies triggered most of my episodes. Try to take her to the ER. Tell her to call her psychiatrist. Tell her it is better to get stabilized soon or else her mania could escalate into psychosis. If she does not want to go on psych meds, there are some homeopathic remedies that can treat psychosis. Call a professional homeopath. Stress can trigger bipolar episodes. Try to get her into the ER. They can admit her to the psych unit from there. |
Arthur Jackson User ID: 78244383 United States 06/17/2020 09:47 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | She is manic. She is going to need help for the rest of her life. Prepare to be disappointed, angry, and poor, If you can’t make the commitment to nurse a crazy lady 24/7/365 then kick her out. Honestly, there are lots of women out there without major health issues, go get one. Smoke me a kipper, I’ll be back for breakfast. If you do not take an interest in the affairs of your government, then you are doomed to live under the rule of fools. — Plato “AI is kind of a fancy thing, first of all it’s two letters. It means artificial intelligence.” Kamala Harris VPOTUS |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 79042121 United States 06/17/2020 09:49 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | buy some rfid fabric, get her to let you cover her with it and see if she calms down or get her to get in a volume of water enough to block rfid. I was kind of like this, minus the blm part, for weeks. the rfid fabric stops it. I think some of us have been targeted, I just don't know how we were selected. I spent a lot of time in the water until my fabric got here. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 79042121 :saganwhat: I know it sounds crazy. I was feeling manic, with no history of manic, the temp started getting warmer so I started getting in the pool to cool off, it was like flipping a switch, almost instant manic turn off. honestly I had created so much chaos that I don't even understand it. spouse started telling me we can not talk unless you are in the pool. driving in very remote places also helped. we decided to try a sheet of rfid blocking fabric it doesn't help as fast but within 10 min I am calm. now that I see at least some of what I can do to control whatever it is I don't feel so out of control grasping for any logic, I still feel it but know I have some control of it, that there are ways to hide. |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 78478834 Canada 06/17/2020 09:57 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | In all sincerity, she sounds like she is having a break down of some sort. The stress of this pandemic has taken its toll on a lot of people. Now, we are being told to feel guilty for being "privileged". It is a lot for people to handle who are not extremely strong mentally. Quoting: Mother Knows Best I have seen people freak out over these situations that I know in my personal life that I never dreamed would react that way. If she is willing to go talk to someone I would recommend it. The insomnia and mania definitely sound like a mental issue. In the moments she will agree to see a doctor, I would immediately make an appointment for her. Also, if there is a family member or friend who she respects the opinion of I would try to get them to talk to her. Amyone else who can help keep her accountable for getting care from a doctor. Praying for you and her! Good for you for not saying ok, it's going badly, I'm bailing. Also, good for you to think of her son, and wanting to help him too, and thinking what this is doing to him. Sounds like she needs to see a therapist; probably needs Rx; which is better than the alternative, i.e. staying like she is, or even suicide, the ultimate end game when a person is depressed or mentally ill. It would be so good if she could get really out of the news/propaganda whirlwind for awhile. I''m sure the lockdown has affected so many of us, much worse than the virus. I'll pray for you and her and her son. God bless you |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 78478834 Canada 06/17/2020 10:00 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | buy some rfid fabric, get her to let you cover her with it and see if she calms down or get her to get in a volume of water enough to block rfid. I was kind of like this, minus the blm part, for weeks. the rfid fabric stops it. I think some of us have been targeted, I just don't know how we were selected. I spent a lot of time in the water until my fabric got here. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 79042121 :saganwhat: I know it sounds crazy. I was feeling manic, with no history of manic, the temp started getting warmer so I started getting in the pool to cool off, it was like flipping a switch, almost instant manic turn off. honestly I had created so much chaos that I don't even understand it. spouse started telling me we can not talk unless you are in the pool. driving in very remote places also helped. we decided to try a sheet of rfid blocking fabric it doesn't help as fast but within 10 min I am calm. now that I see at least some of what I can do to control whatever it is I don't feel so out of control grasping for any logic, I still feel it but know I have some control of it, that there are ways to hide. WOW, that's amazing! I do believe they are trying to control our thoughts. Even operation Alice in wonderland, which I've heard about and which sounds not as bad as some other methods I've heard about is terrible. Hmm, yes, getting away from the electro magnetic radiation. Sometimes when I wake early in the morning I feel like my thoughts are not my own. |
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Larry D. Croc User ID: 70736097 United States 06/17/2020 10:03 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | My gf has lost her mind during this pandemic. Quoting: SoberLife She just put a BLM sign in the back of her car. In her side window she also put a sign that reads "White silence is white violence". We live in a nice neighborhood. Its like painting a bullseye on the front of my house. I made her take them down. She went to a BLM protest locally. Where some wacko convinced her to believe the phrase "all lives matter" is racist and is a hate term directed at the BLM movement. I asked her how she thinks this makes her teenage son feel...asking her if she intends to make him feel guilty for having white skin. The question was over her head. She can't understand this concept. She's vulnerable to propaganda. She's scared to death of the coronavirus. Has barely left the house for 10 weeks. Hasn't worked a minute. I've been working 60 hours a week to get us by. During the time i believe a preexisting mental health condition has come out. She'll talk nonstop for hours, changing the subject of the conversation so rapidly that what she says doesn't make sense. Contradicts herself from one sentence to the other. Manic depressive, with no regard to reasoning or logic. If I disagree with her on any subject, she takes it as an attack on her character. If she cries, she'll cry for 5 hours straight. If she gets excited about something, she'll become compulsive and stay up for 2-3 days straight (no drugs). I've asked her to talk to a therapist or see a doctor. She'll agree and then act like we never had the conversation. If I try to push it, she'll go into the crying stage and corner me until she breaks me down. The only way I get any peace is to completely leave her alone and let her chase whatever crazy ideas she has and not hold her accountable. Has anyone else dealt with a similar situation? I'm at a loss on where to go from here. PS- I want to help her. I've been with her over 5 years, and she has never been like this. Giving her the boot and leaving her out to dry is not an option. Classic bipolar behavior. It's a chemical imbalance and actually medication works pretty well in a short period of time. "Socialism only works in two places: Heaven where they don't need it and hell, where they already have it." Ronald Reagan The trouble with our liberal friends is not that they're ignorant; it's just that they know so much that isn't so." Ronald Reagan |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 46960637 United States 06/17/2020 10:18 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Get her to a psychiatrist as soon as possible please. She needs medication. If she don't go, than leave her until she does. Yes, it is that important. Don't waste time with any nut-case who won't get help. Yeah, I have the Stupid shirt. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 78899736 Sweden 06/17/2020 10:22 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | My gf has lost her mind during this pandemic. Quoting: SoberLife She just put a BLM sign in the back of her car. In her side window she also put a sign that reads "White silence is white violence". We live in a nice neighborhood. Its like painting a bullseye on the front of my house. I made her take them down. She went to a BLM protest locally. Where some wacko convinced her to believe the phrase "all lives matter" is racist and is a hate term directed at the BLM movement. I asked her how she thinks this makes her teenage son feel...asking her if she intends to make him feel guilty for having white skin. The question was over her head. She can't understand this concept. She's vulnerable to propaganda. She's scared to death of the coronavirus. Has barely left the house for 10 weeks. Hasn't worked a minute. I've been working 60 hours a week to get us by. During the time i believe a preexisting mental health condition has come out. She'll talk nonstop for hours, changing the subject of the conversation so rapidly that what she says doesn't make sense. Contradicts herself from one sentence to the other. Manic depressive, with no regard to reasoning or logic. If I disagree with her on any subject, she takes it as an attack on her character. If she cries, she'll cry for 5 hours straight. If she gets excited about something, she'll become compulsive and stay up for 2-3 days straight (no drugs). I've asked her to talk to a therapist or see a doctor. She'll agree and then act like we never had the conversation. If I try to push it, she'll go into the crying stage and corner me until she breaks me down. The only way I get any peace is to completely leave her alone and let her chase whatever crazy ideas she has and not hold her accountable. Has anyone else dealt with a similar situation? I'm at a loss on where to go from here. PS- I want to help her. I've been with her over 5 years, and she has never been like this. Giving her the boot and leaving her out to dry is not an option. |