The REAL Pandemic! Grown children moving back in with their parents!!

My neighbor just had all 4 of his 40 something year old kids move back home!!

I see a lot of people on this thread that have swallowed the “American Dream” hook, line and sinker.

One of the worst things that can happen to a country is for its families to distance themselves from one another. Most of the world used to live multi-generationally under one roof, but now it’s kick the kids out at 18. Do you people understand who promulgated this garbage? It was the bankers, the developers, the appliance manufacturers, everyone who benefitted from making loans, building and selling houses and equipping them. Massive duplication of effort to gain the illusion of freedom and independence. Separate housing, in addition to being an unnecessary financial burden, tends to lessen familial solidarity. “Do your own thing” is much easier in your own place, but it comes at the cost of distanced relations.

At one time our family had four generations living under one roof, and it was wonderful, and a time I would repeat if possible. Of course, we all loved and cared for each other, unlike many in this thread who sound like they hate their progeny and relatives and can’t wait to be rid of them.

Whoa!

Or you can be like me.

37 years old. Dad moving back in with me. Renting out his house.

My neighbor just had all 4 of his 40 something year old kids move back home!!

they could move in with each other!

Why are you living so vicariously through your neighbors troubles?

Mind your own business. Who the fuck goes and posts that shit about their neighbor on the internet.

Is it really you and not the neighbor or are you just a old half dead busy body?

I see a lot of people on this thread that have swallowed the “American Dream” hook, line and sinker.

One of the worst things that can happen to a country is for its families to distance themselves from one another. Most of the world used to live multi-generationally under one roof, but now it’s kick the kids out at 18. Do you people understand who promulgated this garbage? It was the bankers, the developers, the appliance manufacturers, everyone who benefitted from making loans, building and selling houses and equipping them. Massive duplication of effort to gain the illusion of freedom and independence. Separate housing, in addition to being an unnecessary financial burden, tends to lessen familial solidarity. “Do your own thing” is much easier in your own place, but it comes at the cost of distanced relations.

At one time our family had four generations living under one roof, and it was wonderful, and a time I would repeat if possible. Of course, we all loved and cared for each other, unlike many in this thread who sound like they hate their progeny and relatives and can’t wait to be rid of them.

Not in our family. My kids have been on their own since graduating college, but I have two different neighbors whose adult kids have been living at home way before COVID even started. Kids are in their 20's. I guess that's still young.

Yep. Thats even worse. 4 grand kids now in his house... i feel for him!

Just relaying his story...

Unfortunately we live in a country (that for the most part) kicks the kids out at 18 and does not want them back.

Also keep in mind there are many people who had kids and never wanted them. They basically are forced by law in that they have to provide for them at some level and patiently wait till they are 18 to kick them to the curb.

I know grown men in their 50's and 60's that never left home. Mommas boys. I think its weird but its non of my business.

I'm 37, my parents are both deceased.

I have had a Job for 8 years been help in with bills living with my mom. Now that she died suddenly I'm left to pay all the bills and sort our boxes of family history.

My dad died when I was 13.

I seen my mom every day for 37 years. No one knew me better. I miss talking to her.

I hope I can remember her recipes. Made a killer potato salad. I'm alone in this world now. Had a fiancee in 2005 that died on x ma's morning. Been pretty much single since 2005 when she died.

Bill Cosby said a man has two women in his life. His mom and his wife. One brings you into the world and the other takes you out.

So far as I can see I'm going to be checking out of this world alone. At the mercy of medical staff.

Probably sitting in the hallway of some hospital.

Or, since I am unattached to anyone I could easily die righteously in battle. Wish I could sacrifice my life for a noble cause. I wouldn't have to worry about retirement then.

It would have to be righteous battle for I don't want innocent blood on my hands.

It's hard to tell which cause would be worthy of bloodshed. The blood of the enemy and my own blood.

I'm already being overtaken by the bills.
Rent
Car payment
Food
Electricity
Water
Phone
The vet bill for her dog. Which now has diabetes. $170.

I'm behind on rent, haven't paid the electric.

Mom had no life insurance. Had a mesothelioma case going for millions but died of kidney failure from the chemo. So the case is cancelled.

I can only file a case for wrongful death now which will only pay out a few grand.

I've never paid any bills in my name in my life, always had mom taking care of it.

The dog only eats fresh steak or chicken. I starve eating Vienna sausage and ramen and give her steak. Sometimes she turns her nose up at it and I have to feed her by hand.

My mom always fed her by hand.

I need to sell all her stuff and throw away the rest so I can be a nomads.

My future is uncertain.
I've picked up skills in life that can allow me to work. But I can't work forever.

Building and fixing garage doors and doing home remodels is hard work.

My mom would know what to do.

I had one dream of her since she passed. I was sleeping past my alarm clock and had a dream where she woke me up and I started to throw my clothes on to rush out the door for work. In the dream she asked me where I was going. I told her I had to go to work.

She replied "why?" And I said because I need money.

To which she said "ohh" with a disappointed look on her face and turned around and went back in her room.

One day, they’re gonna tell you “once you move into the nursing home you can’t move back”.

funny and true!

as I said in my post above, my children know they are always welcome with me.


so were my parents as they aged

I kicked my 20 year old out on March 1... but she moved back last month after an issue with the apartment complex - gets her new apartment in a few weeks and she won’t be moving back in. The 16 year old has a few years before she gets the boot.

Life is tough and the sooner you figure that out the better. I am still here
For real emergencies - housing or finance - but I don’t consider this pandemic as a real emergency.

Sadly it's happening to my parents and me.
My brother, new wife, and toddler moved in with my aging parents.
My parents are both on disability and barely make ends meet.
His daughter, my niece, and her baby may be moving in with them too.
My brother can't keep a job long and his wife doesn't work.
My niece won't work long either.
His son, my nephew who is 26 has been living with us for nearly a year without a job.
My husband and I both work full time jobs and help out my folks every week with money and groceries.
It just astounds me that those family members can be so selfish sponging off their family and not caring how tough of a spot they are putting my parents in.
My folks should be able to live decently on what they make if they didn't have so many hands out taking what they can.
At 43, I've never moved back in with my folks after leaving home.
I get that at times people need help, I've been there myself.
But to always depend on others to take care of you just sickens me.
My husband and I never wanted kids, yet here we are taking care of a grown adult who although I love him dearly, we shouldn't have to be.
My brother should be shouldering this responsibility and not only taking care of himself and his family but helping our folks as well.
I've been working since I was 15 and helping my parents with bills on and off since then.
Something is mighty wrong with people nowadays.
Too much selfishness and not enough consideration.

The economy has always been a can kicked down the road. Don't blame this administration for what has been decades in the making. Piss money into the wind you’ll get pissed on. I never nor will my offspring ever have to run home to mommy and daddy for a place to live. Cover your own ass and protect those you love. Self sufficiency seems to have fallen by the wayside. Pity those who who have lost the concept.