HELP - Is it normal/acceptable for a wife to go through all of husband’s text messages every day?

Background - I am married. No infidelity on her or my part. This is a heated point of contention between the two of us. She feels it is normal and acceptable while I am insistent that this breeds mistrust and is beyond unacceptable, beyond normal and beyond unhealthy. I have no interest in getting her to simply agree to stop doing this. I want her not only to stop - but to also realize and acknowledge how incredibly wrong the act is.

As to the act itself. If, at the end of the day (or at any point during the day), your wife made it a habit to take your phone and go through your entire texting history from that day as a point of routine, what would you think?

My wife insists she is only trying to stay informed. I am of the opinion that 99% of the population would think their spouse is suspicious of something if this was a daily habit - be it suspicious of infidelity or other secrets.

All that being said - to be clear - I have no problem with my spouse picking up my phone should a message come in and reading it. I have no problem with my spouse using my phone. I have no problem with my spouse seeing my communication history. I’m talking specifically about the act of going through your message history text by text by text.

In your opinion, would this breed suspicion on the part of a husband? I have nothing to hide, but simultaneously, I think any reasonable person would think that their wife suspects them of something if this was a daily routine.

Both men and women, married and unmarried - please chime in.

Background - I am married. No infidelity on her or my part. This is a heated point of contention between the two of us. She feels it is normal and acceptable while I am insistent that this breeds mistrust and is beyond unacceptable, beyond normal and beyond unhealthy. I have no interest in getting her to simply agree to stop doing this. I want her not only to stop - but to also realize and acknowledge how incredibly wrong the act is.

As to the act itself. If, at the end of the day (or at any point during the day), your wife made it a habit to take your phone and go through your entire texting history from that day as a point of routine, what would you think?

My wife insists she is only trying to stay informed. I am of the opinion that 99% of the population would think their spouse is suspicious of something if this was a daily habit - be it suspicious of infidelity or other secrets.

All that being said - to be clear - I have no problem with my spouse picking up my phone should a message come in and reading it. I have no problem with my spouse using my phone. I have no problem with my spouse seeing my communication history. I’m talking specifically about the act of going through your message history text by text by text.

In your opinion, would this breed suspicion on the part of a husband? I have nothing to hide, but simultaneously, I think any reasonable person would think that their wife suspects them of something if this was a daily routine.

Both men and women, married and unmarried - please chime in.

She is a cheater. Sorry man.

If there is a woman in your household
You better be ready to lay everything on the table, if you don't feel like you can be honest with her, then it's not the woman for you.

I think even access to your devices/passwords should be off-limits, but apparently I'm in the minority. Guess I'll stay single.

I agree!

...got cut off on last post. One, I suspect she suspects infidelity on my part. Two, I suspect she suspects drug use on my part (I had a dangerous habit at one point - though not during our marriage. Three, she is psychologically incredibly insecure and has an unhealthy need to consume excess information for whatever reason.

She is a cheater. Sorry man.

Background - I am married. No infidelity on her or my part. This is a heated point of contention between the two of us. She feels it is normal and acceptable while I am insistent that this breeds mistrust and is beyond unacceptable, beyond normal and beyond unhealthy. I have no interest in getting her to simply agree to stop doing this. I want her not only to stop - but to also realize and acknowledge how incredibly wrong the act is.

As to the act itself. If, at the end of the day (or at any point during the day), your wife made it a habit to take your phone and go through your entire texting history from that day as a point of routine, what would you think?

My wife insists she is only trying to stay informed. I am of the opinion that 99% of the population would think their spouse is suspicious of something if this was a daily habit - be it suspicious of infidelity or other secrets.

All that being said - to be clear - I have no problem with my spouse picking up my phone should a message come in and reading it. I have no problem with my spouse using my phone. I have no problem with my spouse seeing my communication history. I’m talking specifically about the act of going through your message history text by text by text.

In your opinion, would this breed suspicion on the part of a husband? I have nothing to hide, but simultaneously, I think any reasonable person would think that their wife suspects them of something if this was a daily routine.

Both men and women, married and unmarried - please chime in.

What's the problem?

You should like it that your spouse wants to be informed.

When she knows what you know and you know what she knows, then you guys can be on the same page.

It's irritating when your spouse is tight lipped. It sucks to be left in the dark on things, because it makes a person feel helpless. Almost like they are a kept pet rather than a partner.