So, why am I making the world shittier?

Because I chose to marry a divorced man? I think I am OK person. I support assisting the adult children...even suggested we bankroll one of them to get a home. So, I am shitty?

I don't get why people insist on devaluing their previous spouse...short of them bring pure evil. I know my cousin's first wife and she is the sweetest, most giving person you could ever meet. I don't know his 2nd wife that well, but I maintain it is tacky to act as if their life sucked until they married the 2nd wife. Maybe my cousin is happier but I still think it tacky to act as if their life was miserable before.