My Wife and I are reuniting after a lengthy separation. Any advice, other than pray together more often?

Butt play

Sex. Lots! All will be good.

Yes, DON'T DO IT! You were rid of her once, now you're going back into the SOS....

Women want to be cherished, men want to be adored.

If you aren't willing to trust, it will be a futile reunion.

Ask yourself if you are meeting your own expectations of her. She should reflect on the same.

Practice radical acceptance.

Weekly date nights where you both dress up and flirt. You need to constantly connect like you are dating.

Be productive about fights. Never fight just for the drama. Find a solution so you dont have the same fights over and over.

everyone is different. I tried that once and after a week realized all the reasons we split up were valid. Hope it works out better for you

Lucky you both!

Try to no repeat the same mistakes.

Counseling, patience, honesty and openness, dedication,
intimacy and love. Make time for each other, both in bed and out of it.

Don't go to bed angry. Work issues out before sleeping. Don't let things fester. Neither of you hide things.

Your marriage is doomed, OP, unless you decide to not take her shit anymore. You don't have to vocalize it, just know within yourself that you won't, and act accordingly.

She might start to respect you then. Lose those soft doe eyes of yours.

Never go backwards in life.

If it didn't work the first time, it won't work the second.

I respectfully disagree. It really depends on why it didn't work out, which he hasn't stated.

It also depends on how dedicated they are to making it work.

This is what broke us up in the first place. Exactly this.

She is not reflecting on the same.

I meet all of her expectations and exceed them.

She, unfortunately, has a problem when it comes to open, free-flowing expression.

Trust. Her into me? 100% Me into her? <I don't know.>

What has changed that is bringing us back together?

When we are communicating well, we're wonderful together. Well, ok...it's been that way for a while now. We're communicating better on the phone, although there is still much there to repair when it comes to the entire spectrum of our communication together.

It's just better between us right now and we agreed to try and communicate better with each other. She has a lot more to "prove" than I do. I guess only time will tell if she can begin to freely express herself around me.

I think what her underlying problem is that other men in her past got angry with her for expressing herself honestly. She may be quite gun-shy when it comes to being open with me. As for me, I find that free-flowing information makes for interesting conversation. She doesn't understand that I won't get offended or angry at her, no matter what she reveals.

She dated a lot of Democrat creeps when she was younger. I'm sure they mentally abused her.

It sounds like counseling is needed.

You're not giving the reason for the separation on purpose. You know if other people were aware of the "why we separated" details, most peole would tell you or her to end it.

I'd say go down on her.
Always a good move.

Most of these replies are very good. I had only thought of a small number of things to do.

I have an empty dry erase board. I'm going to write all the good ideas on that board so that we can both read it every day.

Thank you all. Those suggestions should keep us both on our toes.

Yes. We will require counseling. We intend on doing that for sure.

Communicate honestly.

Tell her how you actually feel about things even if you don't quite understand it yourself. And when that's the case explain that you don't entirely know how/why you feel the way you do, but you do.

Encourage her to do the same.

Over time, make small changes which positively effect how she is feeling based on what was shared.

This isn't a quick fix, it's a way of life that you both will appreciate and will bring you closer together.

Honestly both of you should get tested for stds.

Practice this song together and then sing it in front of friends and family.

DO...look into each other's eyes while singing...refrain from laughing

DO...wear clothes similar to Peaches and Herb

DON'T....invite others to sing, this is just for the two of you

So true. I hate to be the harbinger of bad news, but the same old problems are just going to resurface again and again. The only thing that’s changed is your mutual memory of the bad times. People tend to forget how awful it was and only remember the good times.

when you get in the red zone you have to score

Yeah .. especially after she's been with a bunch of bisexual democrats.

OP I was on your cheerleading team until I saw this... I still am but it sounds to me like you are still holding serious animosity toward her and an unwillingness to self reflect your contributions to the problems.

Counseling and prayer will only get you so far. You have a pride issue that needs to be healed too. Stop holding her fears against her and instead work toward healing.

So my advice is react to this situation like Jesus would and you'll see it work. Go back to what you've always done and you'll be here again in a year.

Good luck.

Get a penicillin shot

Enjoy your lifetime of Valtrex and Descovy/Truvada

Balance

Smiles and tears, joys and fears
A delicate balance throughout the years.
Your eyes see the smiles and tears of love.
Your hearts feel the joys and fears of love,
So then should your spirits understand
The wonderful power of loves command.

Companionship is the essence of humankind,
Coupled with loyalty it is love refined.
Marriage is best served with devotion,
Not to each other, but the nature of love.
Learn to trust yourself as a true friend
To the one you will know, love and defend.

Yes may be the answer to many of your questions,
But don't allow influence by mere suggestions.
Seek to know yourself better than anyone else.
This will help you to calibrate the scale
And light the path on which your heart strives
Giving the needed balance for both of your lives.

Stop the cheating, beatings, verbal abuse and she may stick around awhile.

Yeah I am all for reconciliation but chances are she has been with strange most likely fulfilled her slave rape fantasy that was brainwashed into her. If she has then she is addicted to it and will want to do it more. Yes we live in a f;d up world

Thou shalt never allow thyself to be controlled by her smelly baloney flaps.