My new husband’s late father was a 32nd degree Free Mason.

It’s spelled Freemason, lol.

My husband doesn’t know much about the activities his father was involved in..just that he recalls a lot of secrecy surrounding his father. Private things he didn’t divulge to him or his mother. A special chest he was not allowed to touch that contained private things. And as he grew into a teenager, he knew his father was not always honest with his mom as to his where-abouts. There were suspicions Of extra-marital affairs and one time, his parents separated for over a year over a fight they had. He would still see his dad on the weekends, but his parents were separated during that time.
Fast Forward..my husband blamed his parents troubles on the Free Masons. And wants nothing to do with them.

Okay. Sound like a lot of men. Nothing to do with being a Freemason..

They even tried very hard to recruit him when he filled out a questionnaire for joining a MC club. One of the questions was about his heritage in Free Masonry. When they found out his father was a 32nd. Degree, they really pressured him to join. So much so that he decided he didn’t want to join that club after all.

Freemasonry isn’t an MC and doesn’t solicit membership. 2B1 Ask1.


I guess my question is this. Is my husband possibly even myself being watched? Looked after in a sense?

No and no.


Promotions have always come easy to him. He’s a smart man in his field. 30 years as a fire fighter. He’s retired now but teaching fire safety classes in his retirement. Do the Masons look after the children of their deceased high degree members?

Generally, no, unless a widow makes a request to the deceased member’s Lodge for assistance. Any assistance would come voluntarily from individual members and not the Lodge.


Is there anything I need to know as his wife?

Yeah, clear your calendar for Masonic functions and don’t pester him about Freemasonry questions that he won’t answer anyway.


Even his mother, who is still alive, receives phone calls and mail checking in on her? She too wants nothing to do with them and blames her marital problems on them.

So Lodge brothers looking in on a brother’s widow is a bad thing? Sounds like those brothers should spend their time reaching out to someone that appreciates the contact.


How far of an outreach is the arm of the Masons for deceased higher degree members? Is there anything I ought to know?

Looks like you’re looking for some sort of potential financial benefit because of your husband’s membership status (assuming he becomes a member). Guess what - there is none. Freemasonry is about giving and not expecting anything in return.


Thank you for any and all info. And feel free to pm me if you’re a member of course.

32 degree Scottish Rite / Knights Templar since 1990.