Help me help my daughter

That sucks! I don't know what to say.

Calm, calm, calm.

Get her to take a nice warm bath.

Have her turn off her phone.

Let cool heads prevail.

Either way, she’s stuck with him if he’s the daddy so take it easy and carefully.

That may be accurate.


and OP you literally gave no description of the situation.



Don't be drawn into poor drama.

nooo

a physically abusive dude

has no business being in the role of daddy / father

punt the goof

never let him return

one time physical abuse / assault
is one time too many

and it's rarely ever an isolated incident

She's driving home which means she left his immediate companionship.

Are they married? Makes The Huge Difference in how to react.

If he's the father, he must stay in the child's life. He needs to grow quite a bit if he's hitting a woman, and the mother of his child, at that. Whether or not it's "just not done," it needs to be "just not done" forever at this point, for him.

Two-year separation with visits in the meantime. She can't trust him until he can stop hitting any living thing. That's just weak and cowardly and reacting in ignorance, and not good source material for your grandbaby. His education time is now.

But the father needs to know the baby and be in its life. He must grow some and become wholesome. Now. Where was the rubber that night? Jeez. Grow the required pair for the sake of implanted and implemented progeny.

I wish I could tell you something good and positive
but once it starts it never ends until your daughter leaves him and she has to become really scared and angry to leave.If she goes back she will get even more heartbroken and a whole lot more heartbroken if he starts abusing the child.In this circumstances keeping hope alive can be a death sentence.She should leave while she can!

Anyone raising a hand to an 8 months pregnant woman is a violent psychopath. She needs a police report and a restraining order stat, before the kid is born.

kids from 0 - 3+ will have zero memory of any "visits"
the part of the brian that forms and retains memories isn't functional until after age 3


I lost my mum when I was 3
I have zero memories of her
all I have is one photo

I lost step mum when I was 5
I have only the age 4 - 5 memories

the "father" needs to be out completely or in completely

separation with visitations
is extremely disruptive to the mental and emotional development of the child(ren) involved

She WILL go back to him.

Let her make her own path but be there when she needs you.

Also, words are powerful,say what ya gotta say.

Good luck!

This

Getting a restraining order would be a good start. No violence necessary... until violence is necessary. I think Swayze said it better in a movie.

If it's the first time, she's going to cool off and go back. If she wants to do this make her setup some kind of recording device in the home. Setup a phone tracking app that you can see her location with. If you try to stop her it won't work. That's been my experience.

I must not be human then because I have memories from before I was one year old.

Yes.This.

I do not know any one that can tell me anything from before they were 3

not one thing


if you're in the 0.00000000000001% that have "memories"
that's extremely rare

because the normie population does not and cannot form memories before age 2 - 3

I'm a high function autist
and the memories I do have
are as vivid and detailed today as they were when they happened
however absolutely nothing from before age 3

Your only option is to call the police. They will help you.

If you don't call them, your daughter will be back living with that douche in two months.

And then he will start hitting the kid.

She does it because she knows you get something out of it. You can feel like the big hero because you "get upset."

Fuck you and your demand that we don't be negative.

Someone hit your daughter and you're posting on a fucking forum about it.

You're a drama queen and we know you don't actually want our help.

Get off the fucking internet and go file a police report.

And stop talking about baseball bats like you're a big hero.

Pregnant women are at high risk for physical abuse.

I am just glad she is coming to you for safety.

I don't know her bfs past. I know a man who came from a very abused child background and he was crazy when an unplanned pregnancy happened, and his wife had to do the same thing. After the baby came though, and he felt the love and figured out he could handle it, it was never a problem again. He ended up a wonderful father & husband.

It's easy to feel sympathy for women, but sometimes we forget that men might need help handling big life changes too.

Consult an attorney re: custody now before the birth. You may be able to get a free consultation.

If he’s getting violent, he may not want the baby right now and be willing to give up parental rights to keep from paying child support. It would be a good tradeoff if he stays away from them.

It would probably be easier and cleaner to get the paperwork squared away before the baby is born. After the baby comes and he sees how cute it is and how much attention and social approval - and control over her - it would give him, he may decide he wants to play daddy and it will be a lot harder to get rid of him.

I’d also take her to a doctor tomorrow and get her checked out after the incident. Explain what happened so they can document it in her medical files. It may help if she has to fight for custody.

Make him take a DNA test to prove he’s the father if he wants to see the baby. The hassle and expense might make him think twice.

This.

Yes. Often pregnant women are murdered.

Yes. Police report. Let him go to jail.

Yes. Change of heart happens. However, in Domestic Violence it ALWAYS escalates.

Just make him get the “jab”
Lol

If he can't control his anger with the pregnant mother of his child, just wait until he's had to listen to a colicky baby for three straight days and nights. Kick him to the curb. He sounds vaxxed.

So what's the story?

Maybe she's one of the lucky ones that escaped. So many males don't want the baby and then the pregnant mom goes missing. Hopefully he just made a stupid decision and will realize what he did.

So whats the whole story. Is the father the same race as your daughter because groids love to beat their womans when they get fat and cant put out .

I’m sorry I didn’t respond to messages, it was a very long night. Yes we called the police. We are currently at the hospital for bleeding. He’s a very angry young man who lashes out and apparently thought it was ok to do so physically last night. I do believe he is on drugs of some kind. Normal ppl don’t act this way

Leave him off the birth certificate.

If custody comes up, drag it out a few years by insisting on paternity testing five other men first "because they were more likely the actual daddy and she didn't even have sex with him in the right time period."

Will it make things safe and effective?