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I’m need major life advice.

 
kdog82

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01/12/2022 09:54 PM
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So 2 and half years ago, the love of my life for 8 years and I split. I spent the reminder of 2019 and 2020 healing and all of 2020 and 2021 getting my life back on track and focusing on building a good life. I have achieved it with a great job and I’m now enrolled at LSU Online earning my MBA. I fought so hard to get over the extreme damage she caused me and I definitely came out a much better and wholesome person. I am still super sad though, last year I started back to dating and just haven’t found that woman with the spark that gets me. I’m 6’4”, a good looking man, and in extremely good shape. I have been on dates with women in their mid to late 30’s who are damaged or our values just don’t align. What truly makes me sad is that I want to be a Dad and I feel too old and that time has run out for me to become a father. It scares me because I would make a good Dad and I have always wanted to be one, my ex couldn’t have kids due to having her having a historectemy due to health problems. What do I do? I wake up everyday with a massive hole in my heart and it scares me but I press onward.
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Never look for a wife to breed with. I did that in my early 30's because I thought that was what I was suppose to do.

Listen, I married at 22 and it lasted a few years. Was single until I was about 30. Got married to a women because she was fun and I thought she would be good to have kids with. I was 33 when the first child came and it was a blessing. But my wife changed and expected me to change with her.She became a different woman then what she was before we married. I'm talking about camping and music. Camping stopped and her music choices changed. That was ok, but she became overbearing and trying to force me to be friends with her friends, who I hated. We drifted apart, separated a few times until I decided to leave her. I then found the love of my life at 49 on a site similar to this one. Never been happier.

I too went through a period of time when I thought " Is this all there is ? " And thought of just ending it all because I felt like it wasn't worth living anymore.

But then, I found myself again and loved the person I was that was lost. My life changed forever because of that.

First step. get to know yourself. Second step, don't listen to what other people say on how to live your life.

Wish yo luck !
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01/12/2022 09:56 PM
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I wouldn’t want to bring any kids into this F’d up world. Get a dog instead!
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Sad - yet true.
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01/12/2022 09:58 PM
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For what its worth....

I went through the same thing when I was younger.

By the time I reached my early 40s, the drive began to subside.

By 45, it was totally gone, and I no longer felt sorrow and loss from having no children.

I really believe what you are feeling is nothing but chemistry working against your better judgement.

At 59, I thank God every day I never fathered children. This world today is very non conducive for children, and the potential for misery and great sorrow grows stronger and stronger every year for the up coming generations.

I find great peace and tranquility these days embracing the simple pleasures out of life.

Being single offers great financial
Independence. The drama factor simply does not exist in my life.

Wishing you your wish OP, but seriously contemplate my advice. marriage, children, and all other stuff society dictates you be does not always really flow as it seems.

If you outlive the biochemistry that's trying to destroy your life, you'll be rewarded with a life most men later dream about.
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I have seen more marriages fail once they have children. It's really very sad.
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A little pressure and strife will always reveal hairline cracks in a relationship.

The old saying, "know thy self" really applies here.

Those this resonates with, hopefully your mate feels the same..
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01/12/2022 10:06 PM
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Dude U know NOTHING ABOUT WOMEN SO Dont make the mistake of knocking up some skeezer so she can TAKE HALF OF EVERYTHING YOU WILL EVER OWN and run off with the next bad boy.

Start watching Darius as he really will bring u up to speed on modern sluts.

you will realize that what you want is INSANE in todays world

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01/12/2022 10:20 PM
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Maybe we need a GLP dating feature. Wait that's probably a terrible idea :)
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01/12/2022 10:24 PM
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Been in a similar to this.

Depending on someone else for happiness will never do that.

Happiness has to come from within yourself.

I had to figure this out myself.

Have to be okay with being alone. Do things that interest you by yourself.

I know losing that feeling with your EX thinking you'll never get it back.

It will come back if you give it a chance and when your ready.

When you can be by yourself and be happy is when.

Lost my wife suddenly and world crashed.

I learned a lot about myself during that time after. I did find somebody else but only after realizing I had to be okay with myself first.

Hope this helps. Give it time your on the right path.
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So 2 and half years ago, the love of my life for 8 years and I split. I spent the reminder of 2019 and 2020 healing and all of 2020 and 2021 getting my life back on track and focusing on building a good life. I have achieved it with a great job and I’m now enrolled at LSU Online earning my MBA. I fought so hard to get over the extreme damage she caused me and I definitely came out a much better and wholesome person. I am still super sad though, last year I started back to dating and just haven’t found that woman with the spark that gets me. I’m 6’4”, a good looking man, and in extremely good shape. I have been on dates with women in their mid to late 30’s who are damaged or our values just don’t align. What truly makes me sad is that I want to be a Dad and I feel too old and that time has run out for me to become a father. It scares me because I would make a good Dad and I have always wanted to be one, my ex couldn’t have kids due to having her having a historectemy due to health problems. What do I do? I wake up everyday with a massive hole in my heart and it scares me but I press onward.
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Have you met any women @ Church? Just curious.
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01/12/2022 10:27 PM
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Writing to the Point, by William Kerrigan. Read it. Learn it. Live it.
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01/12/2022 10:33 PM
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You didn't say how old you are. A guy can have kids when he is older than woman because of biological clocks in women.

You have your life together. It has been two years, but it may just take longer.

Never make long-term decisions based on panic or fear. Instead, pray. Watch for good women to come along. Read some good books on finding women and how to do it. Don't depend on your looks. Instead, think of yourself as a regular Joe and find a woman based on your needs rather than looking for someone who you think deserves a great-looking guy.

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Thank You, I’m 38
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I graduated college at 36.

It was easily worth it, although people said I was too old.
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That is awesome! It provides me with hope, that I can have a family before I’m too old.
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My boss told me I was washed up at 29.

5 years later my software was running in forty State
agencies and two years later I was worth $500K.

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01/12/2022 10:41 PM
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Get a puppy, girls love puppies
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