I’m on survival mode and don’t know what to do

Hey OP I've just read through all this bs and will stop now and say a prayer for you. This site is called Godlike but many of the replies are heartless. A woman needs a big hug and comforted not punched in the gut.

I was in your shoes years ago and working multiple jobs with 3 children. Their father was a lying cheating idiot and finally accidentally ran over our youngest with his pickup and nearly killed him.

People on this site do not need to know why or how you now find yourself a single mom. That is between you and God and only He knows your struggles. Most women with children do not flippantly end a marriage. They know the hardships to come when they do. For me it took my father sitting me down, telling me to get out and saying even God Himself would want me out of that hell.

First cry out to God. Talk to Him and say you are at your limit and He absolutely has to come to your aid. Trust me He is listening and does care. He cares more than you think He does.

Matthew 6:26 Look at the birds of the air; they do not sow or reap or store away in barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not much more valuable than they.

Next not only tell God your load is too heavy but start telling people you trust that it is too heavy. God can work through others to bless you. When it seems like there is no way possible to lighten the load He can make a way. If you are not a woman of faith it's time to become one. God is a rewarder of faith and He cares deeply about your struggles as a single mother.

Great job on carrying such a heavy weight on your shoulders. Well done keeping food on the table and being a provider. It's not easy to sleep at night when you have such a heavy load to carry. Staying mentally strong to get through each day can be difficult. Keep pushing through and I hope only the very best for you and your children.

Prayers up. Good job Mama.

Teens can work.

I wish we had some more of these replies, this world can be a nasty place. I hope Op will work through the issues and succeed in finding comfort.

God you are such a piece of work.

She isn't focused on thinking of other people. She said she is just trying to survive and she doesn't date.

Reading comprehension 101 BFD.

You are the one who is putting this filter on her.

She is a single mom working two jobs to put food on the table and can't find time for the kids even. When would she have time to date?!

OP whatever you do, don't listen to the men here. Keep your focus on your kids and ask for help from people irl who can make a difference.

Try to find ways to make passive income to free up time for your children.

Also can your teens get jobs? Even if just babysitting maybe they can start paying for some of their own extra things they want.

Apparently he didn't beat you hard enough.

True, but men need to steer clear by default.
No single mothers.
Not even once.
United social pressure will solve these societal problems.
Let them be stunning and brave, strong and independent, because they don't need no man.
Turn your attention to the women that want men, younger childless ones lol.
If you can afford to buy new, why buy used?

Keep going, find ways to save money, cheaper foods etc…put some away. Things will likely get worse till Biden is removed. Even when he is replaced it will take time to Make America Great Again.

What Biden is doing has hurt not just Americans but the world. When America is sinking so does the world economies.

Find churches that provide health care, team up with others in similar situations.

Two single moms can share the load easier than one.

Pray and be patient and smart about every decision.

If you can move away from big cites, life is easier.

Prayer for you op and or anyone in that situation!

Did that for 20 years OP. Low rent means low paying jobs. Helpful people try to exploit. State help is linked with medical compliance. It doesn't get better until the kids are old enough to help out. Keep praying.

uhhh, no. She's probably a solid 5.

The geek software guy making $$ who plays video games in his off time should be who you toss that 8 on from here on out.

Last Edited by Xeven on 10/14/2022 09:15 AM

Bullshit. In the city she can get into public housing and loose the car entirely by using metro and uber.

Country is for the F100 pickup crowd

I've lived many years in both. City is much easier if you are not a numb nuts

“Numb nuts” did you read the Op?

There are c more jobs in the city too.

Kalya (OP), lots of losers here posting that you need a man, or that somehow fixing your sexuality will fix your problems. That's a crapshoot. Most men expect women to do all the housework, and split all the bills, and hold a job. Some of my female friends are happy in their marriages, but most not. The better answer is finding a higher paying job, welfare, or moving somewhere where the cost of living is lower and find some remote work (like customer service hotlines). If you can, you might try to buy an acre of unrestricted land and an RV/motorhome, then you will not have any more rent to pay, just a couple hundred dollars in property tax every year.

Why ?
Isn't that a lot of information to be sharing on a tough forum like this?


Yeah, I'd share.

I didn't catch what state you are in OP, but in many states like here in Missouri there are Amish/Mennonite stores that have great bargains on bulk foods. We're going to one today looking for Chicken, at Costco their boneless breasts are like 30.00 a bag now.

If you're ever in western Washington State I'll give you $75 for a blowjob regardless of your looks or weight. Hope that makes you feel better that I'm not judgmental.

Where is daddy?

I'm going to do this until 11am. Boil some eggs.

Probably somebody trying to sell something.

What makes you think she was married or a man asked her to try to get pregnant with him?

Sounds to me like the teenagers are not pulling their weight. They should be earning something and doing a lot of the household chores.

Whatever you do, Just don't resort to prostituion. You don't want have to deal with your current troubles and the cost of STD medication.

I was lucky when I got divorced. The wife took a baseball bat to me. Knocked me out with a blow to the head for maybe half a minute while she continued to hit me. That was sufficient cause to get her out of the house, to get everything during the divorce, including 3 children.

I was single father for 14 years. I didn't even pursue a new relationship. I was committed and dedicated to raising my kids. It was of course a lot of work. But I was lucky again because I had a very good paying job. But, it almost didn't turn out this way.

My ex was setting me up for trouble. I knew something wasn't right when I came home from work that evening. So I set up a video camera on a bookshelf. It recorded the entire incident. Apparently she was trying to get me to hit her. But I didn't touch, wouldn't touch her. So she started hitting me with a baseball bat. I didn't even fight back. I just let it happen.

The future she tried to set me up for happened to her instead. The kids called the cops when this started. The cops showed up and before I could say a word, they slammed me to the ground, cuffed me, tossed me into the squad car, then they went back into the house to talk the the wife. A few minutes later one cop came to ask me about the video recorder on the bookshelf with the flashing red light. I told them to pop the tape out and play it on the VCR. After about 10 minutes my ex came running out of the house, got in her car, and sped away. A minute later the cops came running out. 2 got in their squad and went after her. The other came to let me out of the squad car, uncuffled me, and then apologized.

They caught her at a red light a few miles away. They took her to jail instead of me. Damn I was lucky. I was so glad I suspected that she had something wicked planned that evening. I was even elated that I had just bought that VHS camera two week prior. My life could have turned out so differently, terribly different.

I wish the best for you. Hang in there. Children eventually grow up and leave the nest.