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My kids, late teens and early 20s are shockingly ungrateful and mean to me. | |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 83598824  United States09/18/2023 10:37 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | |
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| Anonymous Coward (OP) User ID: 83598824 United States09/18/2023 10:49 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Nothing, one is pre med, and the other is still figuring out her major. My husband and I do everything for them. We were both raised poor and struggled and wanted to give them a different life. It just hurts when it’s met with contempt. I don’t know what to do. I wonder if maybe I’ve been some sort of way with them I don’t realize bc of my own upbringing? Bc my oldest daughter especially acts like I’m an awful person. I don’t get it bc I try to be super self aware and patient and understanding. I don’t know if any other parents are experiencing this, it’s just lonely bc I don’t have anyone to talk to about it. |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 73314314 United States09/18/2023 10:49 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Sorry for your heart ache. Kids can do that. If they are adults acting like this, then imo it’s past time for them to move out. Remember too that genetics play a large part in how they will turn out. They try to tell you it is “environmental” or “parental” but it isn’t. If you have birthed a baby shark, it will grow up to be ruthless and bite no matter how nice the aquarium. |
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| Anonymous Coward User ID: 84188633 United States09/18/2023 10:54 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | start charging them rent and assigning chores. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 84188633 they will be gone in no time. little jimmy. you are in charge of taking out the trash. and don’t do it. let it stack up until there is rotten shit and bugs and trash all over the kitchen. maybe it will attract rats and they will start getting hit at night. you want this to happen. — let them do it. they will shape up real quick. also take the internet down. fuck it. no internet. all of it. go hard. it’s the only way these new generations “get it” |
| Anopheles User ID: 84485861 United States09/18/2023 10:54 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | And I know I’m gonna get comments saying it’s my fault and maybe it is. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 83598824 I was raised with a lot of abuse, physical and sexual, and was intent on breaking that cycle and raising them completely different, and I did. They’re the first to not be abused in my family in all the generations I know of. I still gave them rules and taught them to treat people with respect and kindness. They never got in trouble at school and made good grades. And it’s weird bc we got a long good just until recently as they became adults and they just got snappier and meaner to me, and if I tell them it’s not ok to speak to me that way they just don’t care and then ignore me for a week in our own home. It’s usually if they’re fighting with each other, or ask for my advice on some relationship thing and if I tell them things like be nicer, they paint me as a villain who is saying they should take any kind of treatment which is so untrue. It seems they twist things I say into the opposite meaning. I don’t understand it. I just think I would’ve dreamed to have their life and parents that treated them well and gave them anything they needed, and it’s just not there. I’m heartbroken bc I gave my life to them completely. I worried about every feeling and problem they had and supported them always. Put them first. And it feels like they have no empathy for me. God it hurts. Generational demons. You avoided them, but they have infested your children. Just a pest. |
^TrInItY^ Forum Administrator 09/18/2023 10:54 PM  Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Well congratulations, you raised ungrateful little bastards. Surprise surprise. Spare the rod, spoil the child. Few will listen, Of the few who listen, fewer still will understand, Understanding does not mean believe, Of the handful who believe, most may not know what to do, Those who even know, how many will actually do ? And the rare ones who have done it....... Need not listen to you anymore. |
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| Anonymous Coward User ID: 80807448 09/18/2023 11:04 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Nothing, one is pre med, and the other is still figuring out her major. My husband and I do everything for them. We were both raised poor and struggled and wanted to give them a different life. It just hurts when it’s met with contempt. I don’t know what to do. I wonder if maybe I’ve been some sort of way with them I don’t realize bc of my own upbringing? Bc my oldest daughter especially acts like I’m an awful person. I don’t get it bc I try to be super self aware and patient and understanding. I don’t know if any other parents are experiencing this, it’s just lonely bc I don’t have anyone to talk to about it. The longer you let them freeload, the more they will expect it. Stop enabling them, you are hurting them by doing that and they will never willingly stop. You have to be the parent and stop it, otherwise they will freeload until you are dead. |
| Loup Garou User ID: 85236209  Canada09/18/2023 11:09 PM  Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Nothing, one is pre med, and the other is still figuring out her major. My husband and I do everything for them. We were both raised poor and struggled and wanted to give them a different life. It just hurts when it’s met with contempt. I don’t know what to do. I wonder if maybe I’ve been some sort of way with them I don’t realize bc of my own upbringing? Bc my oldest daughter especially acts like I’m an awful person. I don’t get it bc I try to be super self aware and patient and understanding. I don’t know if any other parents are experiencing this, it’s just lonely bc I don’t have anyone to talk to about it. The longer you let them freeload, the more they will expect it. Stop enabling them, you are hurting them by doing that and they will never willingly stop. You have to be the parent and stop it, otherwise they will freeload until you are dead. The TRUTH is such a pesky thing. They must carry their own water, as the old folks said. Just because YOU don’t believe in the Rougarou; or the Loup Garou, don’t make you safe; No ! The Constitution is a blend of 'moral certitude' -- which is one of the reasons that criminals are determined to be rid of it and We the People must be even more determined to defend it. "If there must be trouble, let it be in my day, that my child may have peace." - Thomas Paine The only thing the Illuminati fears is an independent person who can live, eat, sleep, stay warm and defend themselves separate from Federal help. Pray that the Lord gives us more time! The End is near and time is short! A fool takes no pleasure in understanding, but only in expressing his opinion. ~Proverbs 18:2 For those who understand, no explanation is needed. For those who do not understand, no explanation is possible "A candle loses nothing by lighting another candle" - James Keller Checkd, Keked, and Rekt! #Kids2 |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 86315474  Australia09/18/2023 11:12 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 79993781  Albania09/18/2023 11:14 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Nothing, one is pre med, and the other is still figuring out her major. My husband and I do everything for them. We were both raised poor and struggled and wanted to give them a different life. It just hurts when it’s met with contempt. I don’t know what to do. I wonder if maybe I’ve been some sort of way with them I don’t realize bc of my own upbringing? Bc my oldest daughter especially acts like I’m an awful person. I don’t get it bc I try to be super self aware and patient and understanding. I don’t know if any other parents are experiencing this, it’s just lonely bc I don’t have anyone to talk to about it. they say when someone suffers really awful trauma it takes multiple generations for it to go away and that it becomes part of a person's DNA for multiple generations so it's good that you avoided sexually abusing, beating, and being cruel to your children. what you went through still affects them, even they didn't experience it. and maybe they will have kids and be nice to them and they'll be nicer people because that trauma won't be there as much best way to deal with it: keep being nice. being in 20s ages is hard as hell. everyone is supposed to be having the best time ever, there's not much financial stability at that age or independence, and a lot of times people are unhappy in some ways or things are uncertain and there's a constant fear or missing out. at that age it's really hard to be single and if they are single they are likely very aware of it and don't want to talk with you about how it's annoying. just be cool. complement them on all their good qualities. people are usually only mean and rude when they are unhappy or stressed about things. i hate that i can't tell if OP is just a bot posting. |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 71375307 United States09/18/2023 11:14 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | My son turned that way. I can only take so much blame for imperfect single parenting. I've learned just to go my own way and ignore it. I'd give him a kidney and fight to the death for him, but his bullshit, i ain't buyin it no more. |
| oracle1 User ID: 86310369 United States09/18/2023 11:21 PM  Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | |
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| Anonymous Coward (OP) User ID: 83598824 United States09/18/2023 11:26 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Nothing, one is pre med, and the other is still figuring out her major. My husband and I do everything for them. We were both raised poor and struggled and wanted to give them a different life. It just hurts when it’s met with contempt. I don’t know what to do. I wonder if maybe I’ve been some sort of way with them I don’t realize bc of my own upbringing? Bc my oldest daughter especially acts like I’m an awful person. I don’t get it bc I try to be super self aware and patient and understanding. I don’t know if any other parents are experiencing this, it’s just lonely bc I don’t have anyone to talk to about it. they say when someone suffers really awful trauma it takes multiple generations for it to go away and that it becomes part of a person's DNA for multiple generations so it's good that you avoided sexually abusing, beating, and being cruel to your children. what you went through still affects them, even they didn't experience it. and maybe they will have kids and be nice to them and they'll be nicer people because that trauma won't be there as much best way to deal with it: keep being nice. being in 20s ages is hard as hell. everyone is supposed to be having the best time ever, there's not much financial stability at that age or independence, and a lot of times people are unhappy in some ways or things are uncertain and there's a constant fear or missing out. at that age it's really hard to be single and if they are single they are likely very aware of it and don't want to talk with you about how it's annoying. just be cool. complement them on all their good qualities. people are usually only mean and rude when they are unhappy or stressed about things. i hate that i can't tell if OP is just a bot posting. And I realize this and have approached so much with this knowledge. Like I’ve noticed little things like fears they’ve had that I know came from things they’ve never seen or been around. There was a study on mice that showed trauma affected the instincts of mice 3 or 4 generations past the one that experienced it. They’re very hyper vigilant. I was the same way when I was younger before doing a lot of spiritual healing and therapy. And it’s like they focus a lot of that on me. They perceive things as negative or ill intended that aren’t. They put out cigarettes with fire hydrants. My oldest is doing weekly therapy right now to help with self esteem and anxiety issues. I know this stuff doesn’t get fixed in one generation and I have devoted my life and energy to healing and being there for them and creating a safe calm environment bc, I tell you all the other kids raised in my extended family have either been to jail, addicted to drugs, or going thru gender reassignment surgeries…they are way better off than that. And I may come off as thin skinned, but my kids are the only people that I’m really vulnerable and weak with. And I’m not a bot. |
| Anonymous Coward (OP) User ID: 83598824 United States09/18/2023 11:32 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | My son turned that way. I can only take so much blame for imperfect single parenting. I've learned just to go my own way and ignore it. I'd give him a kidney and fight to the death for him, but his bullshit, i ain't buyin it no more. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 71375307 And I started standing up for myself recently and told them I feel bullied, and it has been almost radio silence since. They barely speak to me and my oldest hasn’t spoken to me at all in days right now after I explained something she blew up on me about and asked her to not yell or cuss at me. I sent her a text and no response. Sometimes I think she hates me. But I am going to hold that boundary. I’ll be here for them but I’m not a door mat anymore, |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 76091424 France09/18/2023 11:32 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Nothing, one is pre med, and the other is still figuring out her major. My husband and I do everything for them. We were both raised poor and struggled and wanted to give them a different life. It just hurts when it’s met with contempt. I don’t know what to do. I wonder if maybe I’ve been some sort of way with them I don’t realize bc of my own upbringing? Bc my oldest daughter especially acts like I’m an awful person. I don’t get it bc I try to be super self aware and patient and understanding. I don’t know if any other parents are experiencing this, it’s just lonely bc I don’t have anyone to talk to about it. they say when someone suffers really awful trauma it takes multiple generations for it to go away and that it becomes part of a person's DNA for multiple generations so it's good that you avoided sexually abusing, beating, and being cruel to your children. what you went through still affects them, even they didn't experience it. and maybe they will have kids and be nice to them and they'll be nicer people because that trauma won't be there as much best way to deal with it: keep being nice. being in 20s ages is hard as hell. everyone is supposed to be having the best time ever, there's not much financial stability at that age or independence, and a lot of times people are unhappy in some ways or things are uncertain and there's a constant fear or missing out. at that age it's really hard to be single and if they are single they are likely very aware of it and don't want to talk with you about how it's annoying. just be cool. complement them on all their good qualities. people are usually only mean and rude when they are unhappy or stressed about things. i hate that i can't tell if OP is just a bot posting. And I realize this and have approached so much with this knowledge. Like I’ve noticed little things like fears they’ve had that I know came from things they’ve never seen or been around. There was a study on mice that showed trauma affected the instincts of mice 3 or 4 generations past the one that experienced it. They’re very hyper vigilant. I was the same way when I was younger before doing a lot of spiritual healing and therapy. And it’s like they focus a lot of that on me. They perceive things as negative or ill intended that aren’t. They put out cigarettes with fire hydrants. My oldest is doing weekly therapy right now to help with self esteem and anxiety issues. I know this stuff doesn’t get fixed in one generation and I have devoted my life and energy to healing and being there for them and creating a safe calm environment bc, I tell you all the other kids raised in my extended family have either been to jail, addicted to drugs, or going thru gender reassignment surgeries…they are way better off than that. And I may come off as thin skinned, but my kids are the only people that I’m really vulnerable and weak with. And I’m not a bot. It's natural to want to shelter them but in the long run it will just make it harder for them to deal with reality |
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| Anonymous Coward User ID: 35599705 United States09/18/2023 11:40 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | You ever spank their asses when they needed it? Do you realize there is a very wide gulf between spanking and abuse? You, of all people should know this. Guess you had your fill of all that hippie propaganda shit long ago, now you are paying the price. Spanked my kids when they needed it, enjoying a very tight and loving, close family today because of it!! |
| Sholomar User ID: 86042435 United States09/18/2023 11:43 PM  Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Are they in college? I know a number of parents whose kids went to college and got indoctrinated by liberal dogma and came out spewing the woke victimhood even well before they graduated but certainly afterwards. Suddenly theyre social justice warriors with the chip on their shoulder. It really changed their personality quite a bit. In the end you can't change who they are at this point the best thing to do is just accept them for who they are, love them, but don't coddle them too much and certainly don't give them handouts. Don't reward bad behavior like the rest of society does these days. Last Edited by Sholomar on 09/18/2023 11:46 PM |
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