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| Hanfeitzu Offer Upgrade  User ID: 503964  United States12/29/2008 02:24 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | |
| Reality is BS User ID: 569508 United States12/29/2008 02:27 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | So I talked to an old friend from high school tonight. We talked about the good times... and the not so good. Quoting: HanfeitzuShe was around when I was going through some really hard times with my family... we were very close. As we got older I become somewhat closed off from most people... I guess you could say I stay behind my walls. Time goes on... I marry, have a kid, buy a house, all that. She also marries, moves out of state. Being the anti-social guy I am, she makes all the effort to contact me, not the other way around. We talk a few times a year. Talking to her has a way of breaking me down... I get all emo... start thinking about past mistakes... things that "could have been." I tried to explain to her tonight that just because I don't contact her doesn't mean I don't care... I just suck at relationships. I ended up with this conclusion: She was around before I had a chance to complete my emotional walls. I don't love her romantically... it's just... I care for her deeply. My memories of her exist in a place that nobody has access to anymore. It's all very confusing, and I feel like a tool. Or a complete loon. I don't know why i'm even posting this. I need a shrink. Read the Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle. Then read his book the New Earth. It's a lot less expensive than a quack psychoanalyst. |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 512151  Canada12/29/2008 02:28 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 559929 United States12/29/2008 02:33 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | |
| Reality is BS User ID: 569508 United States12/29/2008 02:34 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 480844 United States12/29/2008 02:37 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | emotions are simply emotions. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 559929you choose how much weight they get. treat them like clouds...enjoy them and watch them roll by. i agree with this above. having had much the same experience, by remaining in touch with someone from my past, reading too much into your talks you may lose the "genuine-ness" of it all. live in the moment.  |
| EvEolution User ID: 551857 United States12/29/2008 02:39 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | emotions are simply emotions. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 559929you choose how much weight they get. treat them like clouds...enjoy them and watch them roll by. AMEN! "To be human is to struggle between instincts of animal savagery and the beckoning of spiritual enlightenment." "I am the destroyer of cockroaches! Muwahahaha!" |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 559929 United States12/29/2008 02:40 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Get really honest with yourself. Usually, and GENERALLY speaking (I'm going to get slammed by fellow-women here) - WOMEN are more prone to being victims of EMOTION. While men are usually steered more by LOGIC, except when they're being steered by LIBIDO. Then everything's out the window. Make sure you understand what it is you're dealing with. Chances are, you're frustrated. Just a thought. Recognize it for what it is and dismiss it. Watch the cloud roll by. |
| Hanfeitzu (OP) User ID: 503964 United States12/29/2008 02:43 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | You are toying with the idea that she could have made you happy Quoting: Reality is BSShe quite possibly could have. However I am not interested in pursuing anything NOW. That's not really the point. My confusion lies in the fact that even though we have little to offer each other these days, she still has a hold on some level of my emotions that nobody else really has access to. Is it JUST the memory of her? Is it because of the formative time in my life that she was around for? I'm not looking for anything from her... I just want to understand why she affects me like she does. Those without swords may still die upon them. No one man can do everything, but each one can do something. |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 559929 United States12/29/2008 02:47 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | It feels good - a part of you wants to explore it. The part that knows it's wrong, evidently is in control, but the other part (probably libido) is fighting your LOGIC with everything it's got. Give up to logic and let this fight go. SHE doesn't have the effect. You ALLOW this to go on within you. She's not even the same person any more and neither are you. You have a fantasy going on in your head. |
| Reality is BS User ID: 569508 United States12/29/2008 02:50 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | you choose to let her affect you this way. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 559929It feels good - a part of you wants to explore it. The part that knows it's wrong, evidently is in control, but the other part (probably libido) is fighting your LOGIC with everything it's got. Give up to logic and let this fight go. SHE doesn't have the effect. You ALLOW this to go on within you. She's not even the same person any more and neither are you. You have a fantasy going on in your head. Yep |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 480844 United States12/29/2008 02:56 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | You are toying with the idea that she could have made you happy Quoting: HanfeitzuShe quite possibly could have. However I am not interested in pursuing anything NOW. That's not really the point. My confusion lies in the fact that even though we have little to offer each other these days, she still has a hold on some level of my emotions that nobody else really has access to. Is it JUST the memory of her? Is it because of the formative time in my life that she was around for? I'm not looking for anything from her... I just want to understand why she affects me like she does. You two obviously are very lucky and share a connection few are lucky in life to ever find, much less to have found so young. Consider yourself blessed you have a wonderful life now and to have had her in your life then. Stop trying to re-write the past and future, for you may miss out on the present. |
| TheLovedOne User ID: 581114  Netherlands12/29/2008 03:14 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | |
| Funney User ID: 78211  Czechia12/29/2008 03:21 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | you know now, what is the most important word in this world :share: you are on the right track to know your soul EVEN MORE continue observing you emotions while with her, if you want intensify this contact, you simply must tune to your souls_desires to see the whole picture of you her and your place as one set |
| Dozan Hertz. User ID: 570106  Australia12/29/2008 03:28 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | This thread has been a real breath of freah air. Human Frailty. For the sub-conscious mind, there is no past, present, future. If you have unresolved issues from that 'difficult' time in your life, these emotions will rise to the surface when triggered. Her hold on you may just be, as a catalyst, for these unresolved emotions. You generally avoid her, but part of you wants to revisit these emotions and she seems like a path in that direction. It may be nothing about her, per se, other than that she was around back then. Thanks for sharing. |
| Hanfeitzu (OP) User ID: 503964 United States12/29/2008 09:03 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Her hold on you may just be, as a catalyst, for these unresolved emotions. You generally avoid her, but part of you wants to revisit these emotions and she seems like a path in that direction. It may be nothing about her, per se, other than that she was around back then. Quoting: Dozan Hertz.That rings true... Thanks for sharing. Quoting: Dozan Hertz.Thanks for not flaming. And thank you all for your input... and for allowing me to do some some self-exploration with you. Those without swords may still die upon them. No one man can do everything, but each one can do something. |
