I was a male last lifetime. It's interesting because the memory of it has helped me understand men better. They are so different sexually and now I'm less inclined to try to make a man be monogamous. I don't think most of them are hardwired for it.

I don't identify with being either male or female deep down. And because of that I have less resistance now to being female. It was an adjustment first and i was an awkward little girl, but sometime in my 20's I really started to feel like I gained access to deep female power.

People who identify with the body too much tend to be the ones who have the "gender bender issues". Once i became more spiritually inclined I let go of that residue of wanting to be male. If you free your ego you won't care what sex you are you'll just want to balance out. You might have to be gay for a while, but sometimes I think gay people are just missing out on what life was offering them.