I am in a similar situation. I got married when I was 25.5, 170 lbs with glasses, a nerd boy. My wife was 20, 170 lbs and I didn't mind that she was a large girl.

Over the last 12 years of marriage, I have weight trained, eat small meals all day long, supplements and now I'm 230 lbs and I even got laser eye surgery. I am 38 now but have been told I look 28 - 30 years old. I even have had many opportunities to have one night stands with very hot women at close to 20 years old. My wife has talked about getting into shape but has done nothing. She doesn't eat consistently or as healthy as I do either. She is now 230 lbs at 5 ft 9 inches.....stretch marks, we can't do alot of sexual positions because she is so fat, her sex drive is almost non existent and I don't even want to see her naked anymore!!!

I want sex almost every day, any place, anytime, anywhere and never predictable and boring. She only want sex in the bedroom, just before bed, lights out and hurry up. I am sexually starved to death and am going crazy. I know if I went back in time, I would of probably married someone else that actually takes care of herself, eats healthy and has an good sexual appetite.

We don't have kids yet, money isn't an issue since we both work full time careers and get 2 days off each week.


What can I do?

Talking hasn't worked with her.......help!!!