Has anyone ever been involved with a BPD female before?

Maybe. But as a woman also, I can honestly say, this isn't me, or any other female I know. Other than a few apeshit moments when I get spurts of energy and jump all over everyone, usually to tickle, I am very stable. I think this has a lot to do with upbringing. I remember going to school with girls who acted like retarded baby dolls because it got them attention... I wonder what happen to them when they grew up?

I hear ya, you're a strong man for not giving in. They get their hooks in you with the sex and that's how they wind up calling the shots and usurping your male authority. It's got to be on YOUR terms when she gets to sleep with you, or you're cooked...

First it's ---

Then --

Then - It's NOT ME!!! It's YOU!!!!!!!!!

Then --

Then ---

Then --

Then - It's NOT ME!!! It's YOU!!!!!!!!!

Then --

Then -- you get it ?


Congratulations AC 1237400, thats the most imaginative and amusing use of GLP emoticons that I've seen in a long time.

I think you're right on this one.

Is that where you found yours?

How do you explain the exact same syndrome in men, then?

If you join a support group, the other folks will let you know right quick if they don't think you're really dealing with a BPD partner.

It's almost as if there's a shredders' manual out there with checklists... so, it's a pretty well-defined personality disorder. I'm tellin' ya, my shrink recognized it in my then-husband before the end of the second visit.

Larry Fine was a homo?
How about Shemp?

Wut?

+100000000000

I was raised with an older sister with BPD she was 15 when I was born and had a great deal of issues. Unfortunately for themselves and the people around them sufferers of BPD are aggressive, paranoid, manipulative and prone to self harm and they have an uncanny knack of making you feel crazy yourself.

Sometimes I wonder if BPD isn't the work of the devil, my sister would have 'fits' where she would blaspheme, self harm, scream in unintelligible languages, deny Christ, roll her eyes into her head so they appeared white, punch through walls and much more. As a toddler she began speaking in African and claiming she was from a tribe. She spoke African better then she did English.

Annoyingly they often know their effect on people but continue to do it anyway or embrace and revel in their manipulative ways. It was especially bad for me as a child from before birth she encouraged my Mum to get an abortion because she wanted to stay the only child and not share attention her truly destructive behavior began when I was born, she began self harming and homosexual relationships, I believe it was attention seeking jealousy.

Growing up I had some special needs and learning difficulties and she would always being to act out when Mum and Dad needed to help me I couldn't count the times I was taken to hospital to say goodbye to her because she was dying and the doctors didn't expect her to last the night after a suicide attempt. It's mostly settled down these days because we are both adults who don't live at home and furthermore I am not close to my parents so she revels in the solitary attention.

Bipolar people are not psychopaths or sociopaths as these 2 are devoid of feeling and bipolars have feelings but cannot manage them. There IS medication to help this disease. What makes it so difficult to treat is that the person has to be willing to admit the diagnosis and then be committed to staying under the care of a psychiatrist as he experiments to get the right medicinal cocktail. Raising a bipolar female is extremely difficult! Blessings to everyone who is related to a bipolar individual.

Yes - sign up for the "Land of Oz" [link to www.ybrt.org]

Brother I know the feeling..My Dr handed me a sheet one day that listed the symptoms of BPD..I was shocked that this is what iw as going through with my mate! The thing that made me sad was some of the forums discussing BPD and what some of these people were being put through..Im onthe way out the door and all I can say is fucking WOW!

Bipolar is to Borderline Personality Disorder as the sniffles are to pneumonia.

Bipolar people swing from depression to mania but BPD people will, for example, accuse you of cheating on them even though it's they who are cheating...

My mother is one. The abuse was unreal. No contact now.

Really, many people who suffer with mental illness could find happier lives with proper medication. Many times all it would take is for them to let someone else help them. The worst part is that everyone round them ends up suffering too.




btw - thanks User ID: 1332978!

When i was separating from my BPD husband back in '96, a mailing list support group was my lifeline!

Before that, i had no idea about guarding your sanity...

The Jew cries out as he strikes you.

Not all of us are fucked in the head. Believe it or not there are women out there who have good hearts and can think for their self

Amen!

In my support group, there were just as many men as women. Although in that group, i began to form the opinion that BPD women are more dangerous than BPD men.

A BPD man will hit you with an open hand or twist your fingers or wrist, or some such... but, a BPD woman will pick up a weapon like a lamp or an ashtray or a gun.

Though, a male or female BPD will shoot you and then shoot themselves because they feel badly for what they did.

Psychopaths have feelings, just THEIR feelings, they aren't concerned with your feelings. If you cut away all the fluff, there is little to no difference between the two and you will find that more and more psychopaths are being diagnosed as bipolar, for reasons related to profiting from an untreatable disorder.

A comment from a mental health professional "I would rather be in a room full of women with BPD than one man with BPD. The level of violence in BPD males is off the charts."

^^^Absolutely agree with this

I get that vibe from you.

If you suspect your new friend might be borderline. Investigate/read about it. If you come to the conclusion. Don't be stupid and think we can overcome this or lets go to couseling run. You don't know what you're dealing with. The person isn't evil just like a lion isn't evil but if you find yourself in a lions cage get out. A boderline will ruin your life. I am the shell of the man I use to be. You have a very hard time getting your head on right again. It's so unreal and you can never sort it out and make sense of it. Most people don't hook up with a Borderline they know something isn't right. Borerlines hook up with caregivers and away you go. You're trying to fix the unfixable. Each day they chisel a little more from your soul until you are a shell. Then they spit you out. Recover some and they'll take you back and spit you out again. If you've never been entangled with one this probably makes little sense if you have you know what I'm talking about. Run and don't look back. Nobody is strong enough to survive a borderline. I don't care how together and good your life is they will ruin it and the world will never see it. The world will see you as screwed up. You can't even begin to explain what is happening. So when you try you even sound nuts to yourself. I say run and try to heal.

BPD is something unaccountable men come up with to explain why the woman they are/were with went crazy on them. Just ask yourself, does she act that way with other people in her life or just YOU? Maybe you don't communicate or connect well with women, and some women don't mind that too much but some are too sensitive and keep trying to get that emotional connection instead of accepting it will never be there, and they end up going nuts trying to change the man. I had a guy once claim I was BPD but I am not at all. I am a good hearted person who has helped a lot of people in my lifetime, I would never intentionally hurt someone or set out to make their lives hell, but if YOU hurt me, I never forget it and the relationship is usually irreparable. Doesn't mean I haven't tried against all odds to repair it, that has always been how I work, but I learned my lessons now. I am just better off single. I don't understand men and I have never met one who really wanted that deeper connection nor one who was completely honest - a trait which I now demand in men, which is why I am single lol. Can't find it out there. This is not to hate on all men or anything, women are no angels either. I just really think some men have a REAL problem taking responsibility for their part in failed relationships and it's easier for them just to label women with these labels. I believe sociopaths exist in both genders are easy enough to spot. You know when someone doesn't truly care about your pain. I never stick around once I realize that, and you can realize it pretty quickly, but I suppose some people are gluttons for punishment and stay with someone who really only feels for themselves.

You guys make me sick.. possessed? it is because of stupid comments and criticisms like the ones above that give borderline personality disorder the stigma it does not deserve.

BPD comes from childhood abuse and the constant fear of abandonment. they struggle with emotions and can one minute be full of love and joy and the next full of anger. on the inside, they are actually very warm, caring individuals but don't feel that they qualify for the love or appreciation an intimate relationship can give.

instead of advising people to run as fast as they can, maybe we can actually try and increase awareness of the truth of the condition. dialectic behavioural therapy has been shown to very effectively combat the disorder and many individuals actually do recover. it is easier to treat BPD than better known conditions like bipolar.

You guys make me sick.. possessed? it is because of stupid comments and criticisms like the ones above that give borderline personality disorder the stigma it does not deserve.

BPD comes from childhood abuse and the constant fear of abandonment. they struggle with emotions and can one minute be full of love and joy and the next full of anger. on the inside, they are actually very warm, caring individuals but don't feel that they qualify for the love or appreciation an intimate relationship can give.

instead of advising people to run as fast as they can, maybe we can actually try and increase awareness of the truth of the condition. dialectic behavioural therapy has been shown to very effectively combat the disorder and many individuals actually do recover. it is easier to treat BPD than better known conditions like bipolar.