I caught my boyfriend of 10 years looking at porn!!

well at least you are not self absorbed op

its easy to spot a self absorbed narcissist harpy , they would never even question if their man is thinking about them when wanking , they simply know he is

so what

Try being a "slut" with him.... what I mean is sexy sells... not "comfort garments"...

Being a bit of a "slut" with him does not make you a slut around everyone...get it?

I don't know why women have a hard time understanding this.... you get all dolled up when your single...looking good, smelling nice... then you meet... then after a few dates, you make a bet that tonight's the night and in preparation, you wear your sexyist of sexy "stuff"...

now we're 10 years later...

I am willing to bet the above hasn't happened in 10 years between you.

And, NO, I am not blaming you...but if you want different results, one must try a different tact.

If you try and it works...great

If you try and it doesn't...AND you're hot... call me, maybe you need some "coaching".

What's the big deal? He's probably been looking at it for way over 10 years. It doesn't bother me in the least.

First of all the term 'grow a pair' is used, meaning you need to grow up n take responsibilty for your actions.
Secondly ive grown up with girls and women within my family, a lot of them. So yes i do understand quite a lot about how you think and react to situations.
Lastly what kind of comment was that last one lol! What are you 10!? Now you might understand when i say GROW UP!
And you cheat on your partners. So not only does it sound like you have the I.Q. of a retarded chimp, but your also a sleezy whore! You should be so proud!

Stay mad. Don't worry, you'll feel better soon.

It there was any love between you, it will soon be gone if he keeps going. He'll think of you more and more as just a slut who exists to satisfy his desires.

If that's what you want, hang on to him.

U mad bro? There are a lot of pussies out there. Yours is not much different.

why some girl get shocked for this


just help him

its a guy

ALL guys look at porno. Repeat: ALL guys.

Guys that look at porno are not automatically pervs.

If you can't handle your guy looking at pics of other naked women, especially ones he's never even likely to meet in his life, and especially after ten years, then you really need to work on your jealousy issues.

At 26 if you are too young to be dealing with these issues, then maybe you are too young to be in a long term relationship and maybe need to try being on your own for a while. I suspect that isn't an option; and that maturity rather than age is the factor here.

If you love him and you know he loves you, then let it go and quit trying to control him. If you don't know he loves you after a decade, you need to pack your bags.

For the record I'm married and I don't give a crap what my husband looks at so long as it's legal.

Your point?

It's not just "naked women" it's the debasement of women in all sorts of filthy ways.

Sicking objects into them, positioning them in degrading poses, making them get down on their knees to do blowjobs, tying them up, handcuffs, sodomizing them, calling them filty names.

Over time he'll become conditioned to want that from you too.

and people wonder why relationships nowadays are fucked LOL

I have no reason to be mad. You havent got a clue!

Its way better to become a lesbian, put on a fake dick then fuck your girlfriend in the ass.

Give me a break. Sex as nothing to do with love. The sooner you accept this, the happiest you will be in your life.

Watching porn and doing porn are two different things.

I have never been with a guy that hid the fact that they watch porn. Occasionally we watch it together, but porn actors tend to get on my nerves. The only time it was ever an issue for me was when I found out that one bf was looking at gay porn, lol. That is problematic.

Question for OP. Was he just looking, or was he jerking off?

I have read through this thread, lots of valid points have been said. I believe the woman who had a the guy watching porn with the young child in his lap was really fucking disgusting. He should be in jail.

All men will look at other women weather they are naked or not. The OP is a little insecure about this. I think it's harmless. If you two are fucking your brains out on a regular basis, then he still desires you, loves you, and loves his relationship with you.

Now if the man in question was one of those guys who sits in front of the computer all day looking at porn and wacking off, then there is a problem in your relationship. A little harmless looking sometimes is okay in my book.

OP. I understand your concerns with this. I had a woman like you before, and been down this road. I was looking at some nude women one night on the PC and she raised a concern with me. We had a little fight over it, and life went on. What you need to understand is that, he will never be with any of those women in the videos or pics. My girlfriend knew I loved her and we had a fantastic sex life. She was insecure like you are that, I desired these women I was looking at and I would lose interest in her. She was wrong, I am sure you are too. Please don't ruin a good thing over something like this. You two have put 10 years into a relationship, and it's not worth ending it over something like this. Others have commented that he has not married you yet. If it aint broke, don't fix it. You can be married without a piece of paper and a ring.

Kiddie Porn?

Gay Porn?

Beastiality?

POOP Porn?

Lesbian Porn?

WTF? Lots of deviant pathways to travel? Which one is it?

Shake his hand, buy him a cigar, and Slap the Shit out of Him?

Did you catch him dick in hand? That happened to me once by my girlfriend at the time. She looked quite shocked at first, then we finished up together. She's my wife now.

My advice is to grow the fuck up and be thankful he is still with such a prude.

Vagina is the only thing men worship because it's the only thing a woman can offer to a man. We just want sex from you, we also have the right to be sexually free.
And if a woman don't give love to his husband, he has the right to look for it in another woman. Women are not opressed anymore, you have the power of the sex, not the men. This opression rethoric is so 60's.

pornography and prostitution upsets a woman because it defies the sexual power she has over man, is a way to free the men.

How much do you weigh? How tall are you?

true dat. pretty much it's all about immature female insecurity and control issues that almost all women fall prey to believing, thinking they must control their beast of burden lest it run off to greener and wetter and more accomodating pastures.

Agreed, what the fuck is it her business what he does with his own DICK?!? Did she ever see him pick his nose and make half this fuss?

Still waiting for an "honest" answer from her on weight and height. I suspect she is either not good in bed, unattractive to him or MOST probable, a control freak and he's just so turned off by her because of it that this is the result.

what many dont understand is the y chromosome process of creating all manner of complex prerequisites, and perpetuating all manner of uncertainty of the whole deal makes an effort free alternative more desireable than all the bollocks and drama and preparation you lot put up in effort to avoid the whole deal in the first place and keep it under your lock and key and only to your specifications. And just maybe, he's not that into you anymore.

in truth there is a significant contingent of women that play 'gotcha' with their men, and rapidly get in touch with their jabba the hutt inner self and let it out.
Respect works both ways, but american law makes the woman the mans de facto owner.
My suspicion is that for any number of reasons the xy makes the whole process overly complex, and the bloke simply wants a toss without risk, effort or complications.
Men can easily compartmentalize getting a quick one, as easily as the birds can compartmentalize their desires for finding someone to pay for 'their' baby.
There is plenty deception to go round, and this is simply pointing finger and creating a row, so as to control the direction of accusation so as not to allow any inbound accusations from the bloke.
In truth, if you cant get along you should find a more compliant partner, not attempt to change or force it to your liking.

sorry, meant the xx often makes the whole intimacy deal a labourious and often thankless process, not the xy.

Maybe the xy should say he thinks her always stuffing a plug all up in there is cheating to his way of thinking, and she should stop it if she loves him.
H'bout that one? Hnmmmm? Anything more than just one, is playing with it, right?

No, not me.. not when I have a gf, not when I'm alone.
But then I don't watch sports, TV or movies or play computer games either.

welllll, you get a cookie!

Kill yourself, your life sucks.