My boyfriend thinks I'm cheating because I want sex all the time..... Help me figure this out please..

Since this is our first argument about this. I mean he really wanted to argue, I seen no reason to argue so I wouldn't argue back. Anyways I want to see how this plays out before I make a rash decision.

We are supposed to be alone tomorrow night with no kids, which rarely happens, maybe we can talk some things out.

If it comes to that I will be sure to let you know :) I hope it doesn't though be a looong road with him and want to keep on going if we can.

I had a bf who I'd have arguments with b/c of my high drive. He'd get upset thinking "I don't satisfy you" because I always wanted more.

What did you do?

Talking is important....actually LISTENING though...is the hard part.

Time will tell ...right?


BTW....if you already have kids with him.....you have to stay put. Lack of sex is not a good enough reason when you already have a family with him.

Eventually I dumped him LOL, but it wasn't just that...but some more important issues. We were basically incompatible, although the fun was fun (but it was never enough LOLOL).

First time I had that issue of mine become an issue lmao, and was always that way not an age thing.

I agree listening is hard. I try to put myself in the other person's place so I can understand what they are feeling.

I hope he can express what is going on with him, the one thing he kept saying over and over last night is that I don't cook for him. He is right about that, I don't like cooking. He stands there and judges how I cook and then complains of how it tastes. So unless I am in the mood for something I will not cook I let him cook.

Anyways, we do have 1 child together she is 3. I have 2 other children from my ex husband. There is one thing you and I have disagreed on, I refuse to stay in a relationship for the sake of the kids. I did that with my ex and it got so bad NO ONE was happy, my oldest was actually getting sick from all the arguing.

LOL!! But noooooooo thanks you!

awww comon mamma lets hit it.

Yeah fun is FUN with us, like you though I have my doubts about everything else. All this talking with people are really making me think honestly about things.... Most people have been so nice and helpful.

Yeah, nice and helpful around here is not the norm LOL. The cheating thing on his part could be, or it could be like with me, he is feeling inadequate...

I'm celibate for now LOL i'm better off this way .... LOL

Since you have revealed a few more pieces of the puzzle....sounds like he takes you for granted.

Cooking for him is important if he works all day and you are home.....but HOPEFULLY you can cook something edible....but that is also no reason for him to jump all over you if it's not up to par. If he had some patience you could improve your cooking skills. Belittling you for everything you cook will just make you not cook....as it has done.

As for the kids...if the house is constant arguments.....yep....time to consider leaving.
You hadn't mentioned that before.
That is NOT HEALTHY for kids to see and they will re-create that behavior when they have families of their own.

Have that talk with him.....but it sounds like it is already time for you to move on.

Last Edited by Useless Cookie Eater on 11/17/2011 10:14 PM

Some men do NOT know when they're well off, do they?

If he keep accusing you of doing so, then perhaps you should consider it???

Or just get another BF and soon. One smart enough to figure you really love him and do not cheat!

I don't think I have ever seen a more honest post!

Thank you for sharing it...If he is feeling the same as you how would you suggest I approach it?

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Since you have revealed a few more pieces of the puzzle....sounds like he takes you for granted.

Cooking for him is important if he works all day and you are home.....but HOPEFULLY you can cook something edible....but that is also no reason for him to jump all over you if it's not up to par. If he had some patience you could improve your cooking skills. Belittling you for everything you cook will just make you not cook....as it has done.

As for the kids...if the house is constant arguments.....yep....time to consider leaving.
You hadn't mentioned that before.
That is NOT HEALTHY for kids to see and they will re-create that behavior when they have families of their own.

Have that talk with him.....but it sounds like it is already time for you to move on.

Ignore that first post when I tried to reply, LOL it got away from me... hahaha

I can cook edible food. LOL I am pretty good at it as well. I tell him he complains more then a woman does. He bitch's about EVERYTHING. Some things I have control over some I don't, the things I have control over I prefer not to do that's one less thing I can hear him bitch about. It's enough to drive a person insane.....

We don't live together for that reason, he asks me to move in with him and I refuse too. I am trying to make it good since we have a child together, now that you say it he is pretty selfish, I rub his back wait on him constantly when he around even though I don't cook I still get up and do stuff for him. WOW! I think the only thing I really enjoy is the sex.. Holy shit, no wonder that's all I want from him. That's the only time he isn't bitching and when I am happy!

OMG! You have really hit something here... The urges are real they started about 6 months ago. What if like the cooking, the urges go away too because of his bitching?... What then? Then I have waste my prime on a man that could care less about it.

He and I are going to have to talk tonight. Thanks so much for helping! I hope it's not to late. Maybe it can be fixed still.

No Mark I don't think they do. I can say thew same thing for women though. To many women have screwed over good men.

If I can't get him to see the light then your right I do need a new one :)

I only get some on weekends but sometimes its the second weekend before I get any. Believe me, there is a Whole lot more to life than just have sex all the time and I am 37 too and got kids.
Your bf may have a sressful job or something going on in his life that may not want it. Try to be a little more sensitive towards his feelings...and that he may feel pressured all the time in different directions...know this cuz I was like that in my early 30s but now I care less to have sex. Get yourself a hobby, read, or go back to school. Do you work for a living? If not, try that ...you will definitely find yourself not wanting it as much esp. if the job is demanding. Just hope this helps.

Isn't this one and the same person writing those stupid threads about sex? Does somebody want us to divert from the important stuff going on in this world?? I dunno. It's just weird because all those sex-stories are not really believable and are made to make us think about it and discuss about this BS. They are all rather out-of-the-norm have you noticed? So we get hung up on it.

I do work but a hobby would be great! Aside from work and kids your right I don't really do anything for myself. Great suggestion!

No I am not the same person if you look you will see this is my first post about this.... Read the whole thread you will see this has been a very mature conversation.

Because Women are filthy, deceiving, selfish, shallow emotion, self serving, materialistic, game playing sluts... EVERY single one of them... That's why he's suspicious... You really are clueless aren't you?

Do you really wanna know what that means

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It's not bad dating a girl with a high sex drive. I like it. Sometimes it can get annoying if the sex becomes a chore, like if it's not good. If you're not good then maybe he'd just rather masturbate. Also, if that's all you have to offer then that's a bit of a nuisance after a while. Maybe your ex senses that your deficient in something and using sex as a tool of avoidance, and maybe he just doesn't want to be a part of that. It could be that he needs some kind of emotional connection, too. Just speaking from experience...

It may be that he has a fetish of some kind, something he may be reluctant to broach with you because it may be something you find "weird" or even repugnant. Maybe he is wanking off to fetish porn and that is why he deletes his browser history and is "depleted" when it comes to keeping up with your enhanced libido. He may be reluctant to talk about it for fear of turning you off for good and losing you. Maybe get him a little liquored up and open the conversation of "taboo turn-on's" by telling one of your own secret dark fantasies. Maybe he would turn out to love to eat food off your feet... maybe he would like you to pretend to gain a lot of weight, see you stuff pillows in your clothes and pretend to be a big fat girl. Maybe he would like you to pretend to be an amputee. People have these wierd turn-on's that they just don't think other people will understand and would be completely grossed out by. They can't really help it, it's like being gay, they are just put together that way and feel they have to hide that side of themselves from the world. Maybe he LOVES you because of who you are and despite you not being his ideal fetish subject wants to be with you and have a life with you. Maybe that is one reason he still has his own place, to compartmentalize his life so he can keep the part of himself he can't reveal separate from the part he loves (you). If you approach this right, him opening up to you could really lead to a new level of trust and understanding and take the relationship to the next level... or kill it dead if you really are repulsed and disgusted. It's a big risk and that probably explains him lying about his browser history, he really likes what he has with you and doesn't want to lose it.

My advice is don't pry too hard, but see if you can get him talking about forbidden fantasies. And remember there may be some things you just don't want or need to know.