If a woman uses her sexuality to snag a man...

Well, if a relationship is based solely on sex then I can't imagine it would be one either partner is committed to.

Last Edited by Luxuria Gula Socordia on 03/13/2012 02:58 AM

She thinks she can change him.

Baloney, I have a lot of female friends and have always preferred the company of women to men but the idea of being anything more than "friends" with them is exclusively about sexuality.

The woman I finally eventually married had been a friend of mine for 6 years and even though there was a lot of sexual chemistry between us I had mistakenly assumed that her sexuality was far to prudish and puritanical for me to be able to enter an exclusive relationship with her and remain sexually gratified so I avoided that sort of entanglement with her and proceeded to put my sexual energy into dalliances with overtly sexual women while remaining "just friends" with my future wife.

Turns out she was my ideal sexual match but just didn't advertise her sexuality.

If she turned off the tap tomorrow I would be devastated and feel as though I had been intentionally deceived.

Marrying a woman and sacrificing your freedom is a trade off because without the sex men and women make terrible roommates for each other,lol

That right there is exactly my point. If a woman ends up turning off the tap once she feels like she has you snagged, then she wasn't honest in the first place. She wouldn't deserve monogamy and shouldn't be surprised to find out she doesn't really have it.

When a man thinks he is marrying a spouse who really does love to have sex, only to find out a few years and kids later that she doesn't, how can he not feel cheated?

There needs to be a contract between two people with a list of 7-10 demands from each partner and it needs to be adhered to to keep the relationship rules from changing and morphing into something neither would have wanted in the first place.

Married 13 years with 2 kids and we spend all of our free time having sex still to this day.

One of the rules on my top 10 list was "No Granny Panties" and true to our contract my wife has never owned a pair during our whole marriage. One of her rules is that when she is upset that she gets to say her piece for a full 10 minutes with my undivided attention before I respond. It used to be me sitting in a chair while she paced around pointing fingers and gesturing over the years it has evolved into her sitting in my lap while I rub the small of her back reassuringly.

Without a clear understanding or rules of engagement relationships change from what you and she intended into whatever your circumstances dictate and that is where this gets messed up.

Well said.